BLUE STRENGTHS
AS AN INDIVIDUAL
sees life as a serious endeavor
appreciates beauty and detail
has strong aesthetic sense
stable and dependable (plow horse versus race horse)
sincere and emotionally deep
analytically oriented (concerned with why one behaves as he/she does)
high achiever
deep sense of purpose
AS A COMMUNICATOR
able to enjoy sensitive and deep conversation
strong skills in empathizing with others
remembers feelings and thoughts shared in conversation
willing to give conversations time to run their course
prefers small groups
AS A GOAL SETTER
highly disciplined
receptive to other's suggestions
strong goal orientation
plans well and superb follow through
AS A CAREER PERSON
excellent behind-the-scenes worker
respectful of employer because of employer's position
enjoys detail and schedules
receptive to creative thinking
gives more of self than required or expected
AS A PARENT
encourages academics and/or trade development in children
excellent trainer of skills (i.e., manners, study habits)
very observant
empathic and sensitive
sincere and loyal to children
keeps home clean and cozy
seeks to understand children's behavior
self-sacrificing
excellent in long term commitments
AS A CHILD
proper and behaved
easily disciplined verbally
concerned about being a good family member
sensitive and concerned about other family members
loyal to parents and siblings regardless of relationship
seeks learning opportunities
AS A FRIEND
loyal forever once friendship is established
genuine concern for other persons well-being
remembers special holidays and promotes celebrations
encouraging in times of trouble
willing to commit time to the relationship
AS A COMMITTED COMPANION
priorities the relationship over other activities
considers spouse first in decision-making
responsible for making ongoing contributions to relationship
enjoys sharing intimate feelings with companion
values intimacy and places high priority on it
PERSONALITIES WHO APPEAR TO BE BLUES
Abraham Lincoln Barbara Bush Walt Disney
BLUE NATIONS
United States England Denmark
BLUE LIMITATIONS
AS AN INDIVIDUAL
highly emotional
smug and self-righteous
controlling and/or envious of other's success when too easily obtained
strong perfection and performance orientation
AS A COMMUNICATOR
tends to lecture and overkill issues
feels intense on many issues
rigid with principles and unwilling to negotiate
fears risking self in conversation
argues primarily from emotional perspective
strong expectation for others to be sensitive and deep
expects others to read his or her mind and know his or her feelings
AS A GOAL SETTER
sets unrealistic goals
easily discouraged when unsuccessful in accomplishments
easily frustrated with lack of team cooperation
expects others to understand his or her goals and make them a priority
AS A CAREER PERSON
feels others are not capable of doing things as well as he or she craves security in career
feels inadequate with natural talents and creativity
shys away from public exposure and performance
establishes high and often unrealistic expectations for self and others
tend to over-plan and over-prepare
critical of self and others work
over-extends self
AS A PARENT
blames children for being unappreciative of parenting efforts
can be moody and unpredictable
easily irritated by others mistakes and shortcomings
usually loves others with strings attached
tends to give heavy doses of guilt to children
lacks ability to relax
requires a purpose in order to play
controlling of childrens lifestyle and overprotective
too precise and exact with expectations
feels a clean home is a high priority
accepts quite feelings too easily and readily
not spontaneous with activities
frustrates children with unrealistic expectations
strong sense of right and wrong-badgers child when perceived as wrong
lectures children
AS A CHILD
easily frustrated
feels guilty over minor concerns
moody and emotional (cries instead of facing issues)
feelings are easily hurt
martyr-like and complains about life
self-esteem is dependent on outside influences
has difficulty relaxing and often feels uncomfortable
withholds affection if angered
waits for parent to initiate ideas and then criticizes unacceptable suggestions
AS A FRIEND
highly insecure about others acceptance and approval
feels rejected easily
when depressed or depressive-feels it is friends job to understand
can be revengeful and bitter if crossed or scarred emotionally
critical of friends principles or activities if not similar
expects friends to maintain strong loyalty
wishes friends would communicate more often
rarely playful and spontaneous
AS A COMMITTED COMPANION
blames others for his or her unhappiness ("if only you were more...")
demands affection and intimacy
demands time and attention or partner
highly manipulative in seeking support or understanding
suspicious of other's motives (distrustful)
unforgiving of past misunderstandings and wrong doings
clings to companion too much
withholds feelings when frightened he or she may be rejected
HOW TO DEVELOP A POSITIVE RELATIONSHIP WITH BLUES
DO
Emphasize their security in the relationship
Be sensitive and soft spoken in your approach
Be sincere and genuine
Behave appropriately and well-mannered
Limit their risk level
Promote their creativity
Appreciate them
Allow ample time for them to gather their thoughts before expressing themselves
Be loyal
Do thorough analysis before making presentations
DON'T
Make them feel guilty
Be rude or abrupt
Promote too much change
Expect spontaneity
Abandon them
Expect them to bounce back easily or quickly from depression
Demand perfection (they already expect too much from themselves)
Push them too quickly into making decisions
Expect them to forgive quickly when crossed
Demand immediate action
CAREERS MOST LIKELY TO ATTRACT BLUES
Note: Blues are most capable of adapting in the career world.
Teacher Banker Nurse
Homemaker Clergy/Minister Engineer
Psychotherapist Accountant Librarian
Computer Programmer Politician Journalist
Musician Architect Carpenter
Lab Technician Massage Medical Assistant
Medical Coder Biller Medical Office Nursing Assistant
Pharmacy Assistant Phlebotomy IV Radiologist Ltd
Rehabilitation Internet Programming Internet Specialist
System Analyst Visual C++ Programmer Cisco Routers
Hardware Tech Networking Administrator Network Engineer
Telecommunication Web Designer Database Manager
Desktop Publisher