Human Behaviour
1) To: Men Everywhere
2) To: Women
Everywhere
The
documents “To: Men Everywhere” or “To: Women Everywhere” below are true without
exception or qualification of your own lives, your parents, your childhoods and,
for those of you with families of your own, it is now true of them also. If you
read carefully through the appropriate document, it will give you a better
insight into and understanding of your own feelings, behaviour,
attitudes, beliefs, needs and relationships.
You
also need to read the related document ‘Christianity & The Churches’, appreciate
the implications and consequences of this in your own life, both in this world
and the next, and take the implied spiritual warning in it both personally and seriously.
Faithfully,
Michael Israel †
1) To: Men
Everywhere
I
needed to write this to you in the course of my life and work as a real
Christian Minister, clearly chosen by GOD'S own leading and very different from
those self-appointed imposters and spiritual freeloaders posing as Ministers in
all denominations of the established "Christian" churches today. As
such, I have a responsibility to speak and write the truth no matter what the
situation, circumstances or apparent danger. The truth always uncovers and
brings into conscious awareness unexpressed pain, fear, anger, loneliness and
guilt repressed from the past. If you then acknowledge these feelings directly
and deal with them responsibly and constructively like adults, you will grow
and mature emotionally. In the process, you will discover a way of life which
is very different from what is accepted (and endured) as normal in this world,
a life of excitement, adventure, variety and richness that neither
position, power, fame, money nor material possessions can secure. In
fact all these are a distinct impediment to experiencing any real quality in
life especially if pursued as aims in themselves -
tragically however, this is precisely what preoccupies most males (and females)
throughout the world today, especially in the rich developed nations.
Although
it is a naive and childish fantasy (and contrary to Biblical teachings) to
believe that all or even most people are basically good and potentially
redeemable, many of you are fine, deep, quiet, strong but gentle men of integrity,
courage and decency, each individually but differently blessed with gifts or
talents but commonly sharing the same essence as men. Sadly, due to this open
and caring spirit, you have all been very badly damaged and distressed by
childhoods of little real love or care and as a consequence have learned to
behave in a number of dishonest and indirect ways, detailed later on Page 8. In
fact, you have never been validated, listened to nor allowed the appropriate
space in which to grow and develop, you have been indulged and never set any
limits in love and have not been given a proper example of how a real man,
husband and father (and Christian) behaves. You have no idea about your own
needs or your true worth and strength as men nor any
idea of the essence of women or their real needs. This is not said judgmentally
in criticism of either you or your parents but is the truth and needs to be
said - it is generally true in a world so far removed from GOD (or real love)
with people everywhere dedicated to living in rigid, contrived and
self-destructive ways so completely contrary to their true physical, emotional
and spiritual needs and growth.
There
is increasingly less and less genuine love and care in families all over the
world and the only differences are the various ways in which the situation is
presented and disguised. The evidence to support this conclusion for anyone
seriously interested in the truth is obvious as indicated by the following
symptoms - the deteriorating quality of relationships, the declining standards
of honesty, morality, decency, humanity and compassion, the increasing
incidence of sickness, disease, disabilities, avarice, gluttony and excess, the
escalation in corruption, crime, violence of all kinds, addictive,
attention-seeking, dangerous, reckless and (self)-destructive behaviour and the rate and extent of environmental
devastation and vandalism. Society at large merely reflects faithfully what is
happening within its component individual families and the situation in the
wealthier, industrialised nations is by far the worst
as the truth is subtly and deceitfully hidden beneath a thin facade of well-practised, wordy pretence. Love is a feeling translated
into action and what is referred to as love is nothing to do with love at all -
when the behaviour of most so-called adults today is
carefully examined, it is revealed as a mixture of selfishness, dishonesty,
irresponsibility, cruelty, greed and hypocrisy motivated mainly by guilt and
emotional cowardice and escapism. It is imperative that each of you looks very
carefully at the reality of the family in which you were brought up as well as
at the family for which you are now responsible as a parent. This means
examining your own actions and the actions of those around you and comparing
and contrasting these with what can truthfully be described as sane, adult,
honest, responsible, just, equitable, considerate and caring.
Very,
very few people today have the decency, courage and integrity to be straight,
direct and honest in the examination of their own behaviour,
their own lives, their own parents and grandparents, their own childhoods and
their own society because this inevitably demonstrates that modern lifestyle
and relationships are the exact opposite of loving and may even be seen as
clinically insane. For example, most people in large cities vigorously deny how
noisy, dirty, dangerous, expensive, ugly and completely inappropriate urban
living is even though the environment itself is responsible for so many of the
horrendous problems encountered in these unsustainable, inefficient,
ineffective and uninhabitable population centres -
rural life has been similarly degraded. Instead of acknowledging how they
really feel, changing their lives and moving somewhere healthy, beautiful,
peaceful and appropriate, people simply pretend, vehemently defend their
unjustifiable perceptions, compensate by greedily accumulating money and
expensive and unnecessary possessions, reward themselves with excesses of food
and drink and obsessively escape into wasteful, boring and trivial fantasies
which are used to replace (but which detract from) the enjoyment of real life -
films, books, comics, magazines, radio, television, concerts, the arts, games
and sport. Human beings only ever value and care for those things that they
really strive for, not the things they can so easily buy, yet people today are
inexcusably indulged and able to so easily acquire possessions without first
showing any necessary prerequisite maturity, responsibility and appreciation. In
fact most males and females today show clearly that they are totally unable and
unfit to handle and productively use the additional amount of wealth and
leisure time available and the entire planet is increasingly being treated as
some sort of preschool playground for the self-gratification of emotionally
stunted, aged delinquents desperate to escape reality with all their infantile,
intrusive, noisy, expensive and dangerous toys, pastimes, hobbies and other
recreational activities.
As
in the final days of all previous dying civilisations,
peoples’ repressed anger, pain, fear and guilt today are increasingly being
focused into indulgent, unproductive and non-essential distractions and
frivolous, inconsequential and pointless contests of which the childish ball
sports (football, cricket, golf, baseball, basketball, tennis, hockey, bowls
etc.) and the Olympics are the most infamous examples. There is absolutely no
need for organised, competitive sports anyway as
mature adults stay fit and healthy in the natural course of an active, sensible
and fulfilled existence. Being genuinely healthy means being emotionally open,
relaxed, peaceful, quiet, giving, patient, strong (in spirit) but gentle for a
man and completely free from all disease and sickness - in contrast all modern ‘sportsmales’ and ‘she-males’ are the exact opposite of this
- tense, tight, self-absorbed, closed, un-ggiving, rough, frantic, noisy
under-achievers and inappropriately muscled, misshapen mutants doing nothing of
substance for anyone else, the exact opposite of their personal best. The
obsession with competing and winning (whether at sports, other games, in
business or even in court) is no different to any other addiction, the
preoccupation of all those who will not openly acknowledge and deal with their
true inner feelings of inferiority, insecurity, inadequacy and impotence, the
inevitable legacy and clear indication of childhood deprivation, neglect, abuse
and invalidation. The general quality of life of the whole world could also be immeasurably
improved if all the resources so scandalously squandered and misused in such
selfish and idle pastimes and games were more sensibly, justly and humanely
re-allocated to heal, shelter, feed, clothe and transport those genuinely in
need, especially the children of the poorer countries, one of whom dies every
two seconds from fully preventable causes. The insane priorities, refusal to
live simply, sensibly, equitably and sustainably, the hoarding and deliberate
unwillingness to give and share wealth, so common in the so called “civilised", industrialised
nations (and most especially by older people and many so-called “Christians”)
is an inexcusable act of shameful violence which directly causes so much
suffering, disease, death, conflict, crime and environmental destruction!
The
process of emotional conditioning and repression which underlies all selfish,
violent and greedy behaviour begins very early in
life and is a direct result of how babies and young children are treated and
fed worldwide from conception onwards. Whenever babies cry, they have a breast,
bottle or dummy pushed often roughly into their mouths, not in response to, nor
real concern for, their nutrition or well-being but just to keep them quiet and
stop them showing how they really feel. Fathers and mothers everywhere will not
allow their babies to cry even when this is healthy and necessary because their
children's distress so effectively brings to the surface feelings of their own
that they are absolutely desperate to avoid acknowledging and dealing with. Most
babies in western countries are grossly overweight due to assaultive
over-feeding on far too much fluid, fat and protein yet do not receive an
adequate, sufficient or balanced diet - the subsequent disastrous effects on
adult eating and drinking habits and weight are obvious. To consider so
stupidly that babies have only one feeling, hunger, which is not really a
feeling at all, is a myth perpetuated and promoted by ill-informed parents and
by most so-called paediatric "experts”, a
reflection of their own unresolved emotional agendas, extensive ignorance and
lack of any true self-awareness.
In
fact babies all over the world cry in protest about the real neglect,
deprivation, intrusion, oppression, abuse, invalidation, inconsideration and
rough handling which to a large degree is a typical feature of virtually every
single baby’s environment from the womb onwards and especially the lack of
appropriate holding by someone peaceful and caring which builds trust. Rather
than listen and respond to what babies are trying to tell parents everywhere
about their needs for peace, quiet, sufficient undisturbed rest, gentleness,
consideration, care and lots of proper holding (as well as a generous, balanced
diet, sufficient, appropriate clothing and an uncluttered, clean, tidy,
pleasant smelling home around natural, beautiful, unpolluted surroundings) and
change their lives accordingly, "little people" everywhere are
effectively threatened, coerced, bribed and terrified into silent submission
and have all their precious feelings and accurate perceptions of parental (and
medical) brutality, selfishness, dishonesty, cowardice, greed, double
standards, pretence, irresponsibility, foolishness, ignorance and hypocrisy
invalidated. In this way people from a young age are aggressively discouraged
from acknowledging how they really feel, even to themselves, let alone
expressing this openly to others, and this essential, conditioned dishonesty
pervades the entire fabric of societies all over the world, with only
unimportant and superficial cultural differences. Nearly all people alive today
are unaware of the ways in which their unresolved emotional agendas
subconsciously constrain and severely limit their freedom of choice, narrow
their perceptions and involuntarily shape their decisions, attitudes and behaviour in unhealthy, dishonest and destructive ways. As
a consequence, there is almost no honest, open and constructive discussion
about what fundamental changes are necessary to do something tangible about the
horrifying state the world is in - just a endless
preoccupation with superficial symptoms with no examination of actual
underlying causes.
