Before I give you everything I know about copulins, I'll tell you the short of it.
Copulins are hormones produced by women. They are secreted in the vagina, and research is proving that their purpose is to strengthen the bond and communication between couples. Used properly, copulins will give you and your partner the best relationship imaginable.
How I discovered copulins
Sam and I met in 1984 and got married that same year. We both worked, and the first few years were rough. We fought all the time about money, and who was supposed to keep up with the house. Sam's feeling was that the housework was what the wife was supposed to do, even though we both worked the same number of hours during the day. On weekends, he spent time away from me, leaving me to clean the house and even mow the yard and care for his pet ferrets. I was getting depressed and worn out, and we had sex left often than at first.
Sam then got into some business entreprenuer scheme to make and sell monogrammed golf equipment, and I saw even less of him. Weeknights and weekends he was hardly home, but when he did come home, he would want sex. I was in no mood to give sex if he didn't have time to be with me while my clothes were still on.
In 1987 I was pregnant with our first son and I needed Sam more than ever before, just to cuddle and feel close to him. As I was in my 8th month, sex in the missionary position was almost impossible. Sam suggested different positions, and we settled on a side to side position, with him behind me. At first I found this emotionally uncomfortable because I had grown fond of face to face, more loving sex. Sam was just glad to be having sex again. We often fell asleep in this position, with Sam pressed up against me, sometimes him still inside me.
After our son was born, things got hectic again, little time for love between me and Sam, and that's when our house burned due to an electrical short in the old wiring in the attic. We moved to Santa Clara, and slowly things got back to normal, and after several fights, Sam began staying home more often. Our sex life got a little better too, but it didn't really feel like it was bringing me and Sam together emotionally. I felt like as long as Sam got sex, he didn't need my friendship, love or conversation.
It was I who decided to return to the side to side position because I didn't feel close to Sam anymore. I just preferred he get it over with, but not have to face me and show that he really didn't want to talk with me. At least when he was behind me, I guess I could fool myself that he wasn't talking to me because he was not face to face with me, like in the missionary position.
Sam began to have troubles keeping an erection, and one night he entered me after a lot of trouble in the side to side position. He stayed in me hoping to get erect, but eventually fell asleep, still inside me. The next morning he was very attentive to my needs, and played with our son, acted like a new man, husband and father. I first thought it was some guilt or maybe his embarrassment at his performance the night before. We tried it again that night, but again he remained inside of me. After he fell asleep, he became very erect, but I didn't wake him. The next morning, he was even more attentive to my needs, and gave up his Sunday get-together with his friends just so he could help me with the chores.
This was the beginning of my understanding that there was something about his remaining inside me without sex that caused him to focus more on me. This was in 1989, and I was now pregnant with our second son. We are Catholic and don't believe in birth control. Our second son was born in 1990.
As the years went by and our children grew, Sam became a much better husband. We both still worked, but he did more chores around the house, and did the mowing. I still did most of the work, but it was better than before, and now that we had two young sons to raise, the work was tripled at least. As for our sex life, it improved a little. Every time that Sam remained inside me without sex, he acted like the perfect husband, but it would go away a day or two later. I could find no information on this kind of behavior, but my girlfriends said it was common for their men to act that way when they didn't give him sex. With Sam, this was something different, I was sure.
In 1995 I quit my job and went back to college to finish my degree in Education at Santa Clara University. Things between me and Same instantly got worse as he didn't want the responsibility of caring for the kids while I was at school. It was in February the next year that I first saw Doctor Morrishaun give a lecture on the female hormone called copulins. What I learned that day changed my entire life, and saved our marriage, I believe.
What are copulins?
When I agreed to attend Doctor Sandra Morrishaun's lecture, I only did so because those who chose not to attend would have to participate in a fundraiser for the Psych class. I felt a little selfish wanting to skip out of a good cause, but I was tired and thought I could snooze in a lecture about something I'd never heard of. The doctor was visiting from another college, so if she saw me snoozing, she'd never see me again anyway. I went to the lecture fully confident I'd finally get in a nap. I'm very very glad that I paid attention to her lecture.
