Quick Bondage
Handkerchiefs, socks, men's ties, women's stockings (pantyhose), scarves, etc. are good for spontaneous surprise bondage scenes. Silk scarf knots can be impossible to untie, however. So make sure and leave 6" tails when knotting off so that release will be easier. Also, the feel of some of these items such as a silk scarf running against your partner's body is quite sensual. But that's another story.
Other Items To Bond Your Partner With
1.Torn sheets:
Tear an old bedsheet into long strips that are 6" wide. They're comfortable, knot well and untie easily. A knotted sheetstrip also provides support for standing positions. Fold the strip, tie a half-knot in it, set it over the door and shut the door securely, with the knot in the other room. Tie other strips through the resulting loop that hangs down from the door.
2.Tape:
Start with a cool room; your bondage partner's body temperature is going to increase. 1.Apply skin protection: disposable clothing, hosiery, sheets, skin lotion, or plastic-wrap. (Warning regarding plastic-wrap: Don't apply more layers than necessary or the captive's body temperature will reach a dangerous level.) 2.Add duct tape, PVC electrician's tape, or medical tape. Make sure and keep scissors handy for quick release if needed like I mentioned above.
3.Cuffs:
Leather cuffs -- So comfortable and so easy! Good ones will cost you, but they usually last forever and are worth the investment. Test the cuffs and tug hard on them before you buy.
Regular Handcuffs -- Nice evening wear for dinner, but don't use them in a struggle or if your partner will be lying down. Nerve damage is too easy with regular handcuffs. I personally do not suggest using real handcuffs. It's too easy to misplace a key and if there was an emergency reason for your partner to get out of them, the result could be very bad. You can purchase cuffs that look real at several different places such as gag gift stores and adult stores. These cuffs do have keys which work, but they also have a special release lever in case something were to happen. I suggest buying the fancier handcuffs, which have thin keys with pin-point tops. After applying the cuffs, use the pin-point to pop in the "double-lock" hole on the cuffs. This option keeps the handcuffs from overtightening. Don't buy handcuffs with cloverleaf keys; their "double-lock" mechanism is a junky sliding lever that can get nudged off and on by mistake, and they're cheaply made, so they can jam at the wrong moment!
4.Rope:
Usually, a heavier bondage partner enjoys the feel of thick rope (3/8" or more) and a thinner bondage partner enjoys thinner rope (1/4" or less); however, this is not always the case.
Twisted nylon rope is soft and attractive. Braided nylon rope is a favorite in the BDSM scene because of the snake-skin appearance and smooth sensation; it's less likely to unravel than the twisted style.
Cotton rope is favored by those who like a basement/burglar ambiance. Buy a bit of cheap clothesline, experiment, and determine your own preferences before your second purchase. Make sure you don't buy the clothesline with the sinewy plastic cord center. It'll eventually work out both ends and poke you.
When cutting rope into lengths, secure the ends to prevent fraying. Wrapping duct tape tightly around the end works well. "Whipping" ends takes time (consult a book on knots or sailing) but looks nice. Nylon ends can also be sealed by burning, but this makes a hard, scratchy tip. For organized tying, lay out ropes from short to long, then tie on the shortest rope first, progressing to longer pieces. Example: 10' wrists... 10' ankles... 20' crotchrope... 30' chest harness.
Frequently Asked Questions
"What's the most comfortable rope I can buy?"
Opinions differ on what's "comfortable" and what's not. I prefer non-twist, squeezable cotton clothesline. Other people I know claim that braided shiny nylon rope is more comfortable.
"What length of rope do you recommend for securing ankles and wrists (together) and what thickness? We want to make the submissive as comfortable as possible."
Length and thickness depends on the size of your bondage partner(submissive). Let them tell you what feels best for them. Generally, the length is 10 to 20 feet, and the thickness is 1/4" to 3/8". Be sure to double-wrap (at least!). These figures are not for single-wrap bondage.
"I was wondering if you ever tried using a strait-jacket? My girlfriend wants to try one out, but before she gets into it she wants me to find out what can be done with it."
Straitjackets are great fun. I've played around with them several times. The one thing I'd warn against is staying in it too long. There is an illusion of comfort because the arms are in front. However, the position of the arms is slightly unnatural for the shoulders. Let her out of the jacket after an hour of play, even if she says she feels fine. Otherwise, hours later and the next day she'll have a shoulder-ache that she just won't believe!
"I saw a picture of a man with his wrists tied above him to ceiling hooks. How strong do these need to be, especially if I set them up for suspension? And then how do I make these seem 'normal' when non-playing friends drop by?"
They need to be very strong!!! Remember, they should be able to hold several hundred pounds of weight. They should hold the weight of both you and your partner, easily. It can be difficult to install hooks that stable by yourself if you don't know what you are doing. I'm not a carpenter, but as I understand it, the best way to install them is to get the instructions for installing a hanging chair, however, you may want to ask an actual carpenter for help. You don't have to tell him what the hooks will be used for, but you need to tell him about how much weight they need to be able to hold. Hanging chairs come in different forms, such as porch swings, hanging macrame chairs, net chairs, basket chairs, etc. But they all have instructions about how to put the bolts into the ceiling. You can buy such bolts separately from hanging chairs. You might even be able to get these instructions if you go to a hardware store and tell them you own an old hanging chair and want to re-install it.
To make everything look "normal," hang a plant from the hook, or hang a mobile, or other chimes, or other decoration from the hook.
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