When I met Allen we were both patients
in the hospital. A friendship developed. We would see each other when he came
to the hospital for clinic appts. I worked there. The meetings were by chance
if I was on a break. He was married but not happily. Men can also be
abused...they just don't talk about it. Allen was everything Otto wasn't. One
day months later we had coffee together and he told me he was separated and
living with a son. He lived in my neighbourhood and started attending the same
church as I and the kids. Months later I had a nervous breakdown and was
advised to end a loveless marriage. My health was going diwnhill fast. I tried
to make it work but one day decided I couldn't handle it any more and walked
away with 3 of the children. Dave wanted to stay with his dad.
Allen was my saving grace. He helped
me get my life back on track. He thought of my children as his own and
showed them a father-like love they had never known. We had 13 years of
being together when the Lord called him home. We had always felt that our
Heavenly Father had put us together.. During visitation at the funeral hone
the day before the funeral, while talking with the Priest who had worked
with me during my first marriage, separation and divorce plus the union with
Allen, he made the comment that he had always liked Allen and that he "was
certainly the
light at the end of the dark tunnel I
had been travelling down".
Unfortunately, Monique managed to
become an unwed mom. She was not mature enough for this role and I prayed
she would put the baby up for adoption. We weren't in a position to take on
the responsibility of a new-born but she insisted on keeping Robyn. He will
be 14 on April 24 and is Grandma's precious jewel. At about the age of 7, he
was diagnosed with ADHD and has a learning and comprehension problem. He has
had a rough life. Monique still lacks a lot in parenting skills but has
tried her best. Her lifestyle leaves a lot to be desired but I won't go into
that. She is still unwed but fortunately she cannot have any more children.
Dave is a confirmed bachelor so no
grandchildren expected from there. Ray is engaged to Sarah (a very loving and
great girl) and has been for nearly 3 years). Don't know why the delay in
taking the next step. Michael has a girlfriend of about 3 years (Milena). Have
yet to meet her as they are in Florida but have spoken with her many times on
the phone and she also appears to be a very loving girl. Maybe one day Sarah
and Milena will give me more grandchildren. One can only pray.
have one grandson. His name is
Robyn
he will be 14 on April 24t
