We all crave it, or at least have done at some stage in our lives. And I'm not talking about the kind of love you have for a pet or your mother. I mean the kind of love that engulfs and suffocates you, the person that makes your stomach flip whenever they speak or walk in a room. The person that sends shivers down your spine whenever you touch, the one that all your dreams are made of. The one with no faults. Your soul mate.

Does it exist?

I can't say I ever really thought about it that much until I watched an episode of Ally McBeal last week. And even if you don't like the show, the meaning of it was worth the watch.
They explored the option that real love, the person that you have been waiting for simply doesn't exist. The reason all relationships have "ups and downs" is because we all have faults and we 'settle' for someone, not find the other half of our soul.

It's a horrible possibility isn' it? Or is it possible. Think of all the people in this world. All those millions and millions of others that could be your dream man/woman. How will you ever find them? Are you meant to? Even if you do, will that person live up to your expectations.

I see so many web sites of people basically "advertising" themselves, desperately trying to hold on to this dream lover. Trying to find that person in the hope that fate will lead them there some day, one day. And why not? This is a great global medium. The way I see it statistically you have more chance finding someone on here than anywhere else. Think about it.

Why do we all crave this emotion? What is it that makes it so powerful? I have to say it's alot to do with society. Particularly women are expected to get married and have children atleast when in their twenties. Perhaps this is the reason for the divorce rate being so high? Or maybe David E Kelly's idea was right....love just simply doesn't exist.

Scary isn't it?

4/9/99

Well in reponse to comments about what I wrote,  yes I do beleive in true love. I truly hope to find it. What I don't belive in is getting married out of convenience, or staying married or even just with a person for that reason.
If you're not happy, you're not with the right person. I hate cheaters and I despise people that stay in a relationship for "the kids" or the money etc etc

We all have a soul mate. To prove to me otherwise will just destroy all my hopes and beliefs.

Here is a respose I got, and I won't name names as I haven't had permission from the writer, but this is the best way to sum up the meaning of love I think. If you don't have this, you're not with the right person.

To quote John Lennon :

"Love is real, real is love
Love is feeling, feeling love
Love is wanting to be loved......

Love is free, free is love
Love is living, living love
Love is needing to be loved"