| Week of August 7, 2002 |
| Dear In Need, I think you should begin doing more things together, like taking music lessons, maybe a swing-dancing class, going running, or taking up some other interests that you have. I'm sure that you could come up with some great ideas on things that you could do together. Maybe even go to another city and take your own personalized tour, just the two of you. Experiencing new things together (the key being together) will help spark some new excitement in your relationship, not to mention give you something to talk about. I think it is great that you two haven't given up on each other. You should have separate lives, but you should be sharing the things that are important in both of your lives. I wouldn't recommend that you take up a hobby by yourself and then talk about it with him, nor the other way around. You would be growing apart because he wouldn't be included in your life, plus he'll get tired of you being the only one with something to talk about. Another question I have is, why are you two fighting? What is it that is causing tension in your relationship? I think that maybe you ought to examine that as well. If it is always little petty arguments, then I think that solving your problem of having nothing to talk about will help a lot. This is all very common for relationships that last over a year, trust me. I see it all the time with my friends. Also changing your routines will also help spice it up. If you guys always go to the same places, or do the same things, then maybe changing it up a little will help too. Try going paintballing, or ice skating, or if you always go out to eat, try making dinner at home or having a picnic. Instead of renting movies with friends one night, take a walk and go to a drive in after or before. I'm sure you see what I'm trying to tell you, so good luck! Let me know how things work out! *Odessa |
| Odessa, My boyfriend and I have been dating for more than a year and our relationship was really good up until a few months ago. My boyfriend and I were talking about how our relationship went downhill all of a sudden. We have nothing to talk about and when we do it is when we're fighting. He told me that he doesn't want to break up with me and I don't want to break up with him either, but if we don't find something to talk about we will. I was wondering if you had any ideas on how we can fix this relationship. Please help! I love him. -In Need of Help |
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