We learned that copulins are kind of like pheromones. I had heard of pheromones and thought of them as some kind of gimmick Love Potion #9 perfume they sell on late night infomercials. The difference was that copulins were only produced by females (and only in the vagina), and that they didn't become airborne. I think this last point is now false, but at the time, the doctor said that copulins could not act like pheromones, because they could not go from woman to man in the air. They had to have direct contact.
Doctor Morrishaun said that early research in copulins seemed to agree that copulins were just another pheromone, and that studies showed that they caused male primates to have increased sex drive. However, the copulins didn't do this as well as already known pheromones.
The companies that were already selling pheromone products as though they were love potions and sexual attractants also began claiming that copulins were just as effective. Back then, I had no access to the internet, but a search today will return a lot of hits on these companies selling copulin products, and even soap with copulins.
The doctor said that early research had gotten it all wrong about what copulins are really for. The lecture stopped for break at this time, and I was still bored, thinking of skipping the second half. Aside from her Wisconsony or Canadian accent, she was a boring lecturer. Her voice was low for a woman's, and even though she was fairly attractive, even the men in the hall were half asleep by break. I changed my mind about skipping when I wondered if they'd take a second roll at the end of the lecture.
The second half of the lecture, I remember well. The doctor asked the women there how many had been with their male partner for more than two years. I raised my hand. Then she almost seemed to look right at me as she said, "Ladies, why is that when your man is inside you but doesn't ejaculate, he's kind to you the next day?" Many of the students, especially the men, laughed or gave weird looks. But I knew she was talking to me. And every other woman who had raised their hands. I looked around and saw the same surprise on these other womens' faces, and a woman nearby had forgotten her hand was still up.
"Copulins," the doctor continued after the chatter died, "are the female's hormones that regulate the relationship." By the end of the lecture, I had learned that copulins can affect the male's brain, and create a subconscious communication between the female and male. This was the information I felt I needed for my own marriage, but after the lecture, I still didn't know where to get more details.
I use my copulins
Maybe this idea of women having control over their own relationship doesn't excite some, but I was itching to find out more. I went to the library and researched copulins, but I found very little. Mostly there were studies with monkeys that resulted in vague results, like increased sexual activity, and increased testosterone in the males. Sounded like another kind of beer to me. I then wrote to the University of Chicago asking for more information, since that was where Dr. Morrishaun taught. I got a short letter back from somebody saying that Dr. Morrishaun was no longer with the University, and they had no information on where she could be reached. I began to doubt what Dr. Morrishaun had told us in that lecture.
Meanwhile, I began my own research, in a way. Knowing what little I had learned about copulins, I wanted to see what I could do with my own hormones to help our marriage. The problem was that I knew if I told Sam I was using him as a guinea pig, he'd balk, and if I asked him to be inside me without ejaculation, he'd wonder what was going on, or be upset that I was teasing him but not "putting out". I had to figure out a way to get him inside me without him knowing.
When Sam slept, he was usually turned away from me. I've always thought of this as one of many unconscious signals that our marriage was in trouble. The only way I could get Sam to roll toward me and snuggle was if I touched him in a sexual way, such as nuzzling his ear or neck, or rubbing his crotch. This too was an insult, thinking that the only way I could get his attention was if I showed sexual interest. So we didn't cuddle much.
One night, about a week after the doctor's lecture, Sam was asleep and I asked him to hold me. He moaned and ignored me, so I reached through his underwear and squeezed his penis. He rolled over, still asleep, and cuddled up next to me, his penis erect. I backed up against him, removed my panties, and directed him inside me. I was afraid he would awaken and wonder what I was doing, so I decided that if he did awaken, I'd pretend I was asleep also.
While he was inside me, I didn't know what to do, and I couldn't tell that anything unusual was happening. I fell asleep, and woke up later to find Sam still inside me, but he was moving his hips slowly. He sounded asleep. I told him to stop moving, and he did, but my voice woke him up and he withdrew and turned away to fall back to sleep.