Even
the enjoyment of food and drink is itself spoiled because people from
conception are conditioned and encouraged to eat and drink in the most bizarre
ways and circumstances, far in excess of (or more rarely, much less than) their
nutritional and enjoyment needs - a pattern is established whereby food and
drink are used to hold down and deny feelings. Food is also improperly used by
many parents as a form of reward or punishment, often in response to the guilt
they feel about their own gluttony and obesity. Increasingly common eating
disorders such as anorexia nervosa and bulimia are a legacy of this - anorexia
is a response by girls especially to abuse whereby they choose to effectively
commit a slow form of suicide by starvation, directing their anger and pain
against themselves in this act of self-imposed, masochistic denial. In some
cases this behaviour can also be a desperate way of
trying to get proper attention, compassion and understanding in the absence of
real love or care. Bulimia (like asthma which not surprisingly now effects 20%
of all children in countries like
So-called
'civilised' man today eats and drinks like a greedy
savage and this is a legacy of the disgusting ways mothers (and fathers) fed babies
and young children a generation ago - it is far worse today! Later in life this
disgraceful behaviour becomes even more destructive
and ingrained in alcoholism, cigarette, cigar and pipe smoking, gum chewing,
drug misuse and the disgraceful amounts of tea, coffee, water, mineral water,
juice, soda, beer, wine and spirits unnecessarily consumed - all learned ways
of keeping down and denying feelings. There is so much nonsense written and
spoken by self-styled experts about the dangers of dehydration when the average
adult in any of the industrialised nations drinks
5-10 times the amount of fluid they generously need each day, an indulgent,
unhealthy and wasteful excess especially when it is considered that so many
poor people worldwide do not even have sufficient fresh potable water to drink.
Males and females sitting on bar stools, smoking and drinking bottles and cans
of beer or glasses of wine and spirits are just emotionally un-weaned 'infants'
in their high chairs with their babies bottles and dummies - Winston Churchill
was an wonderful example of this!
Females
especially today have no idea of how to relate to children or babies for all
their revolting “darlin’”, “blossom”, “honey”,
“sweetie”, “cutie”, “bubs” (yuk!) ways of referring to them like objects with
absolutely no heart or genuine feeling whatsoever. This is all an enormous
performance and the only feeling you get from them is fear, pain and anger,
most especially the space-invading, rude, busy and pseudo-efficient ones. In
contrast all parents and other adults who really love children treat them like
individuals, not like members of a generalised group,
use their personal names and do not address them as "son", "my
baby", "kids", "toddlers", "you lot" etc. In
fact females today in charge of babies and children typically deprive, abuse
and neglect them in the following specific ways:-
• compelling and encouraging them to consume
far too much cows milk, formula and juice, irresponsible and incompetent breast
feeding and/or the criminal misuse of dummies just to keep them quiet and stop
them showing how they really feel
• failing to wean them off all sucking by 12
months of age
• feeding them with no care whatsoever and
impatiently shovelling food into their small mouths
using spoons that are far too large and leaving food all over their faces
• expecting even small babies to feed
themselves and giving them unmanageably large portions not cut up properly such
as full slices of bread and whole pieces of fruit. Predictably their children
get food all over their faces and mothers are so depraved that they actually
enjoy this humiliation, at best roughly and inadequately wiping their faces
• by overdressing
them and not giving them enough fresh air and sunshine (or underdressing
them and exposing them to extremes of cold, especially their feet and hands)
• deliberately not
changing their nappies regularly and so leaving them to sit for hours in their
own bodily wastes. This is degrading, disastrous for self-esteem, a form of
torment and causes completely avoidable, extremely painful nappy rash, a clear
and unmistakable indication of child abuse and neglect
• keeping their unfortunate babies
artificially confined in strollers, 'safety capsules', cots and playpens for
their own selfish convenience while they sit around indoors for hours
incessantly talking to other lazy, idle, females at the top of their voices.
Alternatively they insanely impose upon them their own frantic, escapist
lifestyle and exercise habits by dangerously speeding their terrified children
around in strollers while they jog along and across busy main roads
• not caring for
their children's hair, nails and teeth - children increasingly reflect this
true neglect when they are older
• forcing their sensitive, vulnerable children,
often at only a few weeks of age, to endure loud noises, foul smells, bright
lights, rough handling and other brutal intrusions into their space. This is
especially true of all hospitals and shopping centre environments
• jiggling them up and down in response to
their own anxiety or inanely poking or prodding them, especially under the chin
or on the cheek
Babies
commonly have white, unhealthy skin, are grossly overweight by any sane
criteria, are smelly, sweaty, jerky, frantic, rough and noisy and constantly
dribble only because they are so emotionally distressed, put upon and totally
uncared for in every conceivable respect. This incidentally is one way in
particular that mothers effectively separate fathers from their children as it
is difficult for fathers to feel relaxed and comfortable about holding and
relating to their children when they are in this appalling state - it just
makes them furious and most are so abdicated that they say and do nothing to
stop this abuse and neglect.
In
complete contrast, babies who are properly loved and cared for from conception
will be clean, slim (properly proportioned like little people, neither fat nor
thin), neatly and comfortably dressed (without being dressed up) in soft, plain
coloured clothing made from natural fibres (not in acrylics, nylons or polyesters or in plastic
pants which do not breathe), will have lightly tanned, healthy skin and clear
eyes and will be alert, aware, peaceful, gentle, quietly confident. They will
have a natural resistance and immunity to all disease without needing drugs or
vaccinations and will never get sick nor contract any of the usual but by no
means normal childhood infections and ailments. Obviously they will be born
without complications in the best possible environment for everyone, at home,
with the assistance of immediate family and a competent, quiet, unobtrusive,
mature and aware midwife only, will be breast fed only until weaning begins
round 6 months and never, ever need a dummy or a bottle. The world would be a
much better, safer, less violent and more peaceful place if parents, especially
noisy mothers, had these dreadful plastic devices of deliberate deprivation and
intentional censorship stuck in their own mouths! They will be held and carried
a great deal especially in the first six (6) months of their lives after birth
and put to sleep cradled horizontally in arms, both of which build trust. They
will not be held upright when young, not wheeled around in mechanical devices
like prams and strollers, not smothered and treated as though they were not yet
born in baby pouches and not carted around and treated like pieces of luggage
in emotionally (un)safe capsules and backpacks. They will never be fed on
fundamentally deficient formulas or tinned baby food and will be called by
appropriate, sensible and straightforward names. Not by the increasingly
common, embarrassing, foolish and bizarre names which only serve to satisfy the
unresolved, childish emotional agendas of their competitive, insecure and
attention-seeking parents.
The
present standard of mothering is appallingly bad and leaving females today in
charge of children on their own is an absolute outrage and a shameful act of
cowardly abdication by males - females without support and guidance have no idea
of how to care for children properly. Instead of acknowledging that they are
not coping and need help every day, especially with their sons who have more
spirit than themselves, mothers typically oppress, distress, deprive and
neglect their children, disorient, confuse and play deceitful games with them,
fail to listen to and respond to their real needs, constantly talk around them
and give them no peace, treat them like fools, turn on them without warning,
order them about, handle them roughly, assault, scream at and intimidate them,
smother them, give them no space and obstruct them from growing and generally
treat them like extensions of themselves and objects for their own
self-gratification. They blatantly lied to prevent their own behaviour from being closely scrutinised
and exposed and without conscience simply altered reality to make themselves appear to be competent, knowledgeable, capable
and innocent of any blame and responsibility. However it should be understood
that mothers today often deliberately leave their children even when very young
unsupervised in potentially hazardous situations and then maintain that the
inevitable subsequent problems, “accidents” and injuries are somehow beyond
their control, deceitfully disclaiming all responsibility.
Despite
their smug and self-satisfied pretence of being mature and adult, almost no
females today have grown emotionally beyond early childhood, most are
physically and emotionally un-weaned and their attitude towards and treatment
of babies and children is no different to small girls with their dolls. It is
simply not true that males are directly responsible for, and involved in, as
much physical abuse and much more sexual abuse than females on babies and young
children. Females throughout the world today inflict much, much more damage in
both these respects mainly because they are left unsupervised (and unsupported)
in charge of children in the crucial early formative years - the consequent
effects on society are both appalling and obvious to anyone genuinely
interested in the truth. For example, those who believe that children are
really happy and enjoying themselves when they are being noisy, rough,
inconsiderate, competitive and frantic have not learned anything of any value
about life - children in this space are just angry, scared and in pain and are
trying to indirectly express and discharge these feelings in the only way they
are allowed and know how to following the appallingly immature example of all
the "adults" around them.
A
woman who really loves her family in action shows this in definite and specific
ways. She keeps her home clean, tidy and simply furnished (not cluttered or
full of useless ornaments but not obsessively clean or “antiseptic”), she puts
fresh flowers and/or aromatic pot pourris in the home
every day, she prepares, presents and serves good wholesome meals with care and
she keeps the family’s clothing clean, folded and neatly put away. The best way
to really care for clothes is to wash daily, most often by hand, with pure soap
and hang them out to dry in the sun and wind - washing machines are usually an
excuse for laziness, are incredibly wasteful, expensive, noisy, polluting and
even dangerous and most washing powders are harsh, unpleasant smelling and
leave clothes feeling rough - ironing is a total waste of life. Finally and
most importantly, she is proud to be true to her fine, womanly essence being
soft, gentle, fragile, sensitive, vulnerable, quiet, modest, open, honest,
unselfish, serving (not as a servant but as a companion), giving, sharing,
active, diligent, reliable, trustable, faithful and considerate of everyone’s
physical and emotional space, meek and completely lost without at least one
concerned and involved man to love and protect her and to spend time with her
each and every day. She does all this gracefully and cheerfully without
complaint as it is a real blessing to be a woman, wife and mother, given
appropriate support from a husband who is a real man, and only takes a few
hours each day. This is the only way a woman can show real love for her family
and all other behaviour is simply an escape, the
various ways in which females increasingly avoid confronting the truth about
their awful relationships with their own mothers, expressing how they really
feel about their childhoods and so growing up.
