| Miss Weird, I liked this guy alot at first. Well, I admit I talked him into doing some things that he didn't think were right. Now I feel dirty because I've lost interest. Kissing grew stale and we began touching intimate body parts. I became a nervous wreck because I felt so dirty. He too wanted and expected me to "go all the way". It's like this all the time. It's like I'm never going to find true love. Only infatuation. But the thing is, how can I ditch him without hurting his feelings? Dirty girl |
| Dear Dirty Girl, I was saddened to hear your story. All over today, girls are getting themselves into situations with too much phyisical intimacy. They think it will win them love, which it won't. All it will do is earn them pain. I'm glad that you noticed that you weren't in love. Stay pure girls! God commands it to us to save us from further pain. First of all, if this boy expects you to go all the way, i'm glad you don't want to stay with him. He isn't worth if he doesn't respect your body and his as well. But there is no easy way to dump him. Dumping someone always causes hurt feelings. The only way to do it is with hurting his feelings as little as possible. Explain to him that you can't stay with him because of what you guys have been doing and you think its time you guys spent some time apart. Be honest and don't sugar coat things, but don't make it sound like its his fault. Its part of your fault too! Second, you say that kissing became stale and so you went farther. In order to prevent this from happening later, choose your boyfriends more farefully. Choose someone who won't want to go further and will honor you, God, and himself. Second, stay away from kissing. Make it a rare thing and it will be more special. If all you do is hug, hold hands, and occasionally kiss, each kiss will be special and you won't feel like you want to go further as much. Third, you signed your letter Dirty Girl. I'm glad you said that. You've realized you've done something bad. You have sinned. God commands us to stay pure to stay away from stuff like this...complications like this. But now God is trying to teach you a lesson. Take heed of his advice, repent, and talk to an adult you trust. Read your Bible. The closer you stay to God, the easier it is to resist temptations. Miss Weird |
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