Why Sex?
As humans, people want sex, but the media makes the desire greater. This is not good, because this affects young children as well. Because of this, it becomes a fad to have sex. Teenagers joke about it, brag about it, fantasize about it, etc. It gets me angry, because sex is not meant to be something to raise one's social status or prove one's maturity. People who have non-love or non-committed sex prove their immaturity.
We have the instinct to have sex for one reason: To reproduce. Yet most of the people who have sex are not doing it for children. They most likely don't want children for one or more of the following three reasons:
1.) They don't love their sex partner. If they did, they wouldn't mind having a child with him or her.
2.) They are irresponsible and are still children themselves. How can a child raise a child?
3.) Children are a burden they simply don't want.
Reproduction, not pleasure, is the reason for sex. Pleasure is just a side effect of sex. Most animals do not feel pleasure when they are having sex; they are just doing it to reproduce because that is their instinct. Humans like to think they are beyond instincts, yet they still have sex. They try to say that pleasure is the main reason they engage in sex. If there is a God, I can see why we humans are one of the few animals who were made to experience pleasure during sex: If it weren�t pleasurable, not many humans would do it at all. Humans would only have sex for children, like they are supposed to. But many humans do not want children. This would mean that they wouldn�t have sex. Eventually the species would die out because of humanity�s disregard for future generations. Thus human sex was made pleasurable. Thanks to the pleasure of sex, we have six billion humans over populating the earth. Most people were probably not conceived out of love or care, but selfish desire for pleasure. Disgusting.
You might argue, "What about homosexuals? They have sex, and they don't reproduce." No offense to people who claim to be homosexuals, but I think most of them do not exist. Think of this logically. All animals reproduce. It is their instinct. If animals did not reproduce, their species would die out. So tell me, what is the purpose of having an organism which does not have the ability or willingness to reproduce? There is no purpose for such a creature. Homosexuals are freaks of nature that were not meant to be. I think most homosexuals are lying about their homosexuality; they just say they are homosexual to be different while conforming into yet another category. Yet they still desire the pleasure of sex. And this pleasure comes from the instinct to reproduce.
Many people think that pleasure alone is a good enough reason to have sex. Sure it is if you are selfish and stupid. Sex is harmful to yourself, your partner, the possible baby, and the world. It is harmful to yourself and your partner because there is the risk of sexually transmitted diseases. Why rush into sex if it means risking your health or the health of your partner?
If you are a woman, then sex for the first time will most likely be a painful experience. Why undergo pain in order to experience pleasure? That�s like shooting yourself in the stomach for the promise of bliss afterwards. In addition to the pain felt when the woman�s hymen breaks, she will also feel pain when she delivers her baby. She might not have wanted a baby when she had sex; she might have decided against abortion or giving it up for adoption. Regardless, if the baby is delivered, it will most likely be painful. Why would a woman want to experience these pains if she wasn�t doing it for something wonderful that would cancel out that pain? If she really wants a baby, then the pleasure of raising a child is worthwhile to go through pain to achieve. However, if she only has sex for the pleasure of sex itself, then that is stupid. The pleasure of sex is temporary; the pleasure of raising a child lasts a lifetime. The pain of losing virginity is temporary, but the pain of pregnancy is longer; the pain of abortion, adoption, or living with an annoying child she did not want is more pain to add to the list. It is probably only because of pressure from peers, society, or her boyfriend that a woman has sex at all. Women who cave in to peer pressure are weak-minded and immature; they have no business raising a child, so they have no business having sex either.
If you are a man, it is true you don�t have to worry about the pains of being a woman. Although, I would hope that a man would care enough about his partner, the possible child, and the world to stop and think about what he is doing before he jumps in the sack with a woman. If a man does not care, then obviously he is not mature enough to engage in sex.
Most people think it is an especially big deal to have sex for the first time�to lose one�s virginity. Many people think they're growing up by having sex. Wrong. If you have sex with a person you don't love and don't want to marry, then you are being immature. It is plain stupid to have sex with a person you barely know and will probably break up with in a few weeks or months. Plus, there are consequences. When you are toying with your life and the life of others, sex is not worth it. What is wrong with waiting until you're in a solid relationship�or better yet, married? There's nothing to look forward to if you jump into it so quickly, with someone who means nothing to you. If you don't get a disease or have an illegitimate child, you will certainly look back on your life and feel shame when you think that you had your first time with him or her. If sex is such a big deal, make it a good memory with someone you truly love.
Because of the risks and dangers of sex, it makes sense to not do it unless the benefits outweigh the costs. One shouldn�t have sex unless one is ready to raise a child. And in having a child, one should not have sex with a person one does not love or does not intend to stay with for the rest of one�s life. Too many illegitimate children are born from people who have sex without thinking about what they're doing. They are usually in the relationship for a short period of time, and they don't plan on making a solid commitment to their partner or the potential baby. Remember that sex is for reproduction. Think about the possible baby. If not aborted, that poor child will grow up either in an orphanage, in abandonment, or in the biological family who neither wanted a child nor love it, and thinks of it as just being in the way. If you�re a teenager and you decide to keep the child, you probably wouldn't have time or knowledge to raise it properly. Even if you use protection against pregnancy, there is no 100% guarantee that it will work.
Bringing an unwanted baby into the world not only hurts the baby, but also hurts the world. The earth is already over populated by humans. There is really no need at all for any more human reproduction to occur. People should not have babies unless they have the maturity, knowledge, nurturance, time, and money necessary to raise it in a good environment. A healthy environment for a child also entails having two parents who love each other. Love means to care for another person more than one cares for oneself. Love is not simple infatuation or lust. Love lasts forever. If your feelings of affection die, then what you were feeling was not love. One has to know a person for a long time in order to love him or her. One should love that person before one has sex with him or her. One should love that person before one raises children with him or her. Sex and having babies should be synonymous. Don�t have sex if you don�t want children.
Having sex for pleasure�s sake is selfish because one is not thinking of all the other people that are affected by the choice to have immature sex. Having sex for pleasure�s sake is also stupid because one is not considering the dangers involved, such as sexually transmitted diseases. Like other animals, we humans have the instinct to have sex. But unlike other animals, we have high intelligence. Put that intelligence to good use. Think with your brain instead of your genitals. Prove to me that you are more than a savage beast. Use your strong human will power to refrain from satisfying your sexual desires until you are ready to deal with the consequences. And if you can�t, for the sake of our world, please choose masturbation.
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