How do I make a woman see me as
an opportunity rather than just
another guy
?
First, you need to convey
personality to her -
fascinate her and establish to her that you
are interesting, beyond just an initial glance.
It doesn't
matter if your life might be viewed as
"boring" or "average"
(i.e. you're an accountant
and aren't an outdoors type or don't
go out
and party every night), as long as you can
fascinate her with your initial approach (or
after some
initial fluff talk), stir her emotions,
and then pace and lead
her emotions. Do all of
that and simultaneously build rapport
(through your language, mirroring) and anchor
all those new
good feelings she's having to you.
Even doing all that, your job
isn't over. All of
that setup is meaningless to you unless you
structure an opportunity for her to get with
you.
Structuring an opportunity doesn't mean
ask her for her number or
ask her out. It
means present an opportunity for her to decide
to get with you - whether that means
immediately or some
time in the near future.
You don't want to be seen as someone
who's
looking for something or someone to add to
your
life, you already have a life and have this
interesting, amaazing
quality about you. If she
wants to be a part of that or get a
piece of
that, she is the one who should take the
opportunity you present.
Contributed
by Maxene Fouchard