Sometimes I look back at the last few years/months/days/hours and put to page that which has come to my mind. So occasionally new "my thoughts" pages will creep up. You can agree or disagree with my views.....feel free to argue me to death if you don't agree with my thoughts [my email can be found on the homepage].
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There are none so ridiculous as those who refuse to follow their dreams because they are afraid to look like a fool.
Puberty brings dramatic changes to our bodies and our minds.
It doesn't matter how many times or in how many ways you tell yourself you will never be like your parents. In someway we all are and we should be grateful for that.
There is a vast difference between reading the words of your beliefs and spewing them back out - and - living your beliefs. One of the hardest things you will ever have to do is take responsibility for your actions and live what you believe.
After working an 8 hour shift coming home shoveling the sidewalk, cooking dinner and cleaning up after--I look at my darling daughters and think--you may not have been asked to be born but now that you are here do you think maybe you could something....lol.
I have had a lot of people excuse their behaviour by telling me what a difficult life they have had. Who hasn't? What did you ever learn when you life was easy? Everyone has their share of good times and bad. It's not leaning on your experiences as a crutch that makes you stronger, it's learning from them and moving on.
As long as you understand where a person is coming from you should be able to deal with them without going down to their level, but if the opportunity is there bring yourself up the their's.
I revisited my past recently. It struck me as odd one thing a cousin said to me about being Catholic. She said "You have to put up with a lot". I wanted to tell her NO, you don't. You don't have to put up with a lot to bring God into your life my dear he's already here.
In the beginnings of spring, just after a spring snow storm, when you can see the green of the daffodils that will bloom soon. The vivid green against the pure white and the sound of snow melting, reminds me the God's fingerprint is everywhere.
I told a friend the other day, if I have done nothing more for more daughters than to inspire them with the knowledge that they can be self sufficent than my job has been done well. When you invite someone to share their life with yours - it should be because you want them there not because you need them there.
If you would like someone to be overcome with desire for you - try honesty; there is no greater turn on than honest feelings being back up by honest actions.
Some people come into our lives for a time - they are there to teach us a lesson or show us something about ourselves or help us, that doesn't mean they are meant to stay there forever. Sometimes we hold on to people so tight that we strangle all that was there to begin with. Some people are not meant to be together and that usually means there is someone out there who is better suited for you and will treat you with the respect you deserve. Love shouldn't be all about fighting and fighting to keep it together. Love should be an easy walk. Not that there are not ups and downs, life gets in the way; but when there are all downs and it's makes you miserable what is the point? You were not born to suffer but instead to celebrate.
If you want someone and they treat you badly and you allow it, then I think you have stop and really think about what it is you do want, then you will able to walk away and grow. Freeing the other person and not making them feel guilty to stay with you for what is obviously your dependence on them.
It is the true defination of insanity - to do the same thing over and over again yet expect of different result.
I think jealousy is more about your own lack of self confidence than anything else. Sure there are some relationships where past history will warrent careful watching; but on the other hand you have made the choice to stay in that relationship so you have made the choice to begin anew. If you are a person who has a strong sense of self then you aren't relying upon the other person for your happiness. When you are not relying on someone else for you to be happy then anyone else you bring into your life adds to it.
When we hurt our first instinct is revenge. It's not that we are bad people it is that we want the person who hurt us to feel like we do. But when we let the angry consume us, we allow that person to continue hurting us.
Love is very resilent. It knows change and pain and sorrow and joy. And yet it continues steady and sure. Like a beacon that calls us all. Love can know uncertainty and distrust and still it will survive given the proper atmosphere to grow in. When we know true love we can revisit it and let it fill us with the joy. It can't be bought, it can't be sold - it just exists. Sometimes it can definately be felt for the wrong person at the wrong time. But your heart will never tell you this person is married or this person the wrong colour, sex or religion. So embrace the love you find where ever you find it, for that is is how love lives on
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