Surest sign of falling in love ?

So what's the surest sign of two person falling in love ?Let's find out..

If a couple passes the tetsts of flirtation and small talk, the next step may be love, even though neither may admit or even realize they have fallen in Love at the time. One tell tale sign is that couples begin to mimic each other's body movements. And when couples begin smiling and singing in unison, Love has arrived.

Improtant fact about love

When a person is in love, the brain apparently releases a chemical substance called "Phenylethylamine" which acts like the prescription drug "Amphetamine" to increase mental alertness and Physical energy.

If the feelings of love are dashed, the brain and body are faced with a sudden loss of

The Chemistry of Love

Scientist believe that everyone has a vague image of his or her lover, like a jigsaw puzzle in the mind. We all have a base level of some minimum number of pieces that initiate an emotional response. If they are fulfilled, then the emotional reaction of feelings in love occurs, since our brain is programmed to release certain chemicals that make us feel the emotion.
 

When a person crosses the base lelvel, or thershold, for you, a chemical response takes place in the brain, making you feel that passionate, very intense form of love. This response may fade away with time, affecting the relationship. But, if another biochemical change occurs, one that releases another biochemical change occurs, one that releases another subsstance, which maintains a baseline plateau, then the relationship endures, maintained by what is called compassionate love.

The biochecmical process is universal, and all of us are programmed to feel like this. So, each time you come across a person and feel intense passion, you need to wait for some time before you jump into commitment, and then if in a few weeks you still feel the emotion in a sustained way, only then get into the relationship. You need to test the kind of biochemical response that your body is giving for someone -is it the passionate or compassionate form of love? Is it a short-term or a long-term feeling, that develoops in you? So, those of you who feel thet fall in love with every other person in their lives, well, you are normal, but wait for the one who will make be able to maintain this emotional response of yours.

Is this Love I am feeling ?

Robert Stensberg, an American Psychologist, is one of the few people who have come to conclusion on love- that it has three components, Passion, Intimacy and commitment. These are three sides of the triangle of love, and so the best kind of love is an equilateral triangle where we feel all these three components are expressed with almost the same intensity.

The first stage of a relationship tends to be marked a lot by 'chemistry' or 'passion'- the first reason you and someone else get attracated, While passion to fade over time, the successful bonds maintain a good amount of it .

The Second stage of a reelationship is generally marked by growing intimacy. Once we decide that we are interested in someone, we begin to confide in him/her, want to share all our secrets, dreams, ambitions. likes and dislikes with him/ her. The longer you maintain a high level of intimacy, the longer you maintain a high level of intimacy, the longer the reelationship.

The third stage---which may overlap with the other two--is of commitment, At some point of time---- a month, a year, whatever -we develop a sense of commitment to our partner. We value the relationship enough to do whatever we can to maintain it, see it through the dows that come with that come with any relationship.

The happiest couples are those, says Strenberg, who have similar lobe triangles for each other. This he calls conguency---which all of you having had to go through geometry would know about ! So if you have a strong passion for your boy or girl friend but are low on intimacy, you are likely to have problems if he or she is highest on intimacy and lowest on passion.

How do I love you ?

Strenberg says that there are eight ways.

Non-love : None of the three components of love are present in this type of relationship. This is what we have with the most people we interact with but don't we have with the most people we interact with but don't feel their passion, intimacy or commitment for.

If this describes your feelings for whoever you are in 'love' with, you're ready for tumble.

Liking : This is the feeling you have when passion and commitment are weak or absent but intimacy is high. the describes our feelings for our close friends.

Infatuation : Infatuation can be developed into a higher ground. Infatuation is when passion is high, but intimacy and commitment are low.

Empty love : This exists when commitment is high but passion and intimacy are low or absent. This is found where couples stick together for the sake of something, and want to maintain their relationship even though they share neither their minds nor their bodies.

Romantic love : Romantic love is most common in new relationships. their passion and intimacy are high, but they have not been together long enough or shared enough experiences to develop a strong sense of commitment to each other.

Compassionate love : Intimacy and commitment are strong in this type of love but passion is low. It is most often found in couples who have been together for some time and are happy with each other but their sexual attraction was waned.

Fatuous love : Passion and commitment are high, but intimacy is low. These are couples that experience an overpowering chemistry even though they don't know each other that well. Sometimes they develop an intimacy after they have made a commitment. Sometimes, they find they don't really like each other very much but still are together.

Conssumate love : The ideal type, in which all three components are strong. The type of love we all hope and strive for. This state may be easier to achieve than to maintain. Hope you find it ----they say someone, some where is made for you !