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Rat Bastard Rants (Old) |
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These are a series of rants about RatBastard. There's not much else to say about that. I hope to evetually, in a drunken stupor, retell the tale from beginning to present. Not today, though. Enjoy reading my anger and if anyone wants to gather a posse to go kick his ass just let me know and I'll get his address. I should have it but since when has State Law dictated to him what he should and shouldn't do?! Ah, bitter? Much?!? HELL YES!! By the by, subsequent rants will ensue... if/when I ever hear from him again... the last time was December 29, 2001. The countdown begins. |
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2001-08-24 - 8:29 a.m. |
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I love my daughter, don't get me wrong, but sometimes it's so hard to watch young people my age doing things together that I never got to and never will get to do. I can't go and hang out at a coffee shop with my friends after school/work because I have to pick up the baby and take her home and feed her. She eats at 7 and that has to be my top priority. I saw this couple the other day around 6 or so and they were at a car wash (the ones where you wash it yourself) and they looked so happy and carefree... they'd have to be, right, if the only thing they HAD to do right then was to wash the car!? |
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Like I said, I love my daughter and I would NEVER trade her for the world. If I had it to do over again I ABSOLUTELY would, but sometimes it makes me really sad that I can't go wash my car with my boyfriend after work. |
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So that leads me to RAT BASTARD... her sperm donor. |
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Let me start off by saying "HELL YES I'M BITTER" and I deserve to be. I gave a man everything I had of myself, including money and a child and he dropped me because he "couldn't handle it". It might have been wise to realize that before the child was 6 months old... ya think? |
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So for two and a half years he didn't support her... at all. I finally get the jack-asses at the Texas Attorney General's Office to give me a case number (this was last October-- and mind you, at that point he hadn't seen her since that May). He tells them he wants to "negotiate" which means he wants to see if I'm stupid enough to let him screw me again only this time he wants the government to approve it... I think not. AND even though I was willing to let him off easy (didn't ask him to prove that he was making below minimum wage for over a year and offered to pay half of her insurance myself--which a judge makes the Non-custodial parent pay in full-- with no back medical expenses for him) he still decided to go to court. The lady at the AG's office believed that he wanted to be a good father... mwahahaha... that's a good one... and actually told me to "go ahead and hyphenate her last name because a judge will force you to change it completely anyways"...BITCH. Well, after our first meeting with HIM she realized how wrong she was because he didn't even bother to show up and finalize the "negotiation". So then we have to wait for a court date. |
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Fast forward 5 months. |
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April 4th is when our court date is set for. I'm waiting... and waiting... and waiting. He never shows up... for any guys out there thinking that doing this will slow down the process-- THINK AGAIN!! Because he didn't show up the case was defaulted-- in MY favor (really in HER favor b/c it really is about what the babe needs). We got the standard 20%, plus 10K in back support, plus her insurance, plus she keeps MY last name, AND to top it all off, visitation is at MY SOLE DISCRETION ... AND now there is a very powerful judge out there who knows that his lazy ass didn't even bother to send someone on his behalf. |
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But it still made me wanna cry that he didn't care enough for either of us to phone us that entire time or to show up and at least pretend like he loved her. |
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He finally called after the court decision. He waited to call the day before her birthday though (didn't bother to tell her happy birthday or to call the next day and tell her). As of that day it had been OVER a year since he had seen or spoken to her. He didn't see her till the 4th of July. He acted all sincere and in awe of her and I really thought that it might take a while for the love to wear off for him.... looks like I was the sucker... again. After the first meeting he said he wanted to see her again, not that weekend but the next weekend, or maybe it was the one after that... it doesn't matter. The point is, he called and asked to see her, I said sure, and he didn't call back till that weekend... talked to me for 5 minutes and said he'd have to call me back in five minutes... well, either his clock stopped or he was sucked into some alternate reality where time goes REEEAAALLLY slooooooow because it's been OVER a month since he was suppose to call back. |
