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| Dear Sorrowful, I was saddened to read your letter. I am sorry that you have gone through what you have and I want to let you know that you can become pure again! But you have to do a few things first, obviously. You have to truly believe that what you've done is a sin. It was unpure in God's eyes! I suggest you read the Bible and pray A LOT with God. Them let Him know that you are truly sorry for what you've done and you want to start all over again, you want to start clean. It says in the Bible once you pray for forgiveness from God, He separates your sins as far from the east is from the west! Sex should be saved for marriage between a man and a woman who want to spend their lives together. All too often these days, girls are seduced by guys into sleeping with them so the boys can have pleasure. But realize that its not just the boys' faults for tempting you. You gave into that temptation. And if a boy ever tells you that he loves you so you should sleep with him, it is ENTIRELY WRONG! If a boy truly loved you, he would be willing to wait to sleep with you until you two were married. He'd respect your body. If a boy ever tries that on you again, DO NOT sleep with him because his love is nothing. Please read chapter 13 of First Corinthians. It is called the Love chapter and defines what love truly is. What I'm trying to say is that sex is something special that God created for us, but it is to remain for marriage. It is one of the best gifts that we can give our husbands, the fact that we saved our body for them to get to know FIRST. Sex is kinda like a box of chocolates. Every time you sleep with someone outside of marriage, you are letting them unwrap the box, take out a candy, and wrap it back up again. And by the time you get to marriage, you'll be handing your husband this box that has crumpled, dirty paper from being wrapped and unwrapped so many times with only a few remaining chocolates left inside. Don't you want your husband to have the best and the very best? Save your box of chocolates for him and him only. This brings me to the second part of what you need to do. After you've professed your sins to God and asked for forgiveness, you need to not do it again. If you are truly sorry for what you've done, you won't do it again. If I were you, I would watch the boys I date or give up dating altogether until you know you are mature enough to do it again. Only date the boys you know will respect you and your body. Don't go out with anyone who says they love you. Don't go out with just anyone. Go out with a Christian boy who respects you and likes you for who you are. Don't feel that if you don't sleep with them, no one will go out with you. Because that isn't true love. That isn't real. Again, if the boy truly likes/loves you, he will not sleep with you and save your body for your future husband, even if it isn't him. I suggest that you talk to someone you trust, like a pastor or a youth leader and discuss this. Pray with them and ask God for help through this process. God loves you for who you are, even if you've messed up and even if you have had sex before marriage. God loves you for who you are because He created you. He wants you to live life to the fullest and to do that, you're going to have to follow some rules. But God is willing to help you along the way when you mess up because we all do! I'm not saying that this will be easy...people will look at you differently and they may leave you as a friend. But a true friend wouldn't turn their back just because you did something wrong. A true friend would help you along. I hope you succeed. God bless. Miss Weird |
| Dear Miss Weird, I read the Braless babe advice letter and I wanted to now if there is any way to be absolutely pure again. What if you want to be like that before you had slept with someone. He told me he loved me but then after I slept with him, he dumped me. Then all these guys were asking me out. And the next day, the guy I had dated were telling the other guys that I had slept with them. Now all the girls think I'm dirty, they want nothing to do with me and now I'm totally hurt inside. I feel totally left out and it's like no one loves me for just me being me. Sorrowful |