The next morning, he was very cheerful and attentive, like the few occasions in the past when this had happened. He offered to help me with the dishes, and touched me affectionally more than usual. He never said anything about waking up inside me, so I said nothing about it.
The next night, I waited until I was sure he was asleep and again had him inside me. Again, I could feel nothing unusual, but he remained erect inside me for the entire night. In the morning, he went to work, and when he returned, he had flowers for me, something he hadn't done since we were first dating. He asked me how I was feeling, and I admitted I was tired, so he gave me a Mothers Night Off, and took care of the kids, cooked dinner and washed the dishes. We rented a movie and cuddled on the couch after Sam put the kids to bed.
That night, we had sex, and I learned about the backlash. Rule number one: sex turns men into jerks.
Doctor Morrishaun's research website.
In 1997 we got our first internet service, and like most people, I spent more time wandering lost on the internet than actually finding anything worthwhile. I tried to find more info on copulins, but always came up with way too many results, and I had forgotten the doctor's name who gave the lecture. I had read in psychology magazine something about copulins, and it said something about copulins targeting the hypothalamus, which I remembered as being a part of the brain. I did a search for copulins and hypothalamus, and I found Sandra Morrishaun's research.
The original website is gone today. It was hard to read, and was a horrible pukey purple and green, the work of a child or a person with a learning disability. Common words were mispelled.
Aside from the website's appearance and the bad spelling (I later learned that one of the doctor's students had put the research on the web for her), all of what the doctor had told us in the lecture was there. And there was more. Although her current website is better than the first one, it's still pretty dull looking, with no pictures. You can find it at http://www.copulins.freeservers.com
In Doctor Morrishaun's original website, she indicated that she believed that copulins did much more to the male hypothalamus than she had first thought. Her belief now was that copulins could actually control the male hypothalamus. She could not prove it, but was taking volunteers to do more studies. I emailed her, asking her what university she was at now, hoping to find more info about her and her research, but she never responded.
I checked back on her website frequently, and it updated every time she had something new to add. I was learning more and more about copulins, testing her theories on my own with success, but I still hadn't told Sam.
My husband learns about copulins and I learn something else
When I told Sam about copulins, he didn't believe in them at first. I asked him why he had been so kind lately, and he got defensive and said because he loved me, of course. I showed him the doctor's website and he got angry, but really I could tell he was nervous. I did not tell him that I had been giving him copulins for weeks without him knowing, because I was sure he'd feel betrayed. So when I asked him if he'd like to try "coupling" that night, I expected him to say no. I was surprised when he said he'd love to.
We coupled that night, only this time he was wide awake, and he admitted that he had been thinking a lot about the past, when we used to snuggle naked while I was pregnant, and right after our first son was born. He said he hadn't liked it at the time, but lately he had been thinking of those times back when all we were trying to do was to get him erect so we could have sex. He also admitted that he hadn't found me attractive while I was pregnant. He was a total blabbermouth while we lay coupled, and then he admitted his affair.
Two hours after we started coupling, I had asked him if he found other women attractive. His comment about not finding me attractive while pregnant hurt, and it was a stupid question on my part. Without even a stammer or hesitation, he immediately said, "Yes, I had an affair with a woman I work with the first year you went to college."
I ended withdrew from him and he said he was sorry. I told him to go to sleep, and I went to my oldest son's bedroom and lay crying all night on the floor.
Truth serum
The next day, I didn't speak to Sam, even when he asked me what was wrong. I was so angry that he would think I would blow off his having an affair, and that he would act so cheerful the day after he had told me, like nothing was wrong with it.
When he got home from work, I had already packed the suitcases with clothes for me and the boys. Again, he acted totally surprised, and when he asked me why I was leaving him, I asked him how he could have an affair with me and never tell me for so long.
