Love begins with our
thoughts. We become what we think about. Loving thoughts create loving
experiences and loving relationships. Affirmations
can change our beliefs and thoughts about others and ourselves. If we want to
love someone, we need to consider his or her needs and desires.
Thinking about your ideal partner will help you recognize him or her when
you meet.
The second secret - the power of respect
You cannot love anyone
or anything unless you first respect them. The first person you need to respect
is yourself. To begin to gain self-respect, ask yourself, " What do I
respect about myself? " To
gain respect for others, even those you may dislike, ask yourself " What do
I respect about them? "
If you want to receive
love, all you have to do is give it! The
more love you give, the more you will receive. To love is to give of yourself,
freely and unconditionally. Practice random acts of kindness.
Before committing to a relationship ask not what the other person will be
able to give to you, but rather what will you be able to give them. The secret
formula of a happy, lifelong, loving relationship is to always focus on what you
can give instead of what you can take.
To find a true love, you
must first find a true friend. Love does not consist of gazing into each other's
eyes, but rather looking outward together in the same direction. To love someone
completely you must love them for who they are, not what they look like.
Friendship is the soil through which love's seeds grow. If you want to bring
love into a relationship, you must first bring friendship.
Touch is one of the most
powerful expressions of love, breaking down barriers and bonding relationships.
Touch changes our physical and emotional states and makes us more receptive to
love.
If you love something,
let it free. If it comes back to you it's yours, if it doesn't it never was.
Even in a loving relationship, people need their own space. If we want to
learn to love, we must first learn to forgive and let go of past hurts and
grievances. Love means letting go of our fears, prejudices, egos and conditions.
"Today I let go of all my fears, the past has no power over me - today is
the beginning of a new life."
When we learn to
communicate openly and honestly, life changes. To love someone is to communicate
with them. Let the people you love know that you love them and appreciate them.
Never be afraid to say those three magic words: "I love you." Never
let an opportunity pass to praise someone. Always leave someone you love with a
loving word - it could be the last time you see him or her. If you were about to
die but could make telephone calls to the people you loved, who would you call,
what would you say and ... why are you waiting?
The eighth secret - the power of commitment
If you want to have love
in abundance, you must be committed to it, and that commitment will be reflected
in your thoughts and actions. Commitment is the true test of love. If you want
to have loving relationships, you must be committed to loving relationships.
When you are committed to someone or something, quitting is never an option.
Commitment distinguishes a fragile relationship from a strong one.
Passion ignites love and
keeps it alive. Lasting passion does not come through physical attraction alone;
it comes from deep commitment, enthusiasm, interest and excitement.
Passion can be recreated by recreating past experiences when you felt
passionate. Spontaneity and surprises produce passion. The Essence of love and
happiness are the same; all we need to do is to live each day with passion.
Trust is essential in all loving relationships. Without it one person becomes suspicious, anxious and fearful and the other person feels trapped and emotionally suffocated. You cannot love someone completely unless you trust them completely. Act as if your relationship with the person you love will never end. One of the ways you can tell whether a person is right for you is to ask yourself, "Do I trust them completely and unreservedly?" If the answer is "no", think carefully before making a commitment.