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By Dr. Unknown
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Dear Dr. Unknown,

I'm in potential trouble. I've been going out with my boyfriend, let's call him Zack, for almost 2 years now and I really love the guy. The thing is, I'm also in love with this other guy, Brad, who lives down the street. We use to have a thing but things ended amicably when he left for college. But four years later, he's back and I'm realizing I still have feelings for him. I thought the feelings were only one sided until the other day, let's just say there was an incident. I want to explore these feelings but I don't want to hurt Zack, he's a good guy and has never done anything to deserve to get hurt. I don't know what to do here. Please help!  - Two Timer In Love


Dear Two Timer,

The best advice I can give you is to be honest with everyone involved, first with the old boyfriend. Just because you had an incident, doesn't really mean he wants to go anywhere with it. It could have been just a old reflex on both your parts and you don't want to jeopardize what you have with Zack over a misunderstanding.
Next, if both you and Brad want to continue this, you have to tell Zack, whether it will be hard or not. He will be hurt, no matter. But it will hurt less if you're honest then if he happened to hear it through the grapevine.
Now, if you and Brad realize that it was just an old reflex, you should still be honest with Zack. Like I said before, the truth hurts more if you hear it from someone else, and trust me, secrets have a way of getting out. He'll be mad and/or hurt but hopefully if you explain why it happened and that it was a one time thing, he will learn to forgive you.
Other then that, I don't know what to say, expect best of luck to you and let me know what happened.



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