For
a woman to be a wife and mother in action requires her to first be able to look
after her own body and spirit without indulgence, the first, simplest and most
basic aspect of being a real adult - you cannot care for or advise anyone else
about anything until you first learn to care for yourself! This means being
slim (neither fat nor skinny and age and race are irrelevant), peaceful and
getting plenty of fresh air, sunshine and gentle and unhurried exercise by walking,
swimming and in the natural course of an active, serving life each day. It also
requires that a woman be honest and direct with her husband about all her
physical, emotional and spiritual needs, something almost no women do today. Despite
their well developed delusions of competence, caring and coping, females who do
not show this simple mastery of body and spirit know nothing about themselves
or about life - all their opinions and advice are just worthless nonsense,
presumptuous impertinence and foolish hypocrisy, to be resolutely ignored and
treated with contempt.
The
tragic truth is that none of your own mothers did what they were supposed to do
and were just angry, scared, guilty, confused and
distressed, at best beneath a thin layer of coping pretence. In reality they
were all anything but quiet and gentle, were demanding and very indulged with
money, possessions and food and drink and totally inconsiderate of your real
needs and feelings. They were masculine in the real sense of the word in hair,
dress and manner (or sexual which is just as unwomanly), vulgar and coarse (or
pretended to be prim and proper), were competitive, aggressive, divisive and
game playing (separating you both physically and emotionally from your fathers,
brothers and sisters), were controlling and devious with food and at best made
excuses and apologised without ever really trying to
change. Also they were fundamentally untrustworthy, treated their sons
(especially their eldest) like surrogate husbands or boyfriends to compensate
for their emotionally and physically absent husbands (your fathers) and In
particular your mothers focused against you all the anger and pain they felt
but would not openly express and constructively deal with about their own
fathers, brothers and husbands. Because they were so lost, they lacked any
foundation in themselves, changed their behaviour and
opinions to suit each and every situation that they were in and their various
theories about living and spiritual beliefs in particular were a complete
fantasy, often contradictory and totally removed from reality.
They
also used their daughters to fulfill their own responsibilities and so many
mothers today do very little around the house except put on an enormous
performance and complain for no valid reason. Using a number of childishly
simple ruses and transparently obvious ploys, they deceive their gullible
husbands into believing that they have been actively and productively occupied
during their absence at work. Unused household appliances like vacuum cleaners,
ironing boards, baskets of unfolded washing or buckets and mops are
conspicuously put where they cannot be missed to make it appear as though they
are in the middle of housework. Alternatively the same items of clothing are
left for days and days outside on the washing line regardless of the weather. Immediately
their exhausted spouses entered the house after a long day at work, their wives
launch into a long complaint about how difficult their day has been, despite
spending most of the time sitting, talking and watching TV or involved with
non-essential external distractions (like gardening) well away from the chaos
and loneliness of their homes.
Although
husbands and fathers for several generations have seriously abdicated their
emotional responsibilities and mistakenly defined their roles mainly in terms
of financially providing for their families, misusing work as an excuse to
escape from their families and to try to compensate for their own feelings of
inadequacy, inferiority and impotence, many have fulfilled this limited
perception of their paternal obligations well. In the process they have
(foolishly and needlessly) chosen to endure a lifetime of virtual voluntary
slavery in demeaning, unhealthy, trivial jobs eight hours or more a day. In
contrast, however, the same cannot be said of so many lazy, freeloading wives
and mothers who put down their husbands due to their own guilt.
Rather
than being direct and honest, your mothers and other female relations commonly criticised and complained about their husbands (and
children) behind their backs, often to complete strangers, and treated them
with no real respect or loyalty, especially in their own homes. Despite this,
most females today actually enjoy being left largely on their own in charge of
the house, food, money and the children because no-one can see how little they
do and what they get up to. Your mothers typically off-loaded guilt by blaming,
criticising and putting onto other people
(particularly onto their children and husbands) everything that they refused to
face about themselves and their own misbehaviour. For
example, patronising and disapproving females are
invariably grossly overindulged and underutilised
themselves (especially those that make a fuss about “working” hard) and always
have a great deal to be ashamed of in their own lives and relationships - they
should themselves be fairly treated with disapproval, contempt and disgust.
In
effect your mothers knew nothing about how meals should be eaten and nothing
about the preparation and presentation of good food with care. White bread,
rice, flour and pasta, boiled, peeled and over-cooked vegetables, far too much
meat and white sugar, boring, monotonous, processed, frozen, canned,
nutritionally deficient food (especially the rubbish fed to babies), tables
cluttered with bottles, jars, plastic bags and cardboard packets and meals
eaten amongst noise, chaos and confusion are all a legacy of the previous
generation of ignorant and useless mothers and grandmothers and their equally
negligent husbands who made no serious objection. They knew nothing about how
to dress themselves or their children appropriately - teenagers and young
adults dress and wear their hair today as a direct reflection of and reaction
to how badly they were dressed and had their hair (not) cared for and cut as
children. Most seriously, they knew nothing about their real needs as women and
had no idea of how to express their feelings directly, honestly, openly and
constructively.
In
fact females today will do anything and invent any excuse to avoid being women,
wives and mothers; they will talk endlessly about it, study it, supervise and
hold conferences about it, encourage and advise others how (not) to do it,
write reports, articles and books about it, organise
support and discussion groups to deal with the subject and escape out of the
home to make money (which is certainly not real work for any woman) - anything
but be quiet, gentle, clean, tidy, active, thoughtful, helpful, considerate,
self-aware, honest and serving women. Most spend so much time obdurately
sitting, doing nothing except idly chattering, smoking cigarettes and drinking
endless cups of tea and coffee that they get fat, develop enormous hips,
behinds and mouths and have countless opportunities to create mischief, cause
trouble, play games, invent distractions for themselves and others and waste an
enormous amount of time and other resources. They especially enjoy taking the
focus off their own laziness, disloyalty, infidelity, abdication of
responsibility, ignorance and appalling standards of hygiene and diligence by
making countless excuses of no foundation, by finding fault with other people
or by pontificating with self-important authority about things of which they
are totally ignorant.
Females
only behave as they do these days in order to cope indirectly with their
feelings, both past and present, especially those repressed from their own
early childhoods. They are so lost, masculine, frantic, demanding,
attention-seeking and angry today because males are simply not in action being
men, husbands, fathers, brothers, uncles, grandfathers and Ministers and are
leaving females (and children) alone, over-extended, unsupervised,
unrestrained, unprotected, unassisted and uncared for. Females fill far too
large a space in this world, completely disproportionate to their absolute
importance, significance, relevance, innate ability and strength of spirit only
because males everywhere are indulging them shamefully, hiding behind them and
using them to avoid facing the terror, outrage and pain that they feel
themselves about the absence of a proper relationship with their fathers. Males
try to compensate for this by encouraging females to dress, wear their hair and
behave in a masculine way, by treating them as “mates” and by expecting, even
forcing them to be able to do things that are well beyond their physical,
emotional and spiritual capacity. Males by abdication also focus all the rage,
pain and fear they feel (but have not expressed) about their own mothers
against women in general, most especially against their own wives, sisters,
daughters and female 'friends' and colleagues. They do this by not filling the
space they themselves should occupy, by setting all females up as mothers, by
pandering, deferring to and being ingratiatingly obsequious towards them, by
refusing to stand up to them and tell them the truth, by allowing them to make
fools of themselves (how females dress and behave today is quite tasteless,
macabre, embarrassing and bizarre), by encouraging them to over-extend
themselves and by voyeuristically watching them deplete and destroy themselves.
This effective cowardice is without doubt the worst and most common form of
violence directed by males against females today. Males certainly indulge
females by encouraging misleading delusions about how caring, competent,
capable, strong and committed to non-violence, peace, family unity, morality
and spirituality they are. Males and females both refuse to acknowledge and
accept the truth that men are stronger in spirit than women (not better but
stronger) and that it is a man’s responsibility to unselfishly ensure that the
women in his life are cared for and protected in every possible sense, that
they feel secure and safe, are set appropriate limits in love and are able to
trust and share all their feelings openly and honestly with him without being
threatened, assaulted, ignored, made fun of, put down, invalidated or
abandoned.
Women's
liberation is nothing whatsoever to do with women or with freedom and is a form
of self-imposed masochism better referred to as female bondage. In fact it
encourages women to deny how they really feel and to behave in ways that are
destructive of, and totally inconsistent with their true essence and needs. Females
will do anything rather than face the truth about how they were used, molested
and abused directly and by default by both their fathers and mothers, about how
their mothers refused to open up their hearts to them and about how little
their mothers taught them about the pleasure, joy and fulfillment of being real
women, wives and mothers. Females generally try (unsuccessfully) to deny and
escape the pain and outrage which is an obvious legacy of the lack of a proper
relationship with their mothers and to compensate for the complete absence of
real men by avoiding being women and trying to be like the males around them. They
behave just like them, dress like them, wear their hair short, try to be taller
and appear bigger with high heels and shoulder pads and shake hands which is a
greeting between men. They also compete with them and in this way have
completely taken over men's space, inappropriately focusing all their
unresolved anger against them in this way. The worst females today actually
hate males and try their best to obliterate or at least render them irrelevant,
demeaning and trivialising males as mere sperm donors
and generally ridiculing and humiliating them both privately and publicly.