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Ahhh... a father's love. |
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That's my rant. One of them anyway. The next rant on Rat Bastard will be similar to this but it'll be about how he borrowed money from me and never paid it back, how he asked me to marry him and then left me 3 weeks later, and how he promised he was coming back while he was dating this other girl (and still sleeping with me AND other girls). |
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Yeah... I'm REAL glad that fish got away!!! |
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2001-08-24 - 12:17 p.m. |
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So, yeah, I'm back. Two in one day. I'm on a roll. |
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I don't actually know what to say... I just felt like I had to come here. That's strange to me. |
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Also, I realized today that at first I began this feeling strange about people reading it... now I feel strange about the fact that maybe people aren't reading it. I guess I do that a lot... look for validation. Like if you read this then it's because you think I'm worth listening to or because you care about me... which I'm sure that there are a lot of y'all out there who read about people because you do care but you know what I mean. |
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I guess I really started this to find other people like me. Friends, if you will. Single parents and such. |
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---------------STOP THE PRESSES---------------------- |
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RAT BASTARD JUST CALLED. Let's mark this down. It is August 24th, 2001 at 12:30 PM |
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I had several phone lines going at once so I had to ask him to call me back in five minutes. I'll check back with you and let you know if he actually did get sucked into that alternate reality (see RAT BASTARD rant). |
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So, I was saying... What the hell was I saying? I can't remember now. Just hearing his voice makes me so angry that my face gets all hot and my ears plug up from the anger. What right does he have to contact me whenever he fucking wants to but he only has to see his daughter whenever he's bored and feels like having a new story to tell his new girlfriend? He tells everyone that he's such a good father and that he "wishes" he could see his daughter more often... WHY THE FUCK CAN'T YOU SEE YOUR DAUGHTER MORE OFTEN???? Does anyone ever bother to ask him that??? And if they do what the fuck kind of answer does he give them??? "Cuz I'm a lying cheating bastard who doesn't give a rat's ass about my kid or the girl I knocked up in between sorority girl lays!!"??? NOOOO... he probably tells them that his baby's mother is a bitch and won't let him see her without bringing toys, or clothes, or whatnot--which I do NOT do. I am just so fucking mad that I could VOMIT. |
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That's him on the phone... BE BACK SOON!! |
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2001-08-24 - 1:54 p.m. |
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I'm back... and the anger has subsided momentarily. |
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I asked him about the alternate reality time thingy... he said he was outta town... I said, "Damn, how'd that helicopter land outside your apartments (you know, to pick you up before you could call back)?" He said well he was outta town for a week and a half... I asked him what about the other 3 1/2 weeks... he said "I was working and busy and...." yacketyshmackety blah blahblah I told him, Yeah, ME TOO! And he stammered and said, "I'm sorry". Sack-o-shit! |
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So he wants us to go swimming with him... tonight. SURE!! What the hell. Let's scar the kid... I didn't like her that much anyway... really I was looking to trade her in. I told him that if he calls us or comes by (he doesn't have a phone and that's the excuse he uses for not calling or seeing his daughter... GREAT excuse don't you think) then we'd see about coming swimming with him ( I don't think it's a good idea to take advantage of the power the court has given me in making visitation at my discretion... if I did it would only give him ammunition if he ever decided to fight me on anything regarding her). Did I mention that the only thing separating our two apartment complexes is an iron fence... and we both live directly behind either side of said fence....Yeah, just peachy. And, Yes I did know that he lived there but it was the only place I could afford plus he's moving at the end of this month. He's moving to the North side of town which could be anywhere from 30 minutes to an hour or more away... fine by me, but the point is he could more than afford to stay close to his daughter-- IF HE WANTED TO! Which clears things up in my mind that he really doesn't give a shit. |
