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You don't know me but I am sorry for you.  I will keep you in my thoughts in
hopes that you may be able to someday soon speak to your daughter, and your
other children again.
~Heather
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<geez> Poor guy. Hang in there. I recently got dumped on by my spouse and left with four kids with nothing. Their father blows them off now. Your children should be fortunate to know that their father loves them so much. Why are you signing your rights away? There has to be another way for you. And please explain to me why the step-father would be asking for "his" money? Any money you pay is for your children not him.

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Still yet, The money that you pay in child support goes to the ex wife NOT THE HUSBAND, for her to use towards the children's well being and he has NO RIGHT WHATSOEVER to any of it. That money should never touch his hands regardless of who works and pays for things. I'm amazed that you are even in this situation as my spouse is 8400 behind with his ex and 400 behind with me and they aren't even trying to make him pay anything. It just confuses the hell outta me. But nonetheless, hang in there. Good things do happen to good people and we set our own Karma up for ourselves and from what I read on your site, things will turn around when you least expect it and the "step-father" will get his in the end. It is rare these days to see such a dedicated father as yourself. It warms my heart to know that some guys do actually have compassion in their heart for their children, and once again, what lucky children you have. Just keep your faith and continue to pray as you will be in my prayers. If I were in a situation to donate to help with your cause, I'd do it in a heartbeat. Currently, I'm struggling with my own financial short comings due to a self centered spouse. By the way, what does your visitation from your divorce say? You know that HAS to be enforced whether you've paid your child support or not. Do you also know that there are steps you can take to have your child support lowered due to your financial situation? In Illinois, which is where I live, they cannot take more than 60% of your usable pay, and if you have no pay then there is nothing to take. I'm not sure about Texas law, but I'll find out because that is where my spouse ran off too and I'll soon be taking measures to get support from him. I'll let you know what I find out if you'd like.

I was in tears. It's a shame that a man who is totally in love with his children has to go through the things you have. My boyfriends mother left him when he was 4, never paid a lick of child support (lord knows she could, she was a whore!) and than decided she wanted custody of him when he was 16. If she had made half....even quarter the attempt that you did, maybe she would have been a better parent.

I wish there was more I could do to help you. The only thing I can tell you is to keep your head up. I know it might seem hard but I'm sure our children won't hold it against you. But, god only puts us in situations that we can make it through. I don't want to sound like a ranting religious freak, because I'm not. But, I have been through many a hard time in my life and have always come out on top and stronger. It might take a while but I'm sure you'll get back on your feet.

I know how hard it is coping with the fact that you can't provide for your children. My father has been out of work for 8 months now (I'm 18 so he doesn't need to worry about me, I have a very good job)HOWEVER, I have a 6 year old brother at home that is my father pride and joy. He just recently filed for bankruptcy and has started working for one of his friends (off the books). But, for a few months I could feel his pain in my heart just listening to his voice. I felt the same pain when I read your web site. (Like I said, I was in tears)

Have you tried to file for bankruptcy? It really is a very good chance to start over. I know it sounds horrible, but it's not all that bad.

Anyway, Like I said, I wish there was something I could do to help. I hope everything works out for you and your children.

Abilene,

My daughter age 13 had come across your bid.. she read it and it touched her
heart, so she came downstairs and got me to come up and read it.  I feel for
you, I know the feeling, I have had put up fights with custody matters. 
Children like yours and mine are usually torn between two parents. I wish you
the best and since you did this, I sure hope your daughter comes across your bid
and will be aware that her father loves her very much.  I wish I could help
you.. you are in my thoughts.  Best wishes with everything and hope everything
will fall in place the way you want it to.  
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Mr. James Short. My name is Joseph and I have an understanding of what your going through on some level. I met a girl and dated her for nearly a year. She followed me around after I broke off the relationship in hopes that she would win me back somehow. I always felt somewhat bad for her as she wasn't the smartest marble in the bag. I moved to Colorado once and she followed. Only to leave shortly after saying she was pregnant with my child. When I offered to help and get involved, she claimed it wasn't really mine and left. I slacked off where I should have pursued paternity and recently recieved and order for child support. I am now married with a 20month old daughter. My wife works full-time and I got to school on grants, loans, and family generosity in order to further my career possibilities. I have 2 options at this point, fight for a 2 1/2 year old child I have never met, or sign over parental rights to her and her husband. As it is, I am nearly $2000 in debt for child support. I'm sure it may not seem like much to others, but it is very hard and trying for my wife to understand that I need her help and income to cover this debt so I can avoid garnishment or worse, jail. As you can tell, my options are very limited as my wife would have to pay for all court battles as I am not currently employed. I would like to fight for him, but cannot afford even a simple consultation with a lawyer. Our rent is barely paid and providing for my daughter is getting harder as well. I have adoption papers in hand that I have been holding for 3 months trying to decide if it is the right thing to do and how I could ever explain to my son why I did what I did if he should look for me. I sincerely hope things work out for you and your children. One thing to consider is treating your daughter more like an adult if you ever get a chance to see her and maybe she will have a better understanding. If she or any of your children should want to see you, that is their perogative and no-one can deny them that. My wife has a neice who used to visit her from Oklahoma to Minesota via Bus and tickets were not expensive. Perhaps pay for an additional ticket for a friend of yours to ride with them or something if poss. As a father though, I can understand how hard it hurts and the frustration just makes you wish you didn't have to be here anymore, just in heaven w/your children and no one judging you(ie:government) Best of luck to you James Short. A touched father, Joseph

Hello, my name is Matthew Baize I just wanted to say that I wish you the best and pray that everything turns out for the best. In reading through the site I noticed that we were both fired from the same employer. Let me tell you what I know exactly how rediculous they can be, our cable system which I worked for, for eight years was bought out by Cox and everthing went down hill from there. I was once at the top of the food chain around there and then all the policies changed and within afew months all I was, was a little pion with no siniority, even though I was trained on internet and digital phone. I'll be honest with you I was let go because I complained about sexual harassment, you would think it would be the other way around. The one who was harassing me should have but hey, they were the boss mans best friend. So I just wanted to write and let you know that you are not alone, that company has systematically destroyed the lives of many of my friends and coworkers. I myself and all those who know me feel it was the best thing for me to loose my job due to the stress of my fellow employees. I hope you can get a little something out of this. If you feel you need to have someone to listen I think we have gone through about the same thing and I would understand, feel free to email me anytime. I will have a part open in our prayers for you and God bless.

Ive seen this once or twice and wondered if there is any way to help...
Sara
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