A MEMO FROM A: submissive TO: Dominants
1~Dont spoil me. I know Quite well that I ought not to have all I ask for. I `m only testing you.
2~Don`t be afraid to be firm with me. I prefer it, it makes me feel secure.
3~Dont let me form bad habits. I have to rely on you to detect them in a early stage.
4~Don`t make me feel smaller then I am. It only makes me behave stupidly "big".
5~Don`t correct me in front of people, if you can help it. I`ll take much more notice if you talk quietly with me in private.
6~Don`t make me feel that my mistakes are sins. It upsets my sense of values.
7~Don`t protect me from consequences. I need to learn the painful way sometimes.
8~Don`t be too upset when i say "I hate you". Sometimes it isn't you I hate but your power thwart to me.
9~Don`t take too much notice of my ailments. Sometimes they get me attention I don't need.
10~Don`t nag. If you do, I shall have to protect myself by being deaf.
11~Don`t forget that I cannot explain myself as well as I should like. That`s why I am not always accurate.
12~Don`t put me off when I ask questions. If you do you`ll find that I stop asking you and seek my information elsewhere.
13~Don`t be inconsistent. That completely confuses me and makes me lose faith in you.
14~Don`t tell me my fears are silly. They are terribly real and you can do much to reassure me if you try to understand.
15~Don`t ever suggest that you are perfect or infallible. It gives me too great a shock when I discover that you are neither.
16~Don`t ever think that it is beneath your dignity to apologize to me. An honest apology makes me surprisingly warm towards you.
17~Don`forget I love experimenting. I couldn`t get along without it, so please put up with it.
18~Don`t forget how quickly I am growing up. It must be difficult for you to keep pace with me, but please try to.
19~Don`t forget that I don`t thrive without lots of love and understanding, but I don`t need to tell you that do I?
20~ Please keep yourself fit and healthy.I need you.