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| Dear Patiently Impatient, I can understand your frustration. You just wish the guy would tell you, for heavens sake, and let you move on from there! You are tired of waiting and wonder if he really DOES like you. It drives you nuts and takes up a lot of time just thinking and worrying about it. You wonder what to do. Should you tell him or wait MORE? Well...nine months IS patience and I admire your for that. Mainly, though, when I said the guy should be the initiator, it means he should strike the first note. Guys are often indecisive when it comes to girls and if the girls jumps in their face and goes, "I LIKE YOU! LIKE ME TOO!" it scares them away many of the time. I'm not an expert on boys and I will never be, but i've read in articles that that is the case many of the times. Guys tend to like mysteriousness. A girl to them is attractive if there is an element of unknown about her. But if the guy likes you and is interested, he'll tell you. Asking him to the next dance could be a possibility. You have waiting a long time and if you feel that is what you should do, do it. Pray. Ask God for wisdom. We should ask God for wisdom on EVERYTHING, even boys. :) But I personally would wait even longer. Patience is virtue, as they say and is one of the fruit of the spirit. Its something that God admires! I wouldn't tell him that you like him. You have waited this long. You can wait longer. I can understand your frustration. But you have to understand the way God built both man and women and how He created them to act in a relationship. Maybe it isn't your time yet....but, above all, use that grand patience of yours and wait out for THE man...your to-be husband. He is the prize you are waiting for. I hope I was some help here. Its hard to say. I am not an expert; I am running off of what I have read and personal experience. So if you don't agree, you may do as you wish. But i hope that you found what I have said helpful despite my inexperience. From girl to girl, I'd say to just continue being friends with him. If it is meant to be, nothing will keep you two apart. :) Miss Weird |
| Miss Weird, (I love this site :D) Anyway... I've liked this boy for around 9 months. I can tell that he likes me because he is flirtatious around me and hangs out with me whenever he can. In August, I wanted to ask him to Homecoming, but I was too shy to actually ask him. I read your answer to �Hopelessly Devoted� and you mentioned how the guy (usually) should be the initiator and the girl (usually) should be the responder. Well, I�ve been reeeeally patient and I am kind of lost as to what to do. I mean, he hasn�t DIRECTLY hinted (meaning that he hasn�t told me�) that he likes me after 9-odd months, and I�m feeling a bit impatient. I�m really shy, so I wouldn�t feel exactly comfortable if I suddenly told him I liked him. I don�t think he would feel comfortable about that either� I also don't want to wait another 2 months (lol) till the next dance to easily get another chance to hint to him my feelings for him by asking him to go with me� wow that was a run on. Um, hope you can help? -Patiently Impatient |