| November 14, 2002 |
| Go the Distance |
| Hey there friend, Thanks for writing in. First off, it's clear to me that you miss your girlfriend very much. A 13-hour drive is a considerable distance to keep in mind, so this must be pretty tough on both of you. Both of you are still pretty young and still have plenty of opportunities to find someone else, but I would understand if you wanted to take the plunge and go through with the long-distance relationship. If that's the case, then I have several ideas for you to keep the relationship going. The biggie is communication and always keeping in touch. Put that email to good use, but more importantly, make sure you both call regularly too. It really helps to hear her voice and be reminded of why you like her so much. Chat about what you guys used to do together, and also be sure to plan new activities together. If not, there's the danger that you two will run out of things to talk about; it's best to have shared activities whenever possible. I know you're thinking, How am I supposed to do that, when she's miles away? Well, you can designate certain times for each other. Say, Friday nights are when you call each other (even if it's just to say goodnight or something). Go see a certain movie so that the both of you can talk about it later. Make her a cd of songs that remind you of her. Send photos in the mail every now and then. Make sure you don't lose that connection that you have. Here's an idea that is a bit much, but when my guy friend really missed his girl and actually videotaped a tour of his house and a message for her, and then sent her the tape. She loved it. Also, if it gets to the point where you have to see her in person, then arrange to meet halfway. That way, you only have to make a 6.5-hour drive instead of the 13. Since you're not 16 yet, just bring along an older friend or sibling who can drive; maybe they could take along their significant other. If you guys are willing to make this work and put in some sacrifices, then I think you will like the results. Best of luck. Email me if you have more questions, *Odessa |
| yo Odessa, I have a girlfriend, but she lives 13 hours away. I don't have my license yet, and I can't stand not being able to see her face. What should I do? Blake, 15, MA |
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