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2001-10-16 - 4:12 p.m. |
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So while I've know this for about a week I've been really lazy about writing... but here it goes. |
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Rat Bastard wants to stop going through the Attorney General's office. Sure!! No Problem!! I don't really need the money... really. Secretly I'm a multimillionaire and I just thought it was a hoot to take poor little ol' you's money... like those guys under the freeway who are always begging for money but they're listening to a CD player and talking on a cell phone... WTF is that all about any way... who are they calling?? The BUM at the next exit??? |
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Anyway, I told him I was willing to talk to a lawyer or someone about the possibilities and repercussions. The reason he wants to do it is so that he won't have to pay the interest on the 10K that he owes us... in case anyone was wondering... in the next 15 years (the time it will take for her to turn 18 and for the Child Support to essentially end) that 10K will turn into 28K thereby accruing 18K in interest. He also tried to tell me that he had been talking to "some people"--ie. other dead beat dads trying to beat the system-- and that they had told him that the AG's office had calculated his monthly payments wrong but that he hadn't try to fight it or anything BUT....!! WTF??? ONE--How the FUCK do they know??? TWO--How the FUCK do you know?? You didn't even show up in court!! AND THREE-- And this means WHAT to ME??? Are you threatening me or something??? I don't think so. |
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So, at first I felt bad for him (of course this was before I came to the previous realization of the threat and all). That's A LOT OF MONEY!! But then I realized that... HELL... my parents and I probably spend twice that much on the kid in the past three years as it is. Why should he get a break. I DIDN'T!! Not from him,anyway. |
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| So the next time I talk to him (a week later... mind you he hasn't asked to see Hailey in over two weeks now) he doesn't mention anything about the AG office thing... just asks me what's going on, so I told him that I was just trying to figure out Xmas so that I don't wait till the last minute and end up charging presents to my credit card (besides, at Xmas time all the prices will skyrocket). I also told him that I had to figure out where we'd be spending Xmas since my family and D's family both want us there... I said we'd probably just do it like last year... Eve at his, Day at mine (me and the babe anyway)... so he tells me he'll probably be going to Colorado with his girlfriend and her mom... OH AND HER KID!!! |
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SO! Let's get this straight. First the girl says you're not the prince charming she thought you were... and now you're going out of town with her. Rundown... 1.she's 19--no biggie.. but that was one of our supposed problems was that I could never go "anywhere"=21&up-- with him b/c of my age. 2. she lives at home--again, another one of his previous complaints about me, 3. she has a nine month old kid--I'm not passing judgement but this REALLY PISSES ME OFF-- Don't yell at me... wait for the because... |
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| BECAUSE IT MEANS THAT HE SPENDS MORE TIME WITH ANOTHER GIRLS KID THAN HE DOES WITH HIS OWN!!! |
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| And bring in the whole Colorado-Christmas thing and that means that he's going off with some girl and her kid for Christmas instead of spending that time with his own child. |
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| So Hailey and I spent the night at D's house Saturday night... I wake up and my cell phone is ringing... It's Rat. He wants to know what size Hailey wears... because he's--say it with me--CHRISTMAS SHOPPING!! First off... COINCIDENCE--I THINK NOT!! Secondly--what male shops for christmas this far in advance!!! NONE!! And to top it off he was calling me from his girlfriend's mom's cell phone which means his girlfriend (and probably the baby) was with him... shopping for my kid!!! (I don't know why that particular part infuriated me but it did... so deal with it!) |
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| So basically he called because he's trying to show me that he's doing such wonderful stuff for his child.... LOL... so that I'll leave the AG's office. Nice try. Not gonna happen. Uh uh.Never. No way. |
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| So again... I'm just going to come out and admit that HELL YES I'M BITTER!!! And again... I DESERVE TO BE!! |
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Single Mamas Unite!! |
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Hey if we all hang out together long enough maybe we can synchronize our monthly's and one week a month REALLY whoop up on one Dead Beat Dad at a time!!! That'll show 'em. Leave me a note to sign up for the army. |
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TTFN |
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