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| DRESSING and DECORUM | |||||||||||||
| CDing and the Public Persona | |||||||||||||
| The other day Sandy and I sat down to bowls of cereal. He had his �standard� size and I my �condiment� size. I finished first, naturally, and with a small dribble of milk in the bottom, I tipped up the bowl, poured the milk into my spoon, and put the spoonful of milk into my mouth. He laughed hysterically and said...�You need to run a behavior and decorum class for CDers! Some of them know need to how to do that.� This opened a whole realm of experiences I have encountered recently. I heard another story about one of our gals who had �borrowed� clothing from the wife, and then returned it to the drawer unwashed. Another was pretending his breast forms were basketballs and �flipping� them back and forth. An article was comparing the �impersonating of a female� to the practice early last century of �black face� performers. And I personally get sick and tired of hearing about �panties.� In the last 20 years, I remember discussing bras once and panties never, with another �girlfriend.� | |||||||||||||
| Before I go any further...please realize, I am NOT including all our sisters in this. Hopefully this pertains to only a few. But I, for one, have a hard time convincing anyone that crossdressing is a �condition� when there are some out there so �over the hill� in behavior as to not be the least bit convincing that they are doing anything but making a mockery of the whole situation. Before I go any further...please realize, I am NOT including all our sisters in this. Hopefully this pertains to only a few. But I, for one, have a hard time convincing anyone that crossdressing is a �condition� when there are some out there so �over the hill� in behavior as to not be the least bit convincing that they are doing anything but making a mockery of the whole situation. | |||||||||||||
| I recently heard a radio program talking about the �tricksters� of history, and yes, even in religion, in fiction, and lore. Without exception, every major culture has its �tricksters� and without exception, all the archetypal mythic trickster figures are male. Even in today�s comics and cartoons, all are male figures. Wylie Coyote, Bugs Bunny, Garfield in fiction, Howard Stern and Dennis Rodman in fact. They turn the world upside down, do what we might want to do but would never consider, and break all the taboos and get away with it. They are rogues, un-socialized and selfish. There are no adult female tricksters. The idea of a female rogue is scary. The first woman that any of us encountered was �Mom.� The concept of a mother as being unreliable or tricky is scary. Where there are occasional occurrences of a female trickster, she is young, and not of motherhood status. The role of �mother� status is considered too societally important to ever have an adult female trickster. Men can amuse and trick, but the primal instinct in us all restricts that role from the female. | |||||||||||||
| I can relate. When I experience a CDer being boisterous, uncouth, not �lady like�, and in fact, being a �trickster�, I am at a loss to defend them as having a �condition� they were born with and an honest desire to experience their femme side. Exaggerated mannerisms and exotic attire make a mockery of the whole concept of �experiencing their femme side.� Please ladies; mind your P�s and Q�s. Remember the ancient societies who revered the woman as the mother figure, much too important to ever become a �trickster� Save your hilarity; ladies of old even covered their mouth to laugh. Any behavior that would draw attention to one-self is considered �uncouth.� Table manners speak volumes about your upbringing and status in society. Overt sexuality, explicit language, and bodily �noises� belong someplace out of sight. True �women� have spent a lifetime learning the behavior that makes them �lady-like.� To experience the �femme� as anything less is to make a mockery of precisely what you want society to accept. You want them to believe that you do have a femme side, that you have a softer, gentler personality you would like to experience, and you are not trying to draw attention to yourself as a trickster or clown. If that is what you are wanting, conduct yourself in such a way as to be �believable.� And that is much more than breast forms, waist cinchers, wigs, and heels. It is the very way your �deportment� shows. It is the action that speaks much, much louder than words!I can relate. When I experience a CDer being boisterous, uncouth, not �lady like�, and in fact, being a �trickster�, I am at a loss to defend them as having a �condition� they were born with and an honest desire to experience their femme side. Exaggerated mannerisms and exotic attire make a mockery of the whole concept of �experiencing their femme side.� Please ladies; mind your P�s and Q�s. Remember the ancient societies who revered the woman as the mother figure, much too important to ever become a �trickster� Save your hilarity; ladies of old even covered their mouth to laugh. Any behavior that would draw attention to one-self is considered �uncouth.� Table manners speak volumes about your upbringing and status in society. Overt sexuality, explicit language, and bodily �noises� belong someplace out of sight. True �women� have spent a lifetime learning the behavior that makes them �lady-like.� To experience the �femme� as anything less is to make a mockery of precisely what you want society to accept. You want them to believe that you do have a femme side, that you have a softer, gentler personality you would like to experience, and you are not trying to draw attention to yourself as a trickster or clown. If that is what you are wanting, conduct yourself in such a way as to be �believable.� And that is much more than breast forms, waist cinchers, wigs, and heels. It is the very way your �deportment� shows. It is the action that speaks much, much louder than words! | |||||||||||||
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