"What affair?" he asked, and I mentioned his coworker. His face went pale, and he started to shake. "How did you find out about that?" he said, and I smacked him. "Because you told me last night, don't you remember?" He said he didn't remember talking to me at all last night, didn't remember coupling, but admitted he had had a romantic affair with the coworker. He said it had never become a sexual affair, and only amounted to some making out at a park near his job. I, of course, didn't believe him, and I didn't believe that he had forgotten telling me that night.
I unpacked my bags and decided to talk things over with Sam. We stayed up all night talking, and by early morning, we were hugging and crying, and I was convinced he hadn't slept with this other woman. I asked him if he felt like making love, and he said yes, so I mounted him. This surprised him because I had never been on top. I didn't move after he was in me, but just rubbed his chest for many minutes. He didn't protest, and within an hour, he was babbling like the night before.
He gave me all the details on the affair, and he admitted that he didn't have sex with the woman only because she wouldn't let him. She was married also, and apparently she and Sam both were filling some void in their marriages. I asked him if he remembered telling me about the affair the night before, and he said yes. I then began asking him all sorts of questions about things I had always wondered about. Little things, but questions to test my theory that the copulins were making him tell nothing but the truth. His answers were very blunt and honest, and I learned that his get togethers with his friends, in the first years of our marriage, were for visiting strip clubs, not for watching boxing matches.
I was both angry and relieved to hear all the truths. I learned that he had been dishonest with me at first, but that in recent years, he had told no lies to me, aside from not telling me about previous lies. I learned that he had been skimming money from our account, and this angered me until he told me about the Monte Carlo he had been restoring for me in his best friend's garage, and all the money he had been skimming had been going into this surprise. After coupling, he showed me all the receipts for body work, parts, and paint job on the car of my dreams, and he showed me pictures. He had been keeping all of this in a coffee can in the garage.
I decided a divorce would be the wrong decision.
We save our marriage
Ever since I first told Sam about copulins seven years ago, we have coupled regularly. We had problems with it at first because Sam didn't like the idea of copulins affecting his brain. He called it Susan's Psycho Juice, and we had one full week where he refused to couple. I finally had to resort to the old way of inserting him while he slept, and that got us back to happy and loving each other.
I have read many accounts of other couples who use copulins in their marriage, and they have been helpful; however, none of them completely applied to our relationship, and I put together my own notes. Being a teacher, I love to share knowledge. Doctor Morrishaun's website is helpful to understand the basic mechanics of copulin transmission, but she's a cold fish when it comes to the emotional bonding that takes place, and if you search her website, I don't think you'll ever find the word "love". Despite my mentioning this to her several times, she has either ignored my emails, or stated that she tries to remain scientific about the subject. That was my cue to put together my own Copulin Advice website--a mishmash of tidbits I've picked up from others, and from my own experiences.
My husband is a beautiful person, but like us all, he has his faults. I never set out to change him, to make him something other than what he is. I felt, however, there were some changes I could make for him that would only benefit our marriage, and make him happier. By helping him to focus on the family, he no longer wanted to spend time doing activities that he later admitted were only excuses to get away from a family life that was depressing him. I helped him steer away from alcohol, and to become more physically fit. In the seven years I've coupled him, he has changed from a somewhat depressed, unattentive father and husband to a wonderful, mature and responsible man.
They say that behind every great man there's an even greater woman. I'd like to think that I helped Sam become great.
Copulin Advice
The remainder of this site is for advice on the following:
1) Good ways to transmit copulins. Dr. Morrishaun's website doesn't say a whole lot about this.
2) How to get the most out of your copulins. There's hardly anything about this on the internet.
3 How to get the most out of your relationship. Once you've got him happy with copulins, how do you now make yourself happy?
3) How to make your partner happy with copulins. Unlike most people who talk about copulins on the internet, who seem to think copulins are about mind control, I prefer to think about them as happiness control.
Good ways to transmit copulins
Although Dr. Morrishaun's website touched on this briefly, she nailed the basics. I'd like to expand on what's she's told us already, and share some nifty tricks I've found on my own.