Feminists
actually hate their own womanliness and try to do all they can to discredit and
destroy it, faithfully following the previous efforts of both their parents and
the example of their mothers in particular. So many relationships between
females today are in fact lesbian in nature, if not sexually so then at least
physically and emotionally, just as a great deal of the usual (but by no means
normal) behaviour by groups of males can be
truthfully viewed as essentially homosexual. The sex role stereotyping so
common today is totally contrived, gives entirely false, unrealistic and
unsustainable expectations about life for females, limits their possible
enjoyment of life enormously and lowers their true self-esteem. Anyone that is
not aware of the obvious physical, emotional and spiritual differences between
men and women has learned absolutely nothing of value about life or about
themselves and to say that men and women are somehow "equal" or
identical is meaningless, misleading, fatuous nonsense. Despite this, the
foolish fallacy of sexual "equality" is imposed upon vulnerable,
impressionable, defenceless and completely
intimidated children in schools (and rigidly enforced in the work place) all
over the world causing appalling sexual confusion and an enormous amount of
violence with disastrous present and future consequences.
Far
from being patriarchal, all western societies today are effectively matriarchal
(and have been for centuries) as females are left unsupervised in complete
control of the key positions which largely fashion and mould the perceptions,
attitudes and behaviour of babies and children when
young - these are extremely difficult to subsequently change. Females
consequently exert an influence within society that is far greater than males
even though this is not widely acknowledged nor understood. No matter what the
apparent situation externally, every decadent and dying civilisation
in the entire history of mankind has shown a similar pattern of emotional
dishonesty and denial along with this sexual confusion - when females (and
small spirited males) are effectively in charge, complete anarchy, chaos,
injustice, violence and decay results. Clearly, men and women are different in
essence and are supposed to complement (not compete with) one another,
contributing individually as husbands and as wives within a real marriage and
fulfilling their children's different needs of them as fathers and as mothers. In
contrast, the great majority of relationships today between parents are just
convenient liaisons based entirely on mutual dishonesty, depravity,
selfishness, irresponsibility, greed and hypocrisy where both sides use one
another (and their unfortunate children) to avoid facing the truth about
themselves, their own parents and their lives.
It
is accepted today that females somehow have the right to humiliate, ridicule, patronise, condescend to, treat with contempt, belittle, criticise, ignore, argue, disagree and dispute with,
contradict, compete with, take over the space of, intrude upon, play games
with, discriminate against, cause trouble for, order about, provoke, threaten
and physically assault males, especially their husbands, sons and grandsons,
whenever and wherever it suits them, often in public. In addition so many females today behave and
dress in garish, crude, vulgar, coarse, explicit, immodest and tasteless ways. All
this unacknowledged and largely un-rebuked violence embarrasses and absolutely
infuriates boys and young men especially - for this reason alone, only fathers
(and other adult males) should ever chasten their sons, never, ever any female.
Rather than deal openly, directly and productively with the lethal rage all
this behaviour inevitably causes, males deny, hold
down and accumulate these feelings over time. They then express these repressed
feelings inappropriately as violent outbursts physically directed at other
males (especially in competitive and aggressive behaviour)
or focus them against themselves or against vulnerable, convenient targets like
children, living creatures and the environment.
All
males, especially those who assault, rape or treat females as sexual objects,
show clearly that they have been used, abused, molested, assaulted and
similarly violated themselves as children by their own mothers and other female
relatives, health professionals and teachers. This in no way condones nor
excuses the consequent violent behaviour but provides
a much more honest, fair, balanced and less discriminatory framework within
which to understand and constructively deal with this increasingly common,
grossly misrepresented and widely misunderstood problem and apportions the
blame much more fairly. Males certainly need to face the truth about the way
females commonly behave and stop allowing unfair bias against themselves by
over-emphasising paternal responsibility and by
accepting a grossly disproportionate burden of guilt in so many domestic and
other personal and employment situations. Mothers of all those who commit
violent crimes against females are actually more culpable than the offender
themselves for these horrendous offences as they have effectively emasculated
their sons all their growing lives - fathers are similarly responsible, either
directly for their own abuse, neglect and deprivation and/or by default for
what they have so spinelessly allowed other people to do to their sons (and
daughters) by their useless, ineffectual abdication! In fact, all violent
cruel, unhealthy, destructive, dangerous, reckless and competitive behaviour by males is an understandable attempt to
compensate for this emotional castration by their mothers, for the deprivation
of healthy affection and invalidation from their fathers, so as to feel manly
and in control and to offset real inner feelings of inadequacy, impotence,
insecurity and inferiority. With homosexuals the anger is turned inwards
against themselves, negating their real needs and destroying their true manly
spirits. Lesbians similarly are inappropriately focusing all their anger at
males in general, reacting to the obvious childhood sexual abuse and/or
effective abandonment by their fathers and other male relatives but rarely
acknowledging that their mothers often colluded in the abuse. Both homosexuals
and lesbians continue the destruction and denial of their true essence began by
both their parents and their so-called sexual preferences or orientation is
never an innate propensity or genetic predisposition but rather yet another
example of involuntary, learned masochism. In both cases they avoid any close
relationships with the opposite sex based on honesty and intimacy because these
would bring such intense and terrifying feelings to the surface. This is only
an extreme example of what is happening more generally throughout the whole
world in heterosexual relationships which avoid a faithful, long term
commitment and lack real respect and mutual devotion.
Mothers
are also partly responsible when their husbands sexually interfere with their
daughters as they always know or at least strongly suspect what is going on -
by doing nothing, they provide their complicit support and encouragement. If a
mother really doesn't know what is going on, this ignorance itself indicates
how little love, trust and honest communication exists between her and her
daughter - this disgraceful and inexcusable "sin of omission" creates
exactly the sort of environment in which abuse can occur and continue to occur
without restraint. Many mothers are in fact fully involved accessories who
actually set up and promote the paternal abuse in the first place, actively
participating in or deriving voyeuristic pleasure from the subsequent violation
of their daughters - this helps them avoid facing what their own fathers (and
mothers) did to them. Medical examinations of children's genital areas are no
different in substance to abuse, are always unnecessary and avoidable, are
often prompted by unacknowledged depraved motivations by both doctors and
parents alike and invariably cause immense emotional distress and
embarrassment, especially for girls with male doctors and for boys with female
doctors.
All
those who sexually abuse children in any way have always been similarly
violated themselves when young, especially sons by mothers and other female
relatives and daughters by fathers and other male relatives, and nearly all
children today are being molested and interfered with to some degree. Daughters
in particular from a very young age are allowed and encouraged by both their
parents to relate sexually and behave in ways which are highly inappropriate
such as putting their legs around their fathers, sitting on their shoulders or
riding astride horses (which is clearly sexual, unhealthily stimulating, power
motivated and attention-seeking). Both fathers and mothers today commonly
encourage their daughters to place themselves in potentially hazardous
situations and this often results in violence that was completely avoidable
with proper care. Rape cannot be justified nor excused on any grounds
whatsoever but most of these cowardly attacks could simply be avoided if women
took sensible precautions, ensured they had the constant support and protection
of a concerned man (father, brother, uncle, husband, friend) and never went out
alone at night nor lived (so selfishly) by themselves. Real adults are wise and
responsible and deal with the way the world is, not the way it could be or
should be. Daughters are also permitted to dress explicitly and expose and
flaunt themselves immodestly and suggestively, much like prostitutes, yet these
same females when older become unreasonably outraged and upset if males
understandably react appropriately to this unmistakable display of obvious
enticement, a real double message and an act of violence in itself. Males have
their personal space transgressed involuntarily in this way every single day
both in public and in all sections of the media, often with no prior warning. Even
if the more twisted of them express no objection because they are such users of
women unwilling to grow up (especially those aged infants with an obsession
with women's breasts who are un-weaned and were probably bottle fed), it is
still essentially a form of violence. Real men are of course offended and
disgusted by this uninvited exhibitionism, just as they are by the same behaviour by males, and never treat women as sexual objects
or in any way take advantage of them whether encouraged or allowed to do so by
them or not.
Men
who enjoy a really loving and fulfilled relationship with their wives never
ever abuse, molest or even flirt with their daughters, grand-daughters or with
any other females nor relate superficially to them like "pretty",
sexual objects for display or to impress other males. Therefore abuse can only
occur in families where both parents are avoiding dealing with the mutual
dishonesty, pretence, selfishness, irresponsibility, lack of affection and
passion and general mistrust that exists in their own relationship and facing
the consequences of this for their children. Almost all sons are treated like
surrogate husbands or boy friends by their mothers today and daughters like
surrogate wives or girl friends by their fathers and it is difficult to find a
family where there is proper care, respect, modesty and distance in these key
relationships which later form the basis for marriage. There is in effect a
great deal of thinly disguised abuse in most families dishonestly represented
as normal affection - sons are sexually fondled, hugged, touched and kissed on
the lips by their mothers (and other female relatives) and daughters similarly
by their fathers, grandfathers and uncles - often the abuse is far worse than
this.
Virtually
all relationships between males and females today involve an enormous amount of
indirect, unacknowledged fear, anger and pain, something clearly evident in the
increasingly common and literally deviate physical contact so casually referred
to as sex. Most sex is self-serving, far from honest, healthy, necessary or
normal, is nothing whatsoever to do with love or love-making, it confuses
physical connection with closeness, intrusion with true intimacy, lust with
passion, domination with unselfish leadership and is at best a desperate
attempt to escape loneliness and to feel some softness and gentleness (for
males), some firmness and strength of spirit and security (for females) and
some semblance of closeness to another human being for both. Males and females
try unsuccessfully to satisfy unfulfilled childhood needs for affection through
inappropriate physical contact with the opposite sex (increasingly the same
sex!!), to compensate for the total absence of healthy hugging and holding, in
particular for sons by their fathers and for daughters by their mothers. At
worst sex is a sado-masochistic aerobic performance,
a depraved and perverted mutual exchange of anger and pain and the
self-gratifying use and abuse of one another, for males a desperate attempt to
escape back to the womb, for females a re-enactment of the abuse by their
fathers.
