Infatuation and love

Infatuation and Love

Infatuation is defined as the state of being possesed by a powreful,unreasoning,often short-lived, passion or attraction.Many a times, in the new relationships we feel that we are in love but later we understand that it was infatuation.Because to be attracted or to be in any kind of passion is not known as love.

What is Infatuation ?

Confused?? Whether you are in love or is it infatuation?

Here's what infatuation is

Infatuation can be identified as a strong and at times overpowering desire for a person of opposite sex.

It is based on physical attraction. "Love at first sight" syndrome is nothing but infatuation.

When it's infatuation basically you "judge the book by its cover". If a girl is breathtakingly beautiful or a guy is irresistibly handsome - you do not care how she or he may be as a person. Yet you desire…

When love is skin deep you are extremely possessive. Since you neither know nor understand the other deeply - you feel insecure about your relationship.

Based on infatuation a relationship will be ridden with petty jealousies. This again reflects how little you know each other and how unsure you feel.

When it's merely infatuation, you will realise how little is your concern for the other. You will think of gratifying yourself first at the cost of your lover's emotions. In short selfishness characterizes infatuation.

When you are merely infatuated - your relationship can never withstand 'the trials and tribulations of life. Like when a storm comes your relationship will be uprooted and will leave you standing alone…

'It' often starts with infatuation but the relationships that are strong, healthy and wholehearted drift towards maturity… and that


Love is based on a deep understanding of the other person. You get to know your partner better over a considerable period of time and under varying circumstances.

Real love is selfless. People truly in love want the best for their partner. His/her own desires become secondary

Love stands the test of time and adversity. If your relationship comes out of 'rain, hail and storm' unscathed you will get to know that you both are made for each other.

You will try to give him/her your best and support the other through thick 'n thin.

Love is confidence. If you are truly in love you will not feel insecure and jealous.

If your love is deep you will be able to accept the other person as he is… even his weakness.

Love is respect and consideration. If you're really in love you will also have a great deal of respect for your partner's emotional and spiritual needs.

Love is definitely patient. It will not push the other into a commitment nor will it be unreasonably demanding. Love can wait for a relationship to grow and blossom.


Love contributes a lot to each other's mental, emotional and spiritual growth. You will have the perseverance to make your relationship stronger.

Love is also tolerant and forgiving. You will be able to go through your lovers varying moods and forgive any human errors.

Love contributes a lot to each other's mental, emotional and spiritual growth. You will have the perseverance to make your relationship stronger.

Basically, love is right when a couple reaches the level of mature, mutual respect; when they truly believe in the other and in themselves as part of the relationship. At such a point, the twosome feels an intuitive sense of clarity. It's not something either may (or even need to) understand. They both just "know" that they have a deep connection with this person, that they have lots to learn and share from each other, and that this relationship is worth the risks of falling in love. Fears and doubts are upstaged by the strength of the bond.

"On a spiritual level, you will see that certain intangible aspects of a (partner's) personality fit yours like interlocking puzzle pieces. You will feel a connection that is more powerful than your doubts and fears, and you'll recognize that the (person) you have grown to love is also the one you want to spend the rest of your life with," A. Justin Sterling (Warner Books,Inc., 1992).

everyone, scientist and nonscientist alike, agrees that sexual attraction is different from true love; but it also apparent that love, even after decades with the same partner, need not exclude sexual attraction. Love itself, if it is considered a desire for more than sexual intimacy, seems to be not one state but several. For example, the feeling of a young couple that they can do nothing alone can mature into a relationship in which each is relatively independent.

Yale Psychologist Robert Sternberg suggests that love had three basic elements: intimacy, passion and commitment. Typically, says Sternberg, passion is the key ingredient in the early stages of courting but as the relationship matures, intimacy and commitment grow in importance.

The French writer Madame de Stael's definition of love is far more poetic. " Love is a symbol of eternity." She wrote almost two centuries ago. "It wipes out all sense of time, destroying all memory of a beginning and all fear of an end. "