The two most important things to remember, as Dr. Morrishaun points out, are force and gravity. I'm no scientist, but it only makes sense that if the copulins have to travel up instead of down, they're not going to get where the need to go as fast. I've tested different positions, and like she says, when I'm on top, getting my husband to the desired state happens a lot quicker. But if you're like me, straddling a man for an hour is not too comfortable, and in the winter months, can be very cold.
Here's what I usually do. I have my husband lay on his side facing me. I then arch my legs over his torso so that we're forming a T, and then insert him that way. I didn't used to do it this way, but more about that later. This allows me to lay comfortably on my back, and he's getting more copulins than if he's laying on top of me. After an hour of this position, I have him roll on his back while I lift up with him and straddle him. We do this without ever disconnecting. This keeps that fluid bond unbroken, and I think I can get as much copulins in him in fifteen minutes as I can the other way in one hour.
I have involuntary contractions while my husband is inside me, but I can help it along by contracting on my own. An important thing to remember is to try to keep him immobile inside you, and as deep as possible. When he has been inside me just a little, the fluid runs out the sides, and it takes me longer to get him to the right state of mind.
When we were first coupling, I didn't want my husband to know what was going on, so we always did the side to side cuddling position. He was always upset about knowing how copulins work, and that they even existed, that I helped him to forget about them. For the last six years, he's not known about copulins. He never questions why we couple, and to him it's as normal and routine as brushing his teeth before bedtime.
Dr. Morrishaun's site mentions oral sex (not fellatio), and I agree with her that it's not very effective. I don't use it anymore aside from just the pleasure it gives me. My husband is now obsessed with it, but I'm only in the mood for it occasionally. Originally, I found that having him give me oral sex helped him be more open to just coupling instead of actual sex.
Me and my husband have completely done away with actual sex. I don't consider this wrong or unhealthy, because I'm certain that since we're coupled almost every night, we still lead a more active sex life than most people. The only thing that's missing is his orgasm, but I can give him that without him ejaculating. As I learned in psychology and philosophy, the only reality that exists is what you perceive. The old adage, "If a tree falls and nobody is there to hear it, does it make a sound?" is true with copulins, also. In the next topic, I'll talk more about totally removing male ejaculation.
How to get the most out of your copulins
REMOVE MALE EJACULATION
After a man ejaculates, he turns into Mister Macho, and I don't mean that as a compliment. I can load my husband up on copulins for a month straight, but as soon as he ejaculates, he's an arrogant, lazy slob. I hate to say that about my husband, but Mother Nature played a mean trick on men with this one, and their female partners bear the brunt of their boorish behavior. I've never understood why men get this way after sex, but I'm sure it's a reason why most women don't enjoy sex as much as men do.
As mentioned in my previous topic, removing male ejaculation from your relationship will actually help the relationship. If you asked single men if they would consider a relationship without ever having an orgasm, they'd probably laugh at you. For most men, orgasm is why they get into the relationship in the first place.
I've found that I can make my man happier without him ever having orgasm. My husband doesn't know about copulins anymore, and I don't think he'd be pleased to hear me tell him that he can't have orgasm anymore. What's important is that he think he's having orgasms, because it's the pleasure of the orgasm, that's all that matters to him. I've talked to other women who say they can't think of removing sex from their life, but I found an answer that makes both me and my husband sexually happier than ever.
While my husband is completely under the influence of copulins, I can tell him that he had the most wonderful orgasm with me. I give my husband the best sex he's ever had every night. The only thing I've denied him is the movement of sperm from his body to mine, and since we're not trying to have children, that's no use to either of us anyway. I don't, however, deny myself the pleasure of orgasm. I've learned how to use my contractions to give myself an orgasm while he is inside me, or to have him give me oral sex so I can have orgasm. I prefer the first method best....
More than anything else, my having an orgasm while he is inside me has more powerful and fast effects. I suppose it's the power of pushing in a lot of copulins in a short bit of time. I can now get him to the highest state of mind in just ten minutes, leave him with memories of perfect sex, and also a lot of time to please me further.