Because
you have not faced the truth about your own mothers, you have all formed
similar relationships with other females all based on the same unacknowledged
fear, pain, anger, guilt, pretence and mutual mistrust, the absence of any true
love, respect or truth and the (mis)use of one
another to avoid growing up. You all need to look closely at what your mothers,
wives and girlfriends did and do for you (and for your children) in action, not
at what they say they do or pretend to do - you will find enormous differences
between what is said and what is done, what they say also being full of lies,
half-truths, deceit, implausible excuses, double messages, platitudes and
convenient self-justifications. A real man accepts the truth of action, not
words, and acts accordingly. As men, you all need the gentle, considerate,
devoted care and companionship of a real woman to look after both you and your
children. If your present wives will not do so when
given appropriate support and direction, you have a fundamental, innate
responsibility to yourselves and your children to find a woman who will.
More
importantly, none of you has faced the truth about the key relationship with
your own fathers who in action were abdicated, ineffectual, physically and
emotionally absent, un-grown, aged boys and real users of women and children.
They behaved in all respects like your mother although generally not as bad
because of their greater strength of spirit. They were equally indulged in
food, drink, possessions, preoccupied with words (both written and spoken),
with power, money, position, influence and the opinions of others and they
respected the absurdity, foolishness and vanity of man's knowledge and
learning. Your fathers were critical, grumpy and unpleasant or pretended to be
nice and friendly, even behaving like jocular fools, or vacillated between
these two extremes, they were not generous (they did not give cleanly for the
right reasons and without guilt), were selfish and inconsiderate (they did
largely what they wanted to, especially in the evenings and weekends) and they
did not tell the truth. Your fathers focused all the anger they felt but had
not expressed about their own fathers against you and were so emotionally
insecure, jealous and competitive that they tried to destroy, invalidated and
rarely encouraged the constructive development of your own special talents,
especially those things they were gifted in themselves. Alternatively, they
completely took over your lives and used you to vicariously gratify and try to
relive and satisfy their own pointless and petty ambitions - your mothers did
the same with your sisters. Your fathers chose to not share their true feelings
with you, abandoned and distanced themselves from you and prevented you making
the vital growing transition from your mothers to them, so compelling you to
remain with, rely upon and spend far too much time as boys with various
females, unnaturally clinging onto them inappropriately for security and
comfort and remaining effectively emotionally un-weaned. This had the
additional consequences of overextending your mothers and creating jealousy
between other brothers and sisters, the so-called sibling rivalry. So many
fathers oppress, deprive and discriminate against their sons (especially those
with more spirit than themselves) yet outrageously indulge their daughters,
actively encouraging their daughters to engage in the same type of education,
employment and pursue the same trivial aspirations as themselves. Because it is
so easy emotionally, fathers increasingly spend time with their daughters (and
mothers with their sons), the exact opposite of what
is healthy, normal and natural.
Your
fathers were also more concerned about other peoples’ expectations and demands
of them than for their own needs or for the needs of their wives and children
and largely evaded their primary responsibilities as men and only bought their
families off with money and unnecessary possessions, the least important and
easiest to give of all their needs. They deliberately left you alone for your
entire childhoods with a succession of rough, angry and lost unsupervised
females, starting with your mothers, fully aware of the distress and damage
this would cause you and the serious implications and future consequences. When
completely avoidable problems, crises and so-called accidents predictably
occurred in their absence, they also disclaimed any responsibility, arbitrarily
and deceitfully blaming anyone but themselves or their equally culpable wives,
usually their unfortunate children. Their behaviour
was simple cowardice, sadism and hypocrisy, nothing more or less as they knew
full well what they were doing yet claimed to love you - with very, very few exceptions, you are all following their disgraceful example.
Families
today are effectively abandoned by fathers (and increasingly by mothers) and
children are expected to cope on their own and bring themselves up, arbitrarily
taken up and then discarded at the irrational whim of their selfish and guilty
parents. Those males that do at least spend time with their families only
pretend to be involved with their children, often ingratiate themselves to
their wives, try to take over their responsibilities and behave like “mother’s
little helpers”, another way of avoiding growing up and merely a performance to
impress other people. Males that do not face the truth about their childhoods
and grow up have none of the strength of spirit, firmness, gentleness and
patience of a real man and consequently have strange and bizarre ideas of how
to behave. To try to disguise their true emotional immaturity and compensate
for being unable to just be themselves, they affect a contrived, outward,
learned pretence of pseudo-masculine bravado. This is a peculiar (and
embarrassing) combination of some or all of the following depending on the
situation they are in - on the one hand being hard, rough, tough, intimidating,
cruel, dirty, untidy, disorganised, impatient,
cynical, sarcastic, sexual, foul-mouthed, crude, coarse, heavy-drinking,
competitive and macho, mainly towards and around other males, with whom they
engage in important-sounding conversations in deep voices. On the other hand
they are wimpy, useless, ineffectual, inadequate, dopey and inappropriately
friendly innocent little boys, especially around females.
Most
males (and females) today are completely ignorant and unaware of their own
feelings and fully determined to stay that way - as a consequence they are
totally untrustable with anything young, sensitive,
vulnerable and defenceless, clearly unfit and unable
to be proper husbands or wives, fathers or mothers. They haven’t the courage or
common sense to organise their lives sanely according
to their real needs, are closed, blindly accept life on an incredibly
superficial level and rigidly order and stubbornly refuse to even question the
foolish and unhealthy regimentation and essential triviality of their pointless
existences. Not surprisingly, they resent, are threatened by, are hostile
towards and jealous and intolerant of those who choose to try some sensible
alternatives and often spitefully try to spoil the better quality of life these
people as a consequence enjoy. Understandably they get unreasonably incensed
with anyone who behaves with appropriate firmness, reserve, disapproval,
directness and honesty, especially towards females - this confronts them with
the shameful dishonesty of their own lives and relationships, confirms that
something is fundamentally wrong with their own attitudes and behaviour and brings up intense anger of their own that
they are desperate to deny.
This
is especially true of older males today whose lives are completely dominated by
terror and guilt, a fully deserved recompense for a lifetime of refusing to
grow up, of parasitically living off the spirits of everyone around them, of
always taking the easiest path emotionally, of doing exactly what they wanted
to do when they wanted to do it and of taking from the world and giving the
barest minimum in return. In particular, those who make a great outward show
about how hard they have worked, have never really worked at all, they have
just made money, and their critical comments and disparaging remarks about
young people (patronisingly referred to as “boy”,
“son” “lad”, “lassie” or “girl”), the “alternative” culture and about the
unemployed only reflect their own shameful culpability and lack of courage. Old
people today in particular take no responsibility, show absolutely no remorse,
lie about their true activities and motives, fabricate all kinds of platitudes
and implausible excuses to justify their behaviour
and really flaunt their greed, laziness and essential selfish and irresponsible
immaturity.
A
man who really loves his family in action spends lots of time with them every
day, listens to and responds to their needs before his own and shares his
children's upbringing with his wife each day from their conception onwards,
especially during pregnancy and their early life. A proper father ensures that
his children are cared for and treated justly, fairly and firmly but gently -
it is never right to hit or shout at your children or to allow others to do so
because their misbehaviour is always an indication of
parental and other adult misconduct. A real man will also make certain that his
children are careful with all the resources they own and use and do nothing to
harm themselves, other people, living creatures or the environment as a whole. Most
importantly, a father encourages his family by example to care without
indulgence for their own bodies and spirits, to be open, honest, direct and
spontaneous with all their feelings and to express these constructively and
never violently. Although it is impossible for anyone not to get indignant with
the world in the state it is in today, it is only right to vent feelings
against people in writing or verbally, very loudly when necessary. The most
intense rage pent up from the past needs to be discharged responsibly and
appropriately - for men this includes sawing, chopping and splitting firewood,
gardening and clearing bush by hand, hitting punching bags and beating rugs
with a rod - any productive physical activity that is not destructive, violent
or unfairly disruptive to others.
It
is a man’s responsibility to support and give direction to his family in love
and the state of the world today is a standing testimonial to, and direct
legacy of, the complete absence of any dependable, concerned, caring and
involved real men. Males today provide no leadership, no example, no direction,
no protection and no restraint and set no proper limits except physical
punishment and intimidation which is worse than no limits at all. Because of
their abdication they place an intolerable burden on both women and children
and husbands increasingly hide behind their wives and virtually oblige them to
confront, deal with, be in charge of and make decisions about key aspects of
family life which they completely lack the innate ability. strength
of spirit and understanding to do properly. The dominance of little spirited
males effectively still under their mother's control (like John Howard and
George Bush) and inept females way out of their depth in positions of
leadership in families, organisations both public and
private, communities, regions and countries worldwide attests to the chaos and
violence that is an inevitable consequence of this effective matriarchy.
Females
and children are now physically, emotionally and spiritually leading with males
(and especially fathers) well behind. As a consequence there is no balance, no
foundation, no justice, no care with detail, no
clarity, no definition and an all-pervading sense of confusion, anxiety and
insecurity. Not surprisingly, women and children are indulged, lost, angry,
scared, frantic, distressed, over-extended, unfairly burdened, desperate,
unsure of themselves and unable to trust. The
solution, however is not to have women spend more time away from the home
making money but for men to spend more time at home with their families giving
proper support. A real man leads his family and always goes before his wife and
children, confronting the unknown and protecting them from potential harm in
what is a hostile and dangerous world, full of so-called gentlemen and other
parasitic users of women and children.
A
man’s wife and children clearly show in both appearance and behaviour
just how responsible, loving and successful (or otherwise) he is in real terms.
