Pa 'n Goeie Pa? ______
Deur L.W. Olwagen
IN 'n klein
dorpie het eenmaal die volgende brief in die
plaaslike koerant verskyn:
In hierdie uitgawe sal julle lees van 'n
winkelroof wat plaasgevind het. Julle sal ook die
name lees van die rowers wat i.v.m. die roof in
hegtenis geneem is. Een van die name sal die naam
wees van my seun. Ek wil een ding net baie
duidelik maak. Hierdie seun van my is nie 'n
slegte kind nie. Dit is nie sy skuld dat hy in
hierdie gemors beland het nie. Dit is my skuld.
Ek is 'n slegte pa!
Hierdie brief het my laat wonder. Ek is 'n pa en
ek beskou myself nie as 'n goeie pa nie. Ek dink
trouens dat daar min mense is wat hulself hierdie
titel sal aanmatig. Dit het my verder laat wonder.
Wat is 'n goeie pa? Of anders gestel - wat maak
'n pa 'n goeie pa?
My pa was 'n goeie pa.
'n Predikant het eenmaal tydens 'n preek oor
vriendskap gepreek en gevra dat ons 'n lys moet
maak van ons vyf beste vriende. NŠ die diens het
my vrou my gevra wie my beste vriend is. My
antwoord was - my pa.
My pa het altyd gehelp en probeer help. Selfs
wanneer hy geweet het dit sou vir hom tekort doen.
Hy was ook, tot hy siek geword het voor sy dood,
die een wat aangedring het om te help met my
My pa het altyd verstaan. Ek onthou toe ek elf
jaar gelede alleen 'n sielestryd gevoer het op my
knieŽ in my studeerkamer, nadat ek gediagnoseer
is met meervoudige sklerose, het my telefoon kort
voor middernag gelui. Dit was my pa. "Sukkel
jy ook?" het hy gevra en bygevoeg: "Ek
het nogal antwoorde gekry in die eerste hoofstuk
van 'n boekie met die naam Begrip." Die
betrokke hoofstuk was Begrip vir God se Wil deur
L.W. Olwagen. Dit was tipies van my pa om my te
verwys na 'n stuk wat deur myself geskryf is. Hy
het jou altyd gehelp sodat dit voel of jy jouself
My pa het selfs verstaan as ons foute gemaak het.
Hy is selfs daarvan beskuldig dat hy blind is vir
sy kinders se foute. Maar dit is nie waar nie. Ek
dink hy het maar net geweet hoe om te vergewe. Ek
dink hy was maar net in staat om lief te hÍ op
God se manier.
Dit bring my by die antwoord op die vraag, wat is
'n goeie pa? 'n Student het eenmaal vir sy
professor van sy nuwe meisie vertel. "Sy is
baie mooi," het hy gespog. Die professor het
'n groot 0 op die papier voor hom gemaak.
Verbouereerd het die student bygevoeg: "Sy
is baie slim." Die professor het nog 'n 0
gemaak. "Sy is ook 'n Christen," het
die student vinnig gesÍ. Die professor het 'n 1
voor die twee 0'e gemaak en geglimlag: "Sy
is 100 persent!"
Dit help 'n pa om 'n goeie pa te wees. Want as 'n
Christen ontvang jy die Heilige Gees (Romeine 8:9)
en "Almal wat hulle deur die Gees van God
laat lei, is kinders van God" (Romeine 8:14).
'n Goeie pa kan "Onse Vader" bid, saam
met al die ander kinders van God. Soos my pa!
Ron Hutchcraft Ministries
Father is Misssing
from the Word of God comes from Luke 15. This is the familiar
story of the prodigal son, who got his inheritance early from
his father, went to a far country and spent it all, and ended
up feeding pigs, and trying to eat with them. Verse
17 says, "When he came to his senses, he said,
'How many of my father's hired men have food to spare, and
here I am starving to death. I will set out and go back to my
father, and say to him, Father I have sinned against heaven
and against you. I am no longer worthy to be called your son.
Make me like one of your hired men.' So he got up and went to
By Ron Hutchcraft
spotlight in society has fallen on women who choose to have a
child, but not a husband. On one hand, the media has been
telling the conservative voices to not bother single mothers.
On the other hand, you see more and more articles about what
happens when there is no father. One of the leading health
officers in the United States has said, "The greatest
issue facing us is fatherlessness." Isn't that
surprising? Time magazine commented on women who choose
the fatherless family: "They are bringing a child into
the world with a hole at the center of his life where a father
should be." I'm Ron Hutchcraft, and I'd like to have A
Word With You about my father is missing.
