| Interview Interview is about "first impression", and it scares the heck out of me. I don't know why, but I somehow got this weird feeling about interview - it actually is just like a "marriage match meeting". I never went to any marriage matching thing before and I don't plan to attend any in the future. You know what, I think I am right about this weird feeling. You want to choose a career path that's right for you, just like you want to find a mate that's right for you because you don't have much margin for error. Even though you do have margin for error, there's always a price to pay - time is lost. (However, experience is gained and lesson is learned.) Meeting new people for the first time is just like attending an interview, too. Too many people in this world make their judgement calls base on first impression mainly without thinking consciously. Somehow similiar to interviewers who are trying everything possible to poke your brain to learn if you are right for the position within 30-minute session. Let's face the fact. How much can you learn about a person wihin 2 hours by asking some "formulate questions" ? Perhaps, for a position, you can learn if a candidate fits the position in a matter of hours. I have no argument about that, because you don't need be friendly to him as long as he can get the job done, that's all you care. But making a friend, I don't think it's right just to make a judgement call base on 1 hour meeting. True, if you can't stand him over 30 minutes because he can't stop talking about how rich he is or how beautiful and wonderful his ex (girl friend or wife) is. My heart goes out with you, and you have my most sincere sympathy. I am always nervous and perhaps a bit shy when I first meet new people. Because I know when I am judging people at the same time, I am judged as well. What I know for sure is I am confident that I am a great candidate for the "position".or I will not apply the "position". However, accident does happen, such as in the middle of interview/meeting session you suddenly realized you were lied about the "position description" or "position description is altered". That changes everything, I must say. Relationship takes time to learn each other, shouldn't be like an interview. I think we all deserve that chance to learn and be learned more before we turn away or get turned away. There are nice qualities about a person won't show easily But it's so sad to see so many people picking their companions with "interviewing" skills". -- more to come.. |