Whatever their apparent external success or achievements outside their homes,
most males today are total abject failures as men, husbands and fathers and
most use a tiny fraction of their full capacity, capability and strength of
spirit. If a man is doing what he should be at home, he and his wife and
children will be clean, tidy, gentle, quiet, peaceful, patient, slim, healthy,
suffer no disease, sickness or disabilities, be confident without pride or
arrogance, never competitive, care for their teeth, hair and nails, be
responsible with but not obsessed with money, power, worldly success, fame or
the accumulation of possessions, be aware, open, honest, spontaneous, giving,
sharing, generous, kind, modest, they will not be noisy, inconsiderate,
violent, rough or frantic, they will have a good sense of humour
without being cruel, sexual, vulgar, sarcastic, cynical or 'sick' and they will
all stand up for themselves and others appropriately, only ever expressing
their indignation without violence. They will eat sensible and balanced meals
sitting quietly, carefully and slowly and be active as a natural part of a
productive daily life style without the need for silly, selfish, wasteful,
artificial and completely unnecessary exercise and sports. Obviously they will
never smoke, take or need drugs of any kind, they will only drink alcohol in
moderation (one or two glasses of wine, always with meals) and will show a
genuine and sensible concern for the environment. They will choose to learn and
use a variety of practical skills, ensure their work is intrinsically healthy,
pleasurable, interesting and fulfilling, outdoors and physically active at
least some of the time, and will never work just for the money. Finally they
will really enjoy life to the fullest, appreciate its value, variety and
richness, explore their full potential as men and women, boys and girls, be
aware of all sensible alternatives in life and emphasise
quality not quantity, people not things.
In
contrast to this adult approach, your fathers used their occupations as an
excuse for running away from their family responsibilities and they lied about
the number of hours they needed to be absent in order to provide materially for
their families. In fact, what most males today call
work is really just making money, often a form of bludging,
a completely useless, unnecessary, destructive and unproductive waste of life
and only a means of buying selfish indulgences and unneeded possessions to
compensate for the lack of love and real quality in their lives. A job is not
real work just because it is arduous, physically, emotionally and
intellectually exhausting, difficult, time consuming and remunerated - quite
the opposite. Most occupations clearly detract from the quality of life,
contribute to or support injustice, inequity and corruption and degrade the
environment in serious and identifiable ways. Most employment has become
senseless drudgery and voluntary slavery, an unpleasant, degrading, monotonous,
repetitive and unfulfilling experience which takes place in unhealthy,
dangerous, noisy, dirty and polluted indoor environments. Despite this, many
males actively make work for themselves, prolonging or even inventing often
unpleasant tasks in order to keep themselves occupied. They do this because
they are reasonably treated like boys by the females around them, especially
their wives and girlfriends and so escape to their occupations to try to feel
like men there, defining their identity by what they do, not who they are (or how
they feel), in a sense trying to make up for the absence of proper paternal
validation and encouragement when they themselves were young.
Factories
and offices, no matter how plush or luxurious, are in essence just assembly
lines where human beings perform what in absolute terms are demeaning, trivial,
unimportant and meaningless tasks that use a small fraction of their real
capabilities - farms are no different and have been degraded into rural
factories which mistreat living creatures as unfeeling units in a production
line. People in most industries now sit for hours each day completely shut off
to everything around them, robotic extensions of their stupid, dirty,
dangerous, noisy, ugly, polluting and completely unnecessary mechanical and
electronic gadgetry which require no real skill or effort. Machines and other
devices now do all the real work, disturb the peace, distress people and
animals, spoil the potential fulfilment, satisfaction
and health to be had from active, physical labour,
make a mess and create more difficulties and problems in the long term. No
person could be employed in such a way, in such awful environments unless they
had been totally 'brainwashed' and conditioned to this insanity throughout
their entire childhoods by parents and an education system fully committed to
turning out cowered, co-operative and coerced robots with stunted expectations
about life, narrowed perceptions of their potential choices and no appreciation
of the priceless value of life itself. In particular, to work fixed hours on
the same days each week is obsessive, rigid, unhealthy and complete madness -
it ignores everyone's changing daily needs, is totally out of tune with the
seasons and with the weather and is a completely artificial way of constraining
living human beings to a pattern which is dictated by considerations of
financial expediency and ambitious convenience only.
Both your parents and other relations dealt
with their very reasonable guilt for what they were doing that they should not
have been doing (and for what they were not doing that they should have been
doing) by putting onto you what was in fact true of them and by learning to be
very effective at pretending to be nice, responsible and concerned people
outside their homes - for example, most so-called charity today is motivated by
such dishonest, externalised pretence. In truth all
the key adults in your childhood took out on you their own unfaced
anger, fear, pain and guilt by not listening to you, by denying you your simple
obvious needs, by actively discouraging you from being honest, open and
self-aware, by forcing you to repress your own feelings and by encouraging you
to only indirectly express these in the following ways:-
• Overeating or under-eating which today
affects most people worldwide
• All addictive behaviour
including smoking, any drug taking or drinking too much of any fluid (milk and
juice as babies, then soft drinks, tea and coffee and finally alcohol), all of
which is a legacy of bad breast feeding (or none at all) and the criminal (mis)use of bottles and dummies
• Being dirty, untidy, disorganised
and cluttered and imposing this on others
• Escaping into any world of fantasy or
unreality whether physical, emotional or spiritual - most reading of books,
newspapers and magazines, watching television, videos and films, playing with
computers, toys and games and all of the 'arts' are unproductive, unnecessary,
unprofitable and self-indulgent idle distractions initially encouraged by
parents and teachers
• Striving for, admiring or respecting power,
influence, fame, money and material possessions, by far the most dangerous,
destructive and addictive drugs today
• All obsessive, rigid, regimented, precisely
punctual and overly fastidious behaviour or being
careless, irresponsible, casual, "laid back' and never on time
• Being hard, tough and 'macho' or effeminate,
homosexual, weak, wimpish, helpless and like little
innocent boys
• Behaving recklessly, dangerously or engaging
in any activity that is rough or risky. This is essentially cowardly and
irresponsible as it takes real courage to be peaceful, gentle and safe
• Performing, showing off, attention seeking
and competitive behaviour - all competition is
wasteful, inefficient under-achievement
• Striving to achieve intellectually, being a
know-all, memorising vast amounts of (largely trivial
and irrelevant) information or being 'dopey', dumb and absent minded
• Spending hours inactively sitting or making
money indoors, often in stuffy, overheated, unhealthy, air-conditioned
environments, a lesson learned at school
• Being impatient, hysterical, rushing around
frantically, incessantly talking or going too slow and never saying much
• Being controlling, domineering and
aggressive or being inappropriately quiet, submissive, withdrawn, shy, timid,
awkward, unsure and embarrassed
• Being argumentative, disagreeable,
contradictory, nasty, sullen, grumpy, pessimistic, gloomy, dour, suspicious,
closed, defensive, spiteful, vindictive or vengeful
• Being indiscriminately open, giving,
friendly, agreeable, co-operative, helpful and optimistic
• Being sarcastic, cynical, patronising, disapproving, self-important, arrogant,
pompous, snobbish, smug, boastful, intolerant, biased, discriminatory and
racist
• Spending money foolishly as a reward or to
impress other people
• Being jealous, envious, nagging,
complaining, resentful, unappreciative and ungrateful, especially of the
precious gift of life
• Being destructive, harsh, cruel, callous,
violent, intimidating, threatening, hurting or harming anyone either directly
or by default
• Always blaming others, making up excuses,
self-justifications and platitudes and refusing to take responsibility, admit
fault, repent and apologise
• Being masochistic or hurting yourself in any
way (marking or tattooing skin, shaving, cutting hair short, piercing body
parts), allowing yourself to be used, feeling inappropriately guilty and
accepting a disproportionate share of blame.
• All coarse, crude and vulgar behaviour and flirting or relating sexually to females
• Lacking In compassion, being difficult,
unhelpful, perverse, delaying, obstructive, arbitrary and voyeuristically
enjoying suffering, accidents, disasters and crises - common in the criminal
justice system, emergency services, media and among health professionals and
those looking after children
• Vandalising
property, littering, polluting or destroying the natural environment
• Misusing, abusing, exploiting and being
cruel to animals - common on farms today
• Pretending to be always fit and well or
feeling sorry for yourself and being a hypochondriac
• Being self-centred,
inconsiderate, noisy (especially with machinery and power tools), shouting
unnecessarily, talking loudly, disturbing and intruding upon space
• Interrupting, talking over, ignoring,
pretending not to hear or failing to acknowledge other people
• Gossiping, interfering, being devious,
deceitful and provocative, manipulative, trouble making, game playing or
spoiling especially children's fun - very common amongst females today
• Lying, exaggerating, fabricating, distorting
or fantasising about reality
• All so-called 'mental' illness and behavioural disorders are conditioned, learned or forced behaviour, yet another manifestation of an intense,
repressed emotional backlog. This includes behaving strangely or bizarrely,
being obsessive or compulsive, phobic, anxious, depressed, suicidal, manic,
paranoiac, schizophrenic, autism, hyperactivity, attention deficit disorder.
• Breaking the law - widespread today by
police, prison staff, judges, lawyers, court personnel, doctors and nurses
(especially psychiatric), teachers, politicians and public servants,
particularly those involved with the poor, needy, handicapped and with children
and adolescents.
• Being self-righteous, sanctimonious,
superficially religious, affecting strange spiritual beliefs or supporting any
of the fashionable environmental causes.
These
learned ways of behaviour, often incorrectly
described as personality, are a direct result and clear indication of childhood
abuse, deprivation, neglect and invalidation and of parental encouragement and
example. However, if you do not learn to face the past, clear it away by
expressing all your repressed feelings and learn to deal constructively with
the present day by day, you will eventually become a sick, tragic caricature of
the person you once were inside. The denied backlog of un-faced feelings, all
stored in bodily tissue, will also cause an accelerated deterioration in body
and spirit and will inevitably result in some sort of disease or health
problems. If you behave inconsistent with your true essence for long enough,
you will become how you behave, just as your parents and grandparents have done
- like them, you will only learn how to cleeverly disguise the true situation.
