Above all else He cherishes His submissive, in the knowledge that the gift he gives Him is the greatest of all. He is demanding and takes full advantage of the power given to His , but knows how to share the pleasure that comes from that precious gift.

He is in control of His self first and foremost, so that He may control others. As a stern and demanding Dominant, He can cause His sub to cry real tears. As the consummate lover, He will then kiss the tears away, without ever stepping out of character.

In times of trouble, a Dominant will leave the roles behind, to be a supportive Friend and Partner, never forgetting that this is still a loving relationship between two caring I/individuals. He is quick to understand the differences between fantasy and reality. He would never ask a submissive to put His before his career, or family, just to satisfy His own pleasure.

To win His submissive's mind, body and soul, He knows He must first win his trust. He will show His submissive humor, kindness, and warmth. He must also show him that His guidance and tutoring is knowledgeable and deserving of his attention, that this is a Woman he can learn from, and trust His direction.

He is romantic enough to be protective and chivalrous. When called upon, He will fight for His mans' honor. He proves to him that He is Someone he can lean on, and depend on.

He is old-fashioned enough to be a bit of a chauvinist, yet modern enough to respect His man. Quick to point out the differences between T/them, He also knows there is no inferiority in those differences. I don't agree with the chauvinist characterization. One can be old-fashioned without being a chauvinist.

When it comes time to teach His submissive his lessons of obedience, He is a strong and unyielding professor. He will accept no flaw, nothing less than perfection from His student. Never does He use discipline without good reason. When He does, it is always with a knowledgeable and careful hand.
He is a careful Guide, with safety always His main concern. He knows how to use pain to extend the bounds of pleasure. He is a Mentor who can bring him to the edges of his envelope, and gently show him the inner courage to reach new heights. My form of discipline usually involves writing essays, not play. If a submissive is good, then the reward is play.

He is always open to communication and discussion, always ready to hear his wants and needs. He is patient, taking the time to learn his limits, and knowing that as his trust of His grows, so will T/they.

He never has to demand ritual behavior by him. he responds to His out of the want of pleasing His . Compliance comes from the wanting to please, not the fear of punishment. He understands the fragile nature of mind and body, and never violates the trust given to His . I personally enjoy ritual behavior as the formality appeals to Me.

He is secure enough to laugh at His self and the absurdities of life. Courageous enough to accept assistance. Open minded enough to learn new things. Strong enough to grow. His tools are mind, body, spirit and soul with a little help from rope, paddle and blindfold. He understands that each P/partner gains most from pleasuring the O/other. And B/both of T/them know that love is the only binding that truly holds.