The pubococcygeus muscles -- however unsexy they sound -- are integral to your performance when screwing. These endive-shaped muscles stretch from your pubic bone to the tailbone. They control the flow of urine and are also the muscles that contract during orgasm. Strengthening them will not only help you last longer, but will also make your climax even better. Best of all, you don't even need any potions or how-to DVDs to make it happen. While really simple to do, they're not exactly the kind of thing they teach you in health class (although they probably should.)
Exercise 1:
The easiest way to give your "pubos" a workout is to tighten them for 10 seconds, then relax for 10 seconds and repeat as many times as you can. Try stretching it to 15 seconds, then 20 -- all the way to 30 seconds. Trust me -- half a minute is a long time to clench these seldom-used slabs of muscle.
Do it while driving, waiting in line at the bank or sitting at your desk. Soon enough, you'll not only have toned pubococcygeus muscles, you'll also have the strength in them to stem the most tempting orgasm from coming about (Pun fully intended).
There are other, slightly more unique ways to give these muscles a work out. Work up an erection and drape a towel over your shaft. Then, flex your pubos and do some "cock curls." Try to fit in 10 good curls before you lose your wood, then work up to 12 and so on.
The last, and most controversial option, is to try "The Faucet." What's that, you ask? It's simple: When you're peeing, try to stop and start the flow a couple of times. Then, try to stop it three or four times, and hold it in there for a while. This method is highly effective -- yet a bit dangerous (what with the whole urinary tract infection threat and all), so don't do this too often.
You need to understand how your body reacts when aroused, and how you can control your own orgasm. Getting down to the nuts and bolts of it, you need to masturbate to see how long it takes to orgasm. Control your technique and arousal to push off ejaculation as long as you can. Use these pubococcygeus muscles to stem the flow. You can also try the pinch technique, where you physically pinch the tip of your penis when you feel the first onset of climax to stop ejaculating. You can also try clearing your mind and thinking about anything else other than releasing. Baseball, basket weaving, whatever -- as long as it's not sexual. You'll be surprised what lasting in your shower will do for your confidence when it comes to lasting when it counts.
Exercise 2: Masturbate with a purpose
The goal is to minimize your refractory period -- that is, the period for men immediately following ejaculation -- during which further erection or orgasm is not possible.
Women hate when we fall asleep after climaxing. Even though it isn't our fault; we work hard getting there -- not to mention the chemical/biological response that tires us out. But to leave a lasting impression on any girl you bed, you've got to step up to the plate more than once a night.
First up, instead of lying there and drifting off to sleep after you get off, try standing up and getting something to drink. Take the time splash some cold water on your face and get the blood flowing again. All you really have to remember is that there is a naked girl in the next room that would love nothing more than for you to return and ravage her.
Simple biology dictates that no amount of prepping or pinching can get a man back up into "playing shape" without at least a 10-minute break. Focusing attention on her is a good use of this time, and also helps get you instantly back in the mood. Whether it be going down on her, playing with her breasts or just exploring her body, its time well spent for both of you.
You also have to remember the pseudo-scientific fact that you only need to be 40% erect to start again, as the remaining erection will come on strong while performing the act. It's called "soft insertion" (or the slightly more intuitive "stuffing"), and once the little guy remembers where he is, he wakes up pretty fast. Lucky for her (and you) it will take you significantly longer to reach climax each time you step up to the plate.
Exercise 3: Find her pleasure spot
The goal is to make her orgasm.
The only way to make a night where you get off a bunch of times even more fantastic is to get her off just as often. Part of being a player revolves around treating your lady right. So, it makes sense that anyone brazen enough to consider themselves a player would see to it that any girl lucky enough to get with him walked (or, limped) away satisfied.
We've all heard how to make her orgasm; work her clitoris, right? But once you locate the elusive erogenous zone, you have to watch your technique. This innocuous little bump is extremely sensitive and jumping all over it does nothing for her. Try teasing the area around it and start with slow, delicate motions. You have to work her up to the tongue-spraining speeds you see in porn. Listen for audio clues -- changes from silence to moaning are usually signs that what you just did is working. Change your pace or pressure and gauge from her response whether it is effective.
The G-spot isn't a myth. It is actually easy to find. Once she is nice and aroused, insert your finger and feel along the upper part of her nether region. You'll feel a slightly bumpy area in the otherwise smooth folds inside her vagina. Use a "come hither" motion to stimulate this extremely sensitive area. The same evolving pressure that works with your tongue will also have her orgasming multiple times, right there on your hand.
Ensure she orgasms at least once. If she's receptive and wants more, you can go for a second and third round. You can even "assist" her while she masturbates by talking dirty in her ear or lavishing attention on other parts of her body. Set your standards high and look to make her cum more than once. Not only will you feel like a champ, she'll have a real reason to return your booty calls.
practice makes perfect
We've been through a lot to just throw it all away on some cheap quickie. If you've learned anything, it's that a real player is way beyond a one-off hop in the sack. Attracting the right kind of girl takes a certain amount of effort and sophistication, and so does laying her properly. Work at it ahead of, and during the act and all our hard work will be repaid time after time, after time, after time...