This
process of degeneration increases rapidly once you become a parent if you
refuse to really listen and respond to your own children and choose to change. Children
provide parents with a mirror of themselves and their own behaviour
and help bring up feelings from their own childhood when at the same age. Also,
unless you tell your parents and grandparents the truth, they will never be
free - although they won’t admit it, they are only too aware of what they have
done and are still doing and are clearly weighed down with thoroughly deserved
guilt. Look at how people grow old and die today, ugly in body and spirit
underneath a fake facade, hardened in heart, in pain and afflicted with
ailments and disease, without dignity, privacy or self-respect, like terrified
and indulged children.
Parents
and grandparents throughout the world today are effectively conspiring to
disclaim any and all responsibility for their own children's behaviour when this behaviour is
always a natural, logical, reasonable and fully understandable response to what
they have been forced to endure. Rather than entertaining unproductive
fantasies about your parents and grandparents and about the standard of care
they gave you, it is important to look at your own behaviour
and at the overall state of the world as measured by all sensible indicative
criteria - the general quality of life, level of stress, incidence of disease,
'syndromes' and behavioural problems (virtually all children
now suffer some problem or other), crime, violence, suicide, vandalism,
environmental destruction, sexual promiscuity and immorality, marital
disharmony and divorce, 'accidental' deaths and injuries, recklessness, the
abuse of tobacco, alcohol and drugs, youth disenchantment and unemployment,
institutional corruption and the absence of real compassion and sharing. The
deplorable state of the world faithfully reflects the behaviour
of the previous two generations and cannot be attributed to any other cause -
nebulous 'society' cannot fairly be conveniently blamed as each individual has
a choice as to how they live their own lives and how they treat their own
children. Society only reflects the sum total of the behaviour
by most individuals in it.
In
truth, most parents today have not tried their hardest to love their children
and do not want what is best for them. Instead they simply go around in
circles, making the same mistakes day after day and in the process impose upon
their unfortunate children a worse version of their own childhoods. In
contrast, all those who have really responded to their children and changed
their lives accordingly know that it is a pleasure and a privilege to be a
parent - children hold the key and have the answers to all the world’s worst
problems, if parents would only listen. Without exception, those who complain
how hard and costly it is to bring up children are just selfish, hardened, lazy
and uninvolved takers and emotional parasites who are yet again trying to blame
their children for their own incompetence, inadequacies and impropriety, as
usual. In fact, all the critical things that people say about children are
invariably true of themselves, no matter how difficult this may be to accept. To
appreciate what people are really like inside and how they actually feel,
ignore their affected facial expressions and pretence and look them straight in
the eyes - most often you will be horrified!!!
Parents
and grandparents are in charge of the world and of most written and spoken
communication and are effectively colluding together in what is an
unacknowledged conspiracy of censorship, lies, deceit, slander, misinformation,
treachery, betrayal, violence and pretence. With very few exceptions the entire
world is rapidly deteriorating in all aspects of care and truth generation by
generation - only those who choose to not go along with the majority are able
to see the true situation clearly. Old people in particular promote total
fantasies about themselves and those who are like them, they deny they are
scared of dying and many foolishly claim to be going to heaven when it is clear
that they are headed in exactly the opposite direction, an unbelievably
horrendous place to spend the rest of all time but thoroughly deserved.
There
is effectively no real truth today where it is most needed and most counts -
between members of the same family. Parents and grandparents are so dishonest
and morally corrupt themselves that they both promote and enjoy this situation
as it helps to disguise and hide what they are really like and what they have
actually done. Young people have been so oppressed, so intimidated, so
threatened, so abused, so violated, so terrified, so lied to, so bribed and
given such a derelict example that they are deceived into wrongly believing
that it is impolite, unfair, rude, offensive, insulting, abusive and
disrespectful to tell their relations (or anyone else) the truth. In fact,
truth is an essential part of love and respect and it is an inexcusable and
cowardly abdication of responsibility to not always tell the truth, especially
to those you are supposed to most care for. Before they are intimidated into
silence by their parents, other relations, doctors, nurses and early childhood
care workers, that is exactly what babies and young children worldwide do every
day but no-one takes any notice. Because most adults will not listen unless
told very firmly and directly and with families in the state they are in today,
it is impossible for anyone to properly grow without at times loud and intense
outbursts of feelings - it is however important to persist in sorting these
feelings out properly and thoroughly. The absence of truth is the major factor
contributing to the proliferation of evil in the world as, without it, un-rebuked
miscreants are only encouraged and allowed to get worse and take further
advantage of the most vulnerable and defenceless in
society. Those who believe that there are many "truths", that truth
is "relative" or that love means different things to different people
or cultures have simply never known real love or truth at all.
I
cannot tell any of you what to do with your lives but I can tell you the truth
from personal experience and following a diligent and exhaustive search for any
and all viable alternatives over a number of years. As dealt with in more
detail elsewhere in Real Christianity, CHRIST offers true freedom as HE is the
only real and reliable source of understanding, strength, guidance and
protection to enable you to face the past, clear it away constructively and
deal with the present day by day in an honest, responsible and adult way. HE
will unfailingly lead you through what is a very intense emotional process and
this is nothing whatsoever to do with the example or teachings of any of the
established pseudo-Christian churches. Fortunately you do not need to take my
word for it but may simply try it - in contrast to the various theories and
spiritual absurdities peddled throughout the world today by so many self-styled
gurus, religious zealots, academics and human behaviourists,
real spiritual truth, faith and commitment are both provable and verifiable in
the course of your individual daily lives. CHRIST, if you ask HIM, will show
you clearly and unmistakably that HE exists and the rightness of HIS way. All
you need to do is be honest, really honest with yourselves and admit what those
of you with a conscience already know to be true in your hearts - something is
fundamentally wrong with your lives and you are desperately lost, lonely and
isolated.
A
good start and one you might all share is to openly admit the full ignorance,
foolishness, artificiality, rigidity, uniformity, nastiness and outright sadism
that were a feature of your schooling, a faithful representation of all that
was worst about your family and about your culture. Your parents sent you to
school (rather than give you a proper and enjoyable education) fully aware that
modern schooling is an unacknowledged exercise in child minding and
baby-sitting - they simply wanted no interruption to their own self-absorbed
existences. Modern schooling is totally unnatural by separating children away
from their families into large groups of one age supervised by one or two adult
strangers. Consequently there is no real integration or co-ordination into
family and community life - sons spend little time being taught by fathers,
uncles, grandfathers and older brothers, daughters by mothers, aunts,
grandmothers and older sisters - and the fragmentation of the extended family
is considerably aggravated by this contrived approach.
Modern
education is also physically and emotionally unhealthy, compulsively
preoccupied with the printed and spoken word rather than with life’s
experiences and a process of indoctrination full of hypocrisy, inconceivable
double standards, implausible explanations and platitudinous
self-justifications. Sitting indoors is the worst possible place to learn and
learning out of books or from TV, videos and computers is the worst possible
and least enjoyable way to learn. Most disgracefully modern education is the
criminal squandering of the best and most precious years of your youth and
completely fails to teach the most basic lessons of being an adult - caring for
your own body and spirit, understanding and constructively expressing your true
feelings and responsibly fulfilling your own needs. It taught you absolutely
nothing about self-awareness, real wisdom or knowledge, was completely obsessed
with intellectual achievement, power, money and the opinions of others (rather
than with individual self-determination and choice), encouraged you to compete
and perform, discouraged spontaneity, selflessness, sharing and individuality
and supported violence at sports and through teacher behaviour,
example and discipline.
Schooling
today stupidly tries to teach all children exactly the same amount and kind of
information, regardless of individual needs, most of which will never be
productively used, and it debases the learning process into a bizarre kind of
intellectual obstacle course. You were deceived and misled into believing that
life was not supposed to be easy and that you had to suffer to succeed, to
sacrifice today for tomorrow. If you reasonably and understandably rebelled or
questioned this effective imprisonment and enforced conditioning, all of which
is an insidious form of child abuse, you were assaulted, bribed, flattered or
otherwise coerced into cowered submission and conformity by those who were
simply trying to enslave you to their own insane unreality and impose upon you
a worse version of their own schooling and childhoods. The truth is that
directly or by default all your teachers were cowardly bullies, game-players
and trouble makers, devious schemers and manipulators, pompous posers, stupid
ignoramuses and immature aged delinquents. They outrageously misused their
pupils to avoid growing up themselves and for their own self-gratification - as
an audience, to convince themselves of the validity of their own trivial,
meaningless lives and as pawns in their petty power games, especially the
female teachers with boys. They did little to justify their salaries,
parasitically lived off your spirits and focused all their unresolved and un-faced
feelings against you. The “nice” ones were the worst, ineffectual and useless
voyeurs who stood by and did nothing fully knowing that they should have
prevented the worst of their colleagues from what was no different to thinly
disguised cruelty and child abuse. This is the truth and essence of all
schooling today.
Education
today is a complete waste of time and resources, does considerably more harm
than good, is largely divorced from real life and practical learning and
obstructs or at least rigidly controls free expression and spontaneous
discussion. It requires the assimilation of vast amounts of useless, trivial,
unimportant, entirely theoretical and often false information of no absolute
significance or value and is only of use if the sole purposes of life are
earning money and impressing other people. Education systems worldwide support
and rigorously enforce the delusion of sexual equality with its disastrous
consequences of confusion and violence. Finally it is schools, colleges and
universities that support the idle curiosity and fantasy of research and
experimentation and justify the disgraceful, immoral and inexcusable
theoretical foolishness of science and technology. This scandalously squanders
billions of dollars on inconceivable acts of mindless, useless folly such as
putting emotional infants into space, the ultimate indulgence and abdication,
while 40,000 children die each day from fully preventable causes requiring so
little care and expense. Education also directly and by default condones
wasting more money on displays, celebrations, processions, guns and armaments,
on housing art works, books and artifacts in galleries, libraries and museums
(when millions are homeless with inadequate food, water and clothing), for
useless reclamation, preservation and restoration work and for constructing
unnecessary school buildings, monuments, statues, fountains, public buildings
and churches yet somehow resources are never available to feed, clothe, shelter
and transport those genuinely in need.
