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Is your nine-year-old normal? What's normal, anyway? Below are some general development milestones to help you understand your child's progress over the school year. Keep in mind that every child is different and may not fit perfectly into this framework.
Where They Are
Nine is a time of general
confusion for kids. Nine-year-olds:
| Want to put some distance between themselves and adults, and may rebel against authority. | |
| Need to be part of a group. | |
| Seek independence. | |
| Possess a high activity level. | |
| Can express a wide range of emotions and verbalize easily. | |
| Can empathize. | |
| Can think independently and critically, but are tied to peer standards. | |
| Begin to increase their sense of truthfulness. | |
| Are typically not self-confident. |
Where They're Going
| Begins making decisions. | |
| Gains a greater sense of responsibility. | |
| Sets personal standards. | |
| Develops personal interests and abilities. | |
| Develops social skills. | |
| Learns to engage in group decision-making. |