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| The next "set" of theories all tend to "overlap," so I tend to discuss them at the same time. To understand the basics, you need to know the development of all fetuses starts with an androgynous individual with the potential to be either male or female, but with female being the "default." It is the hormones produced by the mother during gestation that ensures that the chromosomal mix in the child develops into the male or female dictated by the genes. Now, here is where the "theories" diverge. The first simply indicates that if the mother does not secrete adequate hormones to allow the fetus to develop as the chromosomes have dictated, then you might be born with opposite gender characteristics. The second, Gunter Dorner's research, divides gestation into three distinct developments. The first represents the "brain" sex...or gender. What our brain perceives ourselves to be. The second are the physical characteristics of each sex and the genitalia that are associated. The third is our "sexual expression," in other words, whom we desire to mate with. Any modifications during any of these three phases can result in a "mix." That is, a genetic (with "plumbing") male who perceives himself with a female gender and desires to mate with other males would ultimately become homosexual. One with genetic male genitalia and a brain perception of female, but a desire to mate with females would be the typical crossdresser. One with a desire to mate with females, considers himself a male, but has female genitalia might be considered an intersexual person.... Or be misunderstood to be a lesbian. (Confusing right?) The third theory involves endocrine disturbing chemicals such as DDT and its impact on the fetus both before and after birth. The wide spread claim of the last 5-10 years is that chemicals in our environment are creating 4-5 more times the number of "transsexuals" than ever before in history. (For additional information, check out the links at the bottom of this page.) | |||||||
| But clearly, in the "non-fetishistic" crossdresser, lots of effort and research is being done! This is NOT a matter of choice! And if the wife is EVER going to be able to accept this as part of "who he is", she needs to feel comfort with the fact that "you didn't choose to be this way!" That means that YOU have to have all this information at your fingertips, be convicted in your delivery, and literally ask for her understanding that this is a part of you that you didn't "choose." The sexual overtones in the 15-50-age category make this a most difficult concept for her to understand. Your biggest task is to help her understand that this was not a choice you made, but a direction that was dictated before you were ever born...just like a birthmark, right or left handedness, or eye color. You might "want" to change it at times...but it just "isn't" going to happen. It is, in fact, a "birthright!" | |||||||
| NOW, when she asks "why,� instead of sitting there with egg on your face because you cannot answer her, make sure you have the answers! Agreed, they might only be "theory," but is not that what medicine is truly based upon. | |||||||
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