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Samantha raises her hand

LadyDomina says: I tell them that they will belong to me for the next (time period) and that if they agree to these conditions, they are to kiss the collar.

LadyDomina says: then I put the collar on them.

LadyDomina says: this is a very simple ritual, but it helps to set the mood of submission.

LadyDomina says: Suddenly, all the power has shifted to the dominant.

LadyDomina says: That little ritual makes it much harder for them to resist whatever you next are going to do.

LadyDomina asks: Now, why would that be?

LadyDomina asks: Anyone?

Lavicka is at a loss on this one

Samantha says: they have just openly agreed to what you want, by kissing the collar

LadyDomina says: Right.

Samantha says: and now they have an out - a safeword

giniva says: because by telling them to kiss the collar.. you are giving them the choice to submit

Lavicka says: oh :)

jasper says: because when they kiss the collar at that point they are giving an exchange of power and submiting to the consequences

LadyDomina says: They agreed, they have an out, but they made that agreement.

LadyDomina says: So now it's harder to back out or change their mind.

LadyDomina says: And it was in the context of a ritual.

LadyDomina says: Very few poeple grow up with NO exposure to rituals. Rituals carry a lot of weight

Lavicka nods

giniva wonders if catholics make the best submissives (grins)

LadyDomina says: I wouldn't be surprised at all.

Lavicka says: more practice kneeling :)

LadyDomina says: But even people who claim never to have been given any religious training have that influence from television, movies, etc.

LadyDomina says: You can make up all sorts of rituals.

Lavicka nods

LadyDomina says: (Ihope you all aren't too bored, yet.)

giniva says: no Ma'am

jasper says: not at all

Lavicka says: not here :)

Samantha smiles... nope

smaid says: No.

LadyDomina says: Okay. Now, Lavicka mentioned humiliation.

Lavicka has alot of experience with that one :/ most of it non scene related

Samantha snickers

LadyDomina says: This works more often for men than women, but for those whom it does work, humiliation is a very big thing for makign someone submissive.