This is the story of a searching man whose real problem
was that he was away from his father. Maybe that's a picture
of you right now. In the story, God is the father, and God has
told us He wants us to know Him as Heavenly Father. You say,
"Well, if he is like the father I had, I'm not too
interested." Well, remember this. God is not like the
father you had on earth. He is like the father we all wish we
had, and what you are feeling down deep in your soul is father
lonely. We have a hole that we are waiting for a father to
occupy. How do we lose Him, and how do we find Him? Look at
the verbs in Luke 15. It says that the young man "set off
for a distant country." The Bible says we have all done
that. It says, "We have all sinned and fallen short of
God's glorious ideal," and wandered away like sheep.
away from God by our own choosing. The next verb says,
"He squandered his wealth." All your years away from
God are squandered years. They are wasted years until you know
the relationship with a father that you were made for. The
next verb says, "He spent everything." You
can do that so easily. We spend, in search of the missing part
of us. We spend our self-respect, our relationships, our
virginity, our reputation, and our future. We can not find
ourselves in achievements, relationships, or pleasure. We
spend everything, and then it says, "he longed to fill
his stomach." Maybe you feel an awful emptiness inside
that nothing has been able to fill.
read, "He came to his senses." Maybe that is where
God is bringing you right now. It is hard to live without God.
It is hell to die without Him. It says that the son went up to
his father. There is only one way you can get to the father
you were made by and were made for. In John
14:6, Jesus says, "I am the way, the truth and the
life. No man comes to the except through me." What
would happen if you came to Him today? It says that
"while the boy was a long way off, his father saw him,
was filled with compassion for him, and ran to his son, threw
his arms around him and kissed him." That is the welcome
you could get from God today. He runs to you with His arms
open wide. Why don't you run to Him and be born into His
family today? No longer will you have that hole in the center
of your life where a father should be. No earth father could
ever fill that hole anyway. It was made for your heavenly
Father. Come to Him and you will never be father lonely again.
belong to God today on if you will tell Him with all your
Iíve been running my own life, but I resign as of today. I
was made by You... I was made for you, but Iíve been living
for me. Iím sorry for that self-rule You call sin. But I
believe Your Son Jesus Christ paid my death penalty when He
died on the cross. And right now I am turning from a life of
"my way" and I am putting all my trust in Jesus
Christ to erase my sin from Your book, to give me a
relationship with You, and to get me to heaven. Lord, from
today on, Iím Yours.
you're not sure you belong to Jesus, and you would like
to make sure today, Ron would like to send to you a free
copy of the booklet, "Yours for Life: How to
Have Life's Most Important Relationship." To
view the online version, click
here. OR, to request your free copy of "Yours
for Life," order
Watkins on Family Life
James N. Watkins
fifteen-year old son frightens me! It's not that Paul has
discovered hormones, has a driver's permit or that he and I
now see eyeball-to-eyeball. It's that we see
we were riding along in the car with the stereo blasting the
"oldies station," singing "Stop in the Name of
Love" at the top of our lungs and "head
dancing" (you know, jutting your chin in and out to the
beat). Then a frightening revelation!
enjoying the same radio station, the same music,
doing the same head dancing thing, wearing the same
outfit (jeans, T-shirt, and over-priced sneakers) and --
here's where it gets really scary -- wearing the same
hairstyle (Marine-issued buzz cut)!
afraid to admit this. Even now, a covert government agency in
charge of paranormal behavior is probably surrounding our home
to take us by force to analyze this anthropological
the dawn of time adults ("The Establishment") and
teens (the rebels without a cause) have argued over length of
hair, fashion statements, and style of music. I had long hair;
my dad had the buzz cut. My dad hated rock and roll; I hated
Lawrence Welk. My dad thought paisley shirts looked like
something the dog coughed up; I thought white socks were for
the way an orderly universe is supposed to operate. Anything
adults hold near and dear is to be rejected by the next
generation. It's been that way since God told his first two
kids, "Whatever you two do, don't eat from that
tree!" and immediately Adam and Eve ran off squealing,
"Hey, check out that tree!"
yet, in some kind of cultural convergence, my son and I are in
same seems to be occurring with my college-age daughter. When
Faith is home from Indiana Wesleyan, she actually enjoys
hanging out with me and talking about her dating life. We own
many of the same CD's and she has most of my sweaters
in her closet. (I should point out, I don't wear any of her
clothes!) More important than sharing clothes, we share
the same faith and the same moral values.
does one explain these "Unsolved Mysteries"? Was it
Lois and I trying to live out our faith and values in front of
our kids? Was it taking time to listen to Faith and Paul's
ideas (sometimes pretty wild) and music (even wilder)? Was it
fervent prayer that they would stay off TV talk shows and post
office bulletin boards? Was it the grace of God, who learned
about the pitfalls of parenting from His first two kids? Or
was it simply that I've always been an overgrown kid? I think
I'll check "all of the above."
still a mystery! And, while I can't explain it, I'm certainly
planning to celebrate it this Father's Day.
up that music!"
1998 James N. Watkins