| thoughtful LEE |
| Survival Tips |
| Tracking and defining ME |
| Lessons |
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| NOW this is one I have been learning and RE learning all my life.... there was the version where I loved deeply, devastatingly, and destructively the one man who couldn't love me... I believed then if you love someone enough they MUST love you back. I learned - someone either loves you or doesn't. That it is damaging and devastating to love someone that does not love you. That it may take most of your life but the heart does heal, IF you let it, and that love does come back, just not always from where you expect it to. My most telling lesson of late has been about making the most of every moment, because none of us know how many we have.; love is a precious gift and not to be squandered; that there is irreplaceable beauty in the small things and the small moments; that ALL any if us have is now, THIS moment. |
| When I first heard this from my Mother's lips as a teenager, I was horrified that anyone could realy believe that and felt terribly sorry for my Mother. Here I am, the world has turned around and I realise what a valuable tip she gave me with this one. There are those people in life who know INSTINCTIVELY how to get a reaction out of you and they use it knowingly JUST to get at you. I learned the hard way dealing with teens that the ONLY way to win is not to let them get a reaction out of you. The minute they dragged your emotions in, they had won. It is always best to LISTEN, hear them out and stay calm...even when you don't feel it. It has the added side benefit of frustrating the one on the other end.... *s*.. and you feel great about yourself as well. |
| "Expect NOTHING then everything is a bonus" |
| "The only way to win is not to play" |
| Sometimes Love is not enough... |
| Carpe Diem |
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