I used to have a problem with my husband masturbating. All men do it, I hear, and he was no different, but his behavior afterward was almost as bad as after we had sex. After my investing a lot of time in getting us both happy with copulins, he'd masturbate while I was gone and he'd be back to being grumpy, unhelpful and unhappy. What I do now, maybe once a week when he's in what I call Nirvana (high level of copulins) is remind him that he never masturbates. It works.
MEN DON'T WANT TO KNOW ABOUT COPULINS
On Dr. Morrishaun's website, on her page where people send in their questions, one woman said she made her husband forget about copulins. After she had found out about them and told her husband, he refused to sleep in the same bed with her out of fear. That's not a happy marriage. She said that she once mentioned while coupling that she was a scorpio and he was a pisces, so that's why he felt so eager to please her, and he accepted that from then on, and forgot about copulins. My husband also expressed fear of copulins once he found out about them. I didn't try to tell him that copulins don't exist, but while coupling on night, I was tired and he kept asking me about them. I answered that neither one of knew anything about them yet, and I meant that we just hadn't studied them enough. As it turned out, my comment wiped out his memory of us ever talking about copulins and to this day he's not mentioned them again. I also didn't tell my husband any story to explain my queen-like shimmer he now says surrounds me all the time. I just tell him I don't know why he treats me so good now.
COUPLE REGULARLY
If you're like me, life is sometimes too busy to couple every night. When we have guest over for a late night of spades, or if we go out late for dinner, I'm just too tired to even couple, and I just want to go to sleep. The problem is that if we missed three or four nights in a row of coupling, my husband started getting grumpy again, and it was hard to get him to want to couple willingly. When he had no copulins in him, he knew that coupling caused him to focus entirely on me, and he fought this influence, and would even go out of his way to do the opposite of what I needed him to do. As I'd said, I could sometimes catch him asleep and transmit copulins to him, but that required that I either stay awake until he fell asleep, or by chance I might wake up in the night and couple him in his sleep. I found a better solution.
Dr. Morrishaun mentioned trigger words in her website, but I wasn't sure what they were at the time. I studied up on them and found they are used in hypnosis. I read how they are planted, and tried it with my husband. The first time failed. I tried to have him say "I love you" any time I smiled at him, just as a test. I tried again, this time after he was deep in Nirvana, and it worked great. It got annoying quick, so the next night I removed the trigger, but the secret to success was planting the trigger when he's at his deepest state of copulin effects. The first time I tried, I was too anxious and tried to plant it after only thirty minutes. I'll talk more about trigger words later.
I planted a trigger that when I said the words "Love me twice as much", he would want so badly to couple with me that he would not feel right until we had done so. To test it out, after I planted it, we had sex, and he turned into Mr. Jerk as expected. Two days later, I asked him to couple and he refused, as expected. As though he wanted to get away from my influence, he said he was going for a drive to help him relax. I said "Okay, but love me twice as much." and he sat on the edge of the bed, removed his clothes, and said, "I'd like to couple now, if it's okay." With the trigger word, I now can keep the copulin schedule I want, and keep him happy all the time. I'll tell you the best way I've found to plant trigger words in the next topic, How to Get the Most Out of Your Relationship.
PHOOEY ON DIETARY SUPPLEMENTS
Dr. Morrishaun recommended some dietary supplements to help increase copulin production, and to help the male receive them better. Oats, biloba, St. Johnswart. I don't like these things, and I'm not going to gobble down cups of raw oats when what I've been doing is working fine. I don't know how she came up with these findings, but my advice is to stick with what you like to eat, and don't take herbal medicines. We're finding out more and more on the news that some dietary "supplements" can be harmful if mixed with other medications, and I think it's unwise and unprofessional of Dr. Morrishaun to suggest these supplements to every human who can read her website.
The best way to increase copulin production in my opinion is to couple a lot. When my husband exits me today, I have so much fluid built up inside me that I have to keep a large wad of tissue nearby to keep it from spilling. In the past, all that I noticed was that I was a little more moist down there than usual.
