"It feels like cheating." Hannah Martins says. "It is, kind of, cheating...but when I talked to David [my boyfriend], he said that it's not cheating at all."
Although Hannah could be right, Marielle says otherwise.
"It's summer! It's time to have fun, let loose, and maybe hook up with someone. It's not cheating, its just having fun. My boyfriend and I really don't care about summer flings. We say bye for the summer, and we come back in the fall and its as if nothing has changed. I don't get why it's such a big deal."
"I suggest talking to them about it. But if that fails, maybe it isn't right to go out with someone with different attitudes than you." Mike P. suggests.
"Maybe you could have a summer fling as well, so that you're equal. It can't be wrong if you're both doing it." Lisa says.
Those can be very good suggestions, but it's hard to talk to your bf/gf about it without an argument.
"I tried to talk to my girlfriend about it," Mike says. "but she sort of brushed it off, like it didn't matter. And when I tried to explain how I felt, we ended up fighting. Some things aren't meant to be like that."
The best thing you can do about it is try to talk to them through E-mail. It's a bit easier than talking face-to-face, and sometimes you say more whats on your mind by writing it. You might want to start by saying, "I feel like...." or "Maybe we could talk about..." rather than "I'm angry at you because..." or "You're wrong because..." Try to be more positive rather than tell them that they're wrong.
Lisa tried this and tells us what happened.
"I emailed him this incredibly long email telling him all my feelings and thoughts. Surprisingly, he answered me back by explaining that he didn't know I felt that way, and that if I wanted, he wouldn't hook up with other girls during the summer. I think the approach worked because instead of telling him what he did wrong, I told him what he could do to make it right, and how I felt about it."
It worked for Lisa, but it might not work for everyone. Just remember: If it's not working, maybe it's time to find someone new. Or maybe take a summer break from your relationship.
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