An ex-girlfriend to a guy causes a lot of temptation. Lets face it, if he was with her once, there's still a chance that he would still want to be with her. Being affectionate with someone is something that will always be on your mind when you're with someone you used to , or still do feel attracted too. In this case, you just have to choose how to handle these urges. Some guys can control themselves, but some can't. Then the question of can I trust him or not plays a role. This is just one huge stress ball that shouldn�t have to be on your mind. But due to the Ex, it bounces up and down in your head. Another thing that this temptation might cause is him to start to develop feelings for her again. This isn�t good. He might start lying to you and telling you that he�s someplace else, while in reality, he�s out having dinner with her and doesn�t get home till four thirty in the morning. Perhaps you call him and he says ? I�m busy baby?, but in fact he just wants to get off the phone with you because he fell into her tempting trap, and she�s sitting right next to him. There�s a difference between guys and girls. Guys are more likely to fall into temptation then girls are. Personally, I think that any guy who cant control his urges is a coward. If your going to be committed to someone, no one, not even the hideous ex-girlfriend, should be standing in your way of compatibility.
Jealousy is a horrible thing to feel. Some girls can control it, and don�t get jealous easily. But if your like me, jealousy can soon take over your life. If you can think of no other reason for Boyfriends to speak to ex-girlfriends, then make this the center of your reasoning. Ex-girlfriends cause extreme amounts of crazy jealous-nests. Clear and simple. Lets face it, who in their right mind wants your boyfriend to be speaking and going out to dinner with another girl? Especially if its their ex-girlfriend! I know that I�m not jumping for joy about it. Jealousy causes severe amount of worrying and also unhappiness within the relationship. I know for me, jealousy sometimes causes me to check up on my boyfriend. Or in some matters, check up on the Ex. Nobody likes to play spy, but in certain situations, like, off the top of my head, you see your boy getting into his ex-girlfriends car, its necessary. I don�t mean to sound selfish, but I should be the only girl in his life right now. He should be thinking about the way you feel, and think about what�s more important, hanging out with her, or making me feel horrible about it. If your boyfriend is speaking to his Ex, there�s a huge possibility .that jealousy can turn into many fights and twists and turns in your relationship.
My last, and maybe most important reason why he shouldn�t be speaking to his Ex? Easy. The amounts of problems it causes in the relationship are endless. Fighting is just one dilemma. No one likes to fight with someone they care about. When I fight with my boyfriend, I usually end up feeling hurt and guilty about things I said and things he said. Relationships should be smooth. Once you find a crack in all the smoothness, for example, the Ex, everything might soon go downhill. Fighting causes a side of you that you might now want your boyfriend to see. But due to the anger and jealousy you might be holding in, fighting can be necessary. Another problem that might occur in the relationship , is a change in feelings for one another. You might start to feel a sense of regret about ever going out with the guy. I mean, who needs someone whose going to lie and go out with their Ex behind your back? I certainly don�t. Regret is another horrible feeling to have inside of you. You may start to look back at the ?good times? and wish nothing ever happened. I�m going to tell you a little secret though : regret almost always fades into missing that certain someone. This kind of stressing can easily be solved by telling your boyfriend that you don�t want him to see his ex-girlfriend anymore. Sounds simple right? For me, that demand made by me just turned into another argument. The truth is, if you boyfriends Ex is still involved in his life, you may start to get urges to cheat on him. You may think that that would be the greatest form of comeback, but your wrong. Some way or another, the boyfriend always finds out. This in the end makes him feel like he never messed up. And the reason problems are occurring is because you haven�t been faithful. This just gives him a chance to manipulate you in to thinking that your the bad guy, when in fact, he is.
In conclusion, boyfriends should definitely not speak to ex-girlfriends. All these girls do is cause aggravation. Not to mention, fighting, jealousy, and big problems in your relationship. What respectful girl needs all this stress and complication in her life? I definitely don�t. Goodbye boyfriend.