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| Poly Babble |
| Ways to enhance or save your relationship Be honest...even if what your thinking could make the person you love feel angry about how you feel. You would rather be loved for who you are than try to be who someone wants you to be. Be generous...don't hold back your love or kindness in an attempt to protect yourself or the ones you love...if they really love you (all of who you are) they want to know all of who you are and they want that intimacy that is only created when you have shared yourself with them body AND soul. The negative will always stand out and stick in the front of a mind...someone can tell you that your beautiful a dozen times and you tend to forget but let someone tell you your stupid or ugly just once and guess what you will remember...Sometimes it helps to make an effort to remember the positives...you might even be surprised at how many there were. If you must fight invest in a helium tank...it is harder to be angry if you don't sound angy and it's harder to take things to heart that are said out of hurt or frustration if the person yelling at you sounds like a chipmunk. Don't take anyone for granted because those of us who have lost loved ones know all too well that there may not be a tomorrow and you might not get another chance to say I love you. Don't tell other people how they feel, only describe your own feelings. Try not to talk in absolutes...make an effort never to use always and never again.:) It is more beneficial to ask questions than to make statements. When you screw up and YOU WILL...admit it and apologize and mean it. When they screw up and THEY WILL...forgive them and mean it. If you feel the urge to run away from an argument take the person you were arguing with with you and leave the argument at home. Sarcasm during arguments should be avoided as much as possible...humor on occasion when approriate is encouraged. |