| Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus by John Gray "We mistakenly assume that if our partners love us they will react and behave in certain ways - the ways we react and behave when we love someone." (page 10) "While Martians tend to pull away and silently think about what's bothering them, Venusians feel an instinctive need to talk about what's bothering them." (page 11) "A woman greatly appreciates Mr. Fix-it, as long as he doesn't come out when she is upset...A man greatly apreciates the home-improvement committee, as long as it is requested." (page 24) "When a man is silent it is easy for a woman to imagine the worst because the only times a woman would be silent are when what she had to say would be hurtful or when she didn't trust him anymore and wanted to have nothing to do with him." (page 68) "Men need to find ways to show they care while women need to find ways to show they trust." (page 82) "Men are like rubber bands. When they pull away, they can stretch only so far before they come springing back...the perfect metaphor to understand the male intimacy cycle." (page 92) "A woman is like a wave...When a woman's wave rises she feels she has an abundance of love to give, but when it falls she feels her inner emptiness and needs to be filled up with love." (page 112) "Deep inside every man there is a hero or a knight in shining armour. More than anything, he wants to succeed in serving and protecting the woman he loves." (page 138) "Just as communication is the most important element in a relationship, arguments can be the most destructive element, because the closer we are to someone, the easier it is to bruise or be bruised." (page 150) "Ironically, the very act of avoiding our negative emotions gives them the power to control our lives." (page 238) "Love thaws out our repressed feelings." (page 274) "When our partner seems critical, 10% of our reaction relates to their effect on us and 90% relates to our past." (page 276) "...love is seasonal. In spring it is easy, but in summer it is hard work. In autumn you may feel very generous and fulfilled, but in winter you will feel empty." (page 285) |