When words and
relationships matter
Words and relationships – that should be
‘rumors and social web’.
Rumors. What a scary word to me. It’s really
an intangible weapon that kills sharp and fast. May be human beings are having
too much time, especially for their mouths. And people really like making up
things about others. That is sad.
Words should be helping and healing others,
but not for hurting. It should be said with care and love in truth, but not
with irresponsibility and lies.
I didn’t believe that words can destroy. But
now I do. It’s doesn’t feel good when seeing one being trapped in a situation
that seems so unfair for this person on many side. Where is trust? Where is
truth?
I do very appreciate her attitude towards the
incident. My opinion was that it would be much better if one can maintain
harmonious relationships with workmates. “Yes, I know that’s very important.
But, I can’t make everyone my friend in reality. That’s something need to be
accepted.” It’s always a great pity that a lot of people can’t see the beauty
inside this person. The biggest problem may be that, in many cases, she doesn’t
like to say things in a way that can be easier to the listeners.
Pride and jealousy always come hand in hand.
In men, it would be called pride; in women, it would be called jealousy. But
they are actually both side of the same coin. Pride in men yields the need of
superiority inside them. The pride often drives the men to justify all the
darkness which poured out from his innermost. He will do whatever things to
defeat the enemy. When the match is against another man, that’s fine. If it’s
against a woman, disastrous. Similarly, jealousy often make women pretend to be
in an unfavorable situation, so that they have to do try their best to strike
back, and to say things that make her sound more superior. Words are always one
of their best weapons. May be they thought think they’re just discussing. But
most of the times they insist too much on their assertions that it soon sounds
like truth to their friends’ ears. And it is a universal understanding that
rumors will turn away from truth as it’s spread further and further. But
unfortunately, a lie will turn into ‘truth’ if it’s repeated for many many
times – as by Hitler.
In the first week of school, one thing that
APA teaches me is that “social-web” is extremely important in music circle. In
the professional diploma seminar Mr. Debski ask us to draw a chart about your
life, in terms of what you’ve did and whom you know, so that you know how to
write a biography. In the first orchestra rehearsal, we were told that Mr. Tang
Mu Hai is coming to conduct us in the next rehearsal. Our conductor told the
principles of 1st and 2nd violin that, “Hey, may be Mr. Tang
will say, ‘did I met you before in Beijing?’ So you got to play well!” So see,
a valid social web plays a big role.
Every story has at least two sides. Everyone,
if not trying to condemn others, will try their best to justify themselves in
any case. It’s quite tiring to be witnessing such ‘interesting’ phenomenon.
Anyway, I don’t think she’s all the way right. I try not to be very into the
event because I don’t think I’m eligible to give too many advices upon it. But
I really want to say something because I want to give help. So I spoke. The
reply was somehow expected, but I’m glad that I’m heard. May be I’m worrying
too much. Yes, everyone will find the way out.