USE YOUR VOICE
The most remarkable thing to me about copulins is my own voice. It sounds totally normal to me, but my husband Sam is in wonder of my voice when we're coupling. As Dr. Morrishaun theorized, we women have power in our voices when we're using our copulins.
I'm not straying, but I've noticed my husband has trouble staying hard when he's inside me. I think it's because he also loses sensitivity in his penis, so he has no stimulous to keep him hard. When he was not erect, it took longer for me to get him to his Nirvana state. Contracting my vagina did little good because he can't feel it.
By using my voice, I accidentally learned how to control his erections. He told me felt horny while coupling, but was unaware that his penis felt otherwise, for it was very soft. I told him he felt good, and that his penis was getting bigger, more excited. It worked, and now all I have to say is "you feel soooo good" and he gets erect again. If he starts to feel a bit soft to me, I tell him again, and he stays hard. Later, I planted trigger words, and now that works just as well.
I don't know if this helps copulin transmission, but to me it's fun. While coupling, I like to whisper "Feel my love going into you" over and over. I like to think it increases how much of my copulins transmit from me into him.
How to get the most out of your relationship
MORALS AND ETHICS
I don't question Mother Nature or God, or whoever made us. From Dr. Morrishaun's remarks, I get the impression that she's also a religious woman, or at least acknowledges a higher power. Growing up catholic, I was immersed in the "God is Male" idea, but as an adult, I don't apply a gender to the supreme being. In any case, God had a purpose for copulins, and I think he or she wants people to use them to their fullest. That's all I've got to say to all the moral minders and bible thumpers who have emailed me over the years, or posted their admonitions on websites about the moral dangers of copulins.
I use my copulins to their fullest because it makes me and my husband very happy. I warn women that if they go so far as to addict their partners on copulins, then decide to withhold copulins, be prepared for a negative effect on him. It's as bad as being around somebody trying to quit smoking. I guess the addiction wears off, but I've not tested this myself.
TRIGGERS (TOGGLES)
Planting trigger words makes things easier for both you and your partner. Dr. Morrishaun used to have a lot more on her website about triggers, but I think she caught a lot of grief from the aforementioned group. My philosophy is that life is full of triggers anyway, and those between a husband and wife are the most special of all. I think the word itself is offputting because it sounds like something used to fire a weapon. I prefer the word toggle. If I didn't use toggles, I would then be a naggy wife. I never ever have to nag my husband about anything.
A toggle acts just like a real toggle, or a lightswitch. You install the toggle to cause something else to happen later. Once it's properly installed, every time you turn on the toggle, the desired result should occur. If you're about to touch a hot stove, somebody may yell "that's hot!" and your hand will jerk away. That's a toggle. The person did not say "move your hand away from the stove." Without hardly any thought, the words "that's hot" caused your reflexes to jerk your hand away. Normal toggles take years to develop. You can yell "that's hot" to a child and they'll still touch the stove. I know this from experience. Toggles installed by hypnosis proved to be immediate, and the same is true with copulins.
PLANTING A TOGGLE
Once your partner has reached that level I call Nirvana, he's ready for you to plant a toggle. The usual format is to say something like "from now on, when I say X you will do Y." It sounds easy at first, but remember that the instructions for a toggle will be followed to perfectly. If your partner does something wrong when he follows the toggle instructions, then it's really you who did something wrong. I think of my toggles ahead of time so I don't say something that can be confusing. Once, I told Sam "At twelve o'clock every weekday, you will call me from work." He failed to call me at noon the next day. That night, however, he got up from bed and I asked him what he was doing. He explained that he had to go into work, and when I asked him why, he said he had to get there by midnight so he could call me.
Be very careful how you word your instructions. Don't say "when you hear the word X, then do Y," because then they will do it whenever anybody says that word, not just you. Think of the game Simon Says and you will be on the right track. Not all of my toggles use words. Many of them happen at a certain time, or when something happens. The trash has to be taken out every Friday morning at our house, but Sam never forgets the toggle I planted "Every Friday morning at 6:30 AM, you will take out all the bags of trash and put them on the curb in front of our house."
