fisting

Domaris gathers up her notes.

Domaris exclaims: Hi, and welcome to tonight's discussion group on vaginal fisting!

Domaris asks: This discussion is going to be a formal one (so I can bombard you with info), so please type ? to let me know that you've got a question. I'll get to questions when I'm at a break point.

Domaris says: Tonight's talk is focused on the subject of vaginal fisting, rather than anal fisting. They are different practices, though there are many similarities as well.

Domaris exclaims: Let's get started, then! Just what is vaginal fisting? And, more importantly, why would you want to try it?

Domaris says: For a basic definition, fisting is where you insert your entire hand into your partner's cunt.

Domaris says: But... if the first thing that comes to mind is the image of balling up your fist like you're going to punch someone and slamming it in...

Domaris says: um, no. <grin> That's not what we've got in mind here.

Domaris says: Fisting is an experience which can be incredibly intense.

Domaris says: It can provide feelings of emotional connection, of closeness and intimacy.

Domaris says: And, of course, the physical sensation of having someone's entire hand inside your body can be really unbelievable.

Domaris says: Fisting is an activity which is rooted in trust and communication.

Domaris says: It may occur in the context of a D/s interaction or relationship. but it's not a dominant action.

Domaris exclaims: Meaning... the physical contact should never be forced. This isn't the 'take it, bitch!' sort of play.

Domaris say: Fisting is a mutual, shared experience, requiring the fister to be sensitive and considerate of the needs and experiences of the fistee.

Domaris exclaims: And the whole thing also works much, much better when the fistee is relaxed and comfortable!

Domaris asks: Now that we've got an idea of what it is, the next question is... can anyone participate in vaginal fisting?

Domaris says: Well, obviously, to be able to be the recipient, you have to be female. <grin>

Domaris says: With patience and practice, most women can be fisted by most partners.

Domaris says: It is possible that a smaller woman will not be able to accept a larger fist in some circumstances.

Domaris says: Now, despite the name, the point of this activity isn't just to say you managed to get your whole hand in.

Domaris says: The whole process is part of the experience of fisting, and there's lots of pleasure to be had along the way.

Domaris says: If you can't fit your whole hand in, it doesn't mean either of you failed or didn't do it right.

Domaris says: Trust me, it feels pretty good no matter how far along you make it.

Domaris says: Also, realize that each time can be like the first time. Just because you've fisted your partner before doesn't mean you'll be able to fully get your hand in every time from then on.

Domaris says: Enjoy the experiences that you have. This is supposed to be pleasurable for everyone involved.

Domaris says: Guilty feelings later because you didn't reach the 'goal' really doesn't lead to a lot of happy memories of playtime.

Domaris pauses and sips her water. Does anyone have any questions so far?

Domaris looks around.

Domaris says: I'll take that for a no... alright, then, let's move on.

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