Having someone in the family with a chronic physical illness can be hard to cope with - but it can be even worse for families living with a relative who is, not physically, but mentally ill. Although mental illness is so common that it affects one in four people in Australia from all cultural backgrounds, it's still misunderstood.
One fear for instance, is that people who are mentally ill are violent - yet most people with
a mental illness aren't violent. Then there's the idea that if someone has recovered from a mental illness like a "nervous breakdown", they are still mentally "weak" in some way - yet people with a mental illness can have a full recovery just the same as anyone can recover completely from a physical illness.

Another problem is that a lot of people feel very uneasy or embarrassed if a mentally ill person behaves in an unusual or different way. Attitudes like these make life hard for families living with a mentally ill relative. Some families feel they have to hide their relatives illness from the rest of the world. Or they may feel isolated, either because it's difficult to invite people home, or because they may be shunned by other people including other members of their family who avoid visiting them. It's important that families in this situation don't try to cope with the problem alone. Like any illness, mental illness can be treated more easily if it's detected early. Sometimes families ignore the symptoms of mental illness, hoping things will get better. But the chances are things will get worse and the person may need to be hospitalized when they could have been treated at home if they'd had been diagnosed earlier.

The same goes for families living with a relative who has been diagnosed with an illness such as schizophrenia or manic depression, for instance.
If they begin to behave strangely or refuse to take medication that helps control their illness, it can be tempting to hope the problem will pass. But this can make things worse. It's much better to contact the doctor treating the person, or the mental health team at the nearest hospital or community health center to get professional help. This makes it easier to control the illness and keep the person stable.

If someone in your family is mentally ill, try to learn as much about the illness as possible. This helps you know what to expect and how to cope with it - mental health workers can give you advice on how to cope with and communicate with someone who is having delusions or hallucinations, for example, or someone who is depressed or threatening suicide.
Being informed can also stop you blaming yourself - many families feel they may have somehow caused their relatives illness, but this isn't true.

Many factors can combine to cause mental illness.
*There may be an inherited disposition
*A chemical imbalance in the brain
*There may be life stresses like unemployment, retirement, breakdown.

But no one is to blame for the illness -neither the patient nor the family.