TOGGLES AREN'T JUST FOR CHORES
Remember to use some toggles just for fun. I like to have my husband call me from work. I don't tell him what to tell me, he does that on his own. He just needs to reminder that it's important to communicate with his wife. What he tells me is up to him, and I'm pleased to say he always says very nice things. Use toggles to make him feel good. You have the power to fill your partner with love and ecstasy. At 4:00 PM, just half an hour before Sam comes home, he always feels wonderful for ten minutes. I planted this toggle not to help me, but to make him happy. Be nice with your toggles, too. Any time a toggle takes effect, your partner always feels a little zing. I don't know why this happens, but add to it, give him a good rush as well.
THE POWER OF LOVE, THE LOVE OF POWER
Dr. Morrishaun's site is great for learning the mechanics of how copulins work. If you want to know the emotionals behind it, then there's not much she offers. She doesn't explain why men get a zing when the woman plays tough. It made no sense to me, but when Sam was first getting copulins, he loved me like never before. I wasn't doing anything special, didn't wear new perfume or sexy clothing, didn't buy him a nice gift. What I was doing was working him very hard. And when I'd let up on him and let him take it easy, his admiration of me relaxed as well. I asked him to explain it to me, and he said that he loved my influence. Well, that just sounded masochistic to me, and I stopped the copulins for a month. He returned to being Mr. Macho, and when I tried to act like Ms. Bitch, he hated it. I reminded him what he had said about loving my influence and asked him if he had lied. His reply was, "yes, I love your influence, but you don't have that influence now. You're just nagging all the time, that's all." Sam had no idea why I had influence before, but now had no more than anybody else.
When Sam became admiring of my influence, I truly thought I'd married a man who'd had some issues with his mother. But the longer I learned about copulins and talked to other women, the more I realized this happens EVERY SINGLE TIME with every relationship involving copulins. I don't know enough about psychology or chemicals to know what's happening, why it happens, and maybe some genius like Freud will figure it out someday. In any case, the rule of thumb is, the more you use your influence, the more influential you become, and the more it influences your partner's admiration for you. Be bitch, be loved and obeyed. That's it.
WHEN COPULINS ARE GONE
I have no idea how much longer my body will produce copulins. I assume they dry up in your old age. I'm 44 now, well past menopause, and I feared the day when my copulins could no longer make me and my husband happy. That's why I've planted toggles for the long term. My experience shows that copulins stop working in Sam after about three or four days after coupling. But the toggles I've planted always work. If you have troubles sticking with a regular coupling routine, the use of toggles can keep the Macho grumpies away, keep you happy, and your husband nice and feeling good. I've not let Sam off copulins for more than a month, I don't think, so I can't tell you how long toggles work. I regularly reinforce my toggles every week or so by repeating them during coupling.
How to make your partner happy with copulins
In my opinion, the single most important role of copulins is to make your partner happy. I believe this, because Mother Nature made it very easy. I'm one who follows the most natural course in all things.
There is a reason why copulins exist.
There is a reason why copulins make the male feel good.
There is a reason why copulins affect the male memory during coupling.
There is a reason why copulins make the male feel numb in the genitals.
There is a reason why copulins help the male see his female partner as extra special.
The reason for all of these things, I believe, is to make for the best relationship possible. If it makes you happy, and it makes him happy, do it. We don't have to always understand why things work the way they do, but it makes us feel better when we do understand. That is why I have shared this knowledge with complete strangers, because I hope it will help even just one couple enrich their relationship.
Use this wonderful magic with love, and love will grow between you and your partner. When you use copulins regularly, your partner will be happy. When you use your voice to make him feel good, he will be happy. When you use toggles to eliminate nagging in your relationship, he will be happy. When you give him a desire to please you, and you give him the opportunity to please you, he will be happy.
The wonder of copulins is that when you use it to their full ability, to make yourself happy, it in turn helps your partner become happy. This is a win-win arrangement that Mother Nature has given us.