Homespun Philosophy
In my own upbringing and experiences, the males have been the ones who did the more physically demanding work and the females have been the ones who took care of the home and the family.  The men were mainly concerned with the basics, such as providing for a roof overhead, food on the table, and having a way to express the fact that they were men.  The women, when the basics were provided, were more concerned with grace, sophistication, and decoration.  How many of us learned table manners from our fathers?  However, even though these matters of civility were not the primary concern of the men, they appreciated it when the women taught these traits to the children, and even learned and practiced them, as well.

The development and use of tools has been the reason that mankind in general is greater than and controls the animal kingdom.  The tools that are desired by the men are different than those the women consider important.  The tools that men want to have are the ones used to build, repair, learn, and experiment.  Women generally want tools used to provide for the well being of the family and for the beauty of the home and themselves.

One man in particular, had many different kinds of hand tools in his possession, but he also recognized the need of his wife to have good tools with which to do her job, and provided nothing but the best for her.

Basic instincts cause the men to cherish fine hand tools, whether they know how to use them or not.  Many times the men will have an idea in mind that they would like to accomplish, which would require the use of hand tools, whether they actually implement a plan to pursue it or not.

A case in point is portrayed in the movie, "Shane".  When the farmers were burying a friend, who had been killed by a hired gun for the cattle baron, one of them, who had his wagon packed to leave the country before he got killed, as well, saw that the cattle men were burning the home that he had built.  He said, "They had no right to do that.  I built every stick of that house with my own two hands."  His wife looked at him and, as if she were throwing it up to him, said, "You never built that room for the girls."  He fired back, "Yea, but I was gettin' around to it."  At that point, all that mattered to him was saving what was left of that house, and he and his friends were hellbentferlection to get back and save the burned ruins.

To be able to build, fix, learn, or discover something fulfills a basic need in men, so they want to have some tools around in order to be able to do it.

So, you women, when your husband wants to have some nice tools around, whether mechanic's, carpenter's, craftsmen's, electronic technician's, computer programmer's, or other such, show a little understanding of his basic needs, for they are as real as any other.  And when he has a project in mind that he would like to do someday, even though he may have started on it without completing it, encourage him, without nagging, when he does get around to it.  You may not foresee him using the tools, nor even being able to, and you may think that he'll never finish the job he started out to do.  But someday, he may have the initiative to accomplish great and magnificent feats with these tools and it would be a shame for him to be without them and a half-finished job to jump into.

Dale Moore
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