| Merry Meet All, I hope everyone is doing well.I was going to update everyone about how the rest of the summer went with the kids and how the summer ended,but I would really like to talk about something most of us never talk about, the downside of Parenthood. Everyone always talks about how great it is to be a parent and how everyone should try it. Parenting is wonderful and children are a blessing but there are downsides to it that no one ever talks about .And I think that as a whole we should start talking about it. There are alot of people out there that feel like they are failing as parents becouse they have all these feelings that everyone tells them are wrong and that they shouldn't have.I say bull.Bad and even negative feelings are completly natural for all parents to have. If someone says that your a bad parent becouse you say something like" I don't like your attitude today" there would be people standing up and agreeing with you , and telling the other person that you are not a bad parent. But if you say something like "I don't like you " to your child everyone would be up in arms, but the thing is , you can't like everyone every single day.Wheather or not they are your child shouldn't make any difference.Just becouse you may feel like you don't like Sally or Joe today dosn't mean that you hate them for life, it only means that you love them enough to acknowledge your feelings to them so they know how you feel.But on the flip side, Sally and Joe might in turn say that they don't like or even hate you, and it is no diffrent .They still love you.And we as parents need to take what they say seriously. Many people have gone throught the feeling of not likeing their child, some have even felt jelous or resentful of their children, this is completly normal.We haven't been talking about the downside of parenting and its hard for a person to realize that the day you become parents you don't instatly become a Mommy or Daddy.You have to get to know your child / children for who they are, and they in turn have to get to know you.There is so much more to parenting than just making sure the child is fed,clothed and has a roof over their head. Many first time Mothers feel real overwhelmed and shed alot of silent tears becouse they are left feeling like they are doing a bad job or that they are bad parents.But we don't let people know that there will be nights that no matter what you do that little bundle of joy will not go to sleep till around 7 in the morning, that your not going to have the perfect little angel, in thruth most children never become little angels till they grow up and move out of the house.And that all of this is normal.!!!!!!! We have all been there ( and alot of us are still going throught it!) But have hope ,I won't ever promise that it will be a bed of roses, but the good and bad together make the trip of parenting one I would never pass up for anything. Blessings all, MoonCrystalSea, |
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