In
fact education worldwide has mutated into an enormously expensive, complicated
and protracted business and everyone who makes money within and profits from
this morally and legally corrupt and immoral system has a considerable
emotional and financial vested interest in this situation continuing unchanged,
irrespective of the real needs of children, the very people the system is
supposed to serve. It is true to say that generally speaking, the worst
possible, most violent, ignorant and immature and least self-aware and capable
people are today in charge of children in crèches, day care centres,
preschools, kindergartens, schools, universities and colleges (as well as in
hospitals, camps, welfare, fostering and adoption agencies, detention centres and the entire justice, law enforcement and court
system).
It
takes real courage, determination, decency and integrity to read this
carefully, to consider the implications of it within your own lives, to be
really honest, direct and straight about your own behaviour,
to choose to change and at least consider and responsibly try some of what is
suggested. Instead many of you and especially those with children of their own
will predictably continue unrestrained foolishly believing that you can avoid
any unpleasant future consequences. When confronted with the truth, most of you
will tragically take one or more of a number of easy and convenient recourses -
you will ignore it, dismiss it lightly, take it over and pretend to agree with
it but do nothing of substance about it or get angry at, abuse, threaten and
try to discredit and even persecute those who speak and write it (John
15:22-25). In fact most people today generally flaunt and display a completely
cavalier attitude about their own improprieties and misconduct and stupidly
behave as though they will never be held to account for what they have so willfully
chosen to do - this is a very dangerous and misleading delusion indeed (Hebrews
10:31)!
I
need to give you the following warning in the course of my Ministry, something
you need to take both personally and seriously. You all have a will and you all
have a choice - if you turn to GOD in action HE will never, ever let you down,
HE will give you the courage and clarity to tell the truth to your relations
and friends and help you come to terms with and be healed of the damage,
distress and confusion caused by your own childhood. In the process HE will
clearly bless you with the only assets of any enduring value in this short life
- peace, joy, happiness, inner fulfillment,, real wisdom, no sickness or disease
of any kind, relationships based on mutual respect, honesty and trust, an open
and caring heart (without which you cannot properly enjoy anything), true
freedom of determination and choice (John 8:32), the generous provision of all
your material needs and full protection from 'accidents' and all forms of
violence without the necessity of you needing to defend yourselves or your
family in any physical way except to keep on telling the truth. By all these
reasonable standards and criteria of true success, many of you are total and
abject failures as human beings in every respect, disabled emotional cripples
and spiritual paupers who childishly cling onto material things as though they
can somehow compensate you for what in absolute terms are your loveless,
pointless, trivial and meaningless existences and impoverished quality of life.
If
however you refuse to listen, I can assure you that the GOD WHOM I serve will
increasingly afflict you more seriously both from within and without from this
point onwards as HE will not allow the needless suffering of children once the
truth is told. GOD's afflictions are a clear and
unmistakable indication of direct Divine intervention - inner fears, guilt and
confusion, disease, 'accidents' and untimely injuries and deaths, (un)natural disasters, no peace, no real joy, no security,
violence and theft, problems with relationships and no enduring enjoyment of
your family, material possessions, power, position and wealth. This is how a
compassionate and merciful FATHER through HIS conditional love provides a
compelling incentive and encouragement to change inappropriate and
self-destructive behaviour by chastening on the one
hand and HIS punishment of those who wilfully choose
to continue unrepentant and unrestrained on the other. Whether you choose to
change or not, I can promise that you will soon know the truth of all that is
written here - if this is an unpleasant revelation, it will have been your own
choice as it fairly and justly should be. GOD hears your every word, sees your
every action and knows every thought and imagination of your heart. It would be
a great tragedy and a pointless waste of life if you did not heed this genuine
and unselfish admonition and rebuke. It is time to grow up (I Corinthians
13:11) and learn to take proper care of yourselves and those whom you say you
love - it is the mark of a real man.
Faithfully,
Michael Israel †
2) To: Women Everywhere
I needed to write this to you in the course of my life and work as a
real Christian Minister, clearly chosen by GOD's own
leading and very different from those self-appointed frauds posing as Ministers
in all denominations of the so-called “Christian” churches today. As such, I
have a responsibility to speak and write the truth with care no matter what the
situation, circumstances or apparent danger. The spoken and written truth
always uncovers (but does not cause) repressed pain, fear, anger and guilt and
brings these unacknowledged feelings into conscious awareness. If you then
acknowledge and face these directly and deal with them responsibly and
constructively in an adult way, you will grow emotionally. In the process, you
will discover a way of life that is very different from what is accepted (and
endured) as normal in this world, a life of real quality, adventure, variety and
richness which neither position, money, power nor material
possessions can secure. In fact all these things are a distinct
impediment to experiencing any real quality in life if pursued as aims in themselves - tragically however, this is precisely what preoccupies
most males (and females) throughout the world today.
Many of you are fine, quiet, soft and gentle women of integrity, courage
and decency, each individually but differently blessed with gifts or talents
but commonly sharing the same essence as women. Sadly, due to this open and
caring spirit, you have all been very badly damaged and distressed by
childhoods of little real love or care and as a consequence have learned to
behave in a number of dishonest and indirect ways, detailed later on pages 9
& 10. In fact, you have never been validated, listened to nor allowed the
appropriate space in which to grow and develop, you have been indulged and
never set any limits in love and have not been given a proper example of how a
real woman, wife and mother (and Christian) behaves. You have no idea about
your own needs or your true worth and vulnerability as women nor
any idea of the essence of men or their real needs. This is not judgmental or
said in criticism of either you or your parents but is the truth and needs to
be said - it is generally true in a world so far removed from GOD (or real
love) with people everywhere dedicated to living in rigid, artificial and
self-destructive ways so completely contrary to their true physical, emotional
and spiritual needs and growth.
There is very little real love and care in families all over the world
and the only differences are the varied ways in which the situation is
presented and disguised. The evidence to support this conclusion is obvious to
anyone seriously interested in the truth as indicated by the following symptoms
- the deteriorating quality of relationshipps, the declining standards of
honesty, morality, decency, humanity and compassion, the increasing incidence
of sickness, disease, disabilities, self-indulgence, corruption, crime and
violence of all kinds and the escalation in addictive, attention-seeking,
dangerous, reckless and (self)-destructive behaviour
and environmental devastation and vandalism. Society at large merely reflects
faithfully what is happening within individual families and the situation in
the wealthier, industrialised nations is by far the
worst as the truth is subtly and deceitfully hidden beneath a thin facade of
well-practised, wordy pretence. Love is a feeling
translated into action and what is called love is nothing to do with love at
all - when the behaviour of most so-called adults
today is carefully examined, it is revealed as a mixture of selfishness,
dishonesty, irresponsibility, cruelty, greed and hypocrisy motivated mainly by
guilt.
It is imperative that each of you looks very carefully at the reality of
the family in which you were brought up as well as at the family for which you
are now responsible as a parent. This means examining your own actions and the
actions of those around you and comparing and contrasting these with what can
truthfully be described as sane, adult, honest, responsible, just, equitable,
considerate and caring. Very, very few people today have the decency, courage
and integrity to be straight, direct and honest in the examination of their own
behaviour, their own lives, their own parents and
grandparents, their own childhoods and their own society because this
inevitably demonstrates that modern lifestyle and relationships are the exact
opposite of loving and may even be seen as clinically insane. For example, most
people in large cities vigorously deny how noisy, dirty, dangerous, expensive,
ugly and completely inappropriate urban living is even though the environment
itself is responsible for so many of the horrendous problems encountered in
these financially and emotionally inefficient, ineffective and uninhabitable
population centres - rural life has been similarly
degraded. Instead of acknowledging how they really feel, changing their lives and
moving somewhere healthy and appropriate, people simply pretend, vehemently
defend their unjustifiable perceptions, compensate by greedily accumulating
money and expensive and unnecessary possessions, reward themselves with
excesses of food and drink and obsessively escape into wasteful, boring and
trivial fantasies which are used to replace (but which detract from) the
enjoyment of real life - films, books, comics, magazines, radio, television,
concerts, the arts, games and sport.
Human beings only ever value and care for those things that they really
strive for, not the things they can so easily buy, yet people today are
inexcusably indulged and able to so easily acquire possessions without first
showing any necessary prerequisite maturity, responsibility and appreciation.
In fact most males and females today show clearly that they are totally unable
and unfit to handle and productively use the additional amount of wealth and
leisure time available and the entire planet is increasingly being treated as
some sort of preschool playground for the self-gratification of aged
delinquents desperate to escape reality with all their infantile,
inconsiderate, intrusive, noisy, expensive and dangerous toys, pastimes,
hobbies and other recreational activities. As in the final days of all previous
dying civilisations, peoples’ repressed anger, pain,
fear and guilt today are increasingly being focused into indulgent,
unproductive and non-essential distractions and frivolous, inconsequential and
pointless contests of which the childish ball sports (football, cricket, golf,
baseball, basketball, tennis, hockey, bowls etc.) and the Olympics are the most
infamous examples. There is absolutely no need for organised,
competitive sports anyway as mature adults stay fit and healthy in the natural
course of an active, sensible and fulfilled existence.
Being genuinely healthy means being emotionally open, relaxed, peaceful,
quiet, giving, patient, strong (in spirit) but gentle for a man and completely
free from all disease and sickness - in contrast all modern ‘sportsmales’ and ‘she-males’ are the exact opposite of this
- tense, tight, self-absorbed, closed, un-ggiving, rough, frantic, noisy
under-achievers and inappropriately muscled, misshapen mutants doing nothing of
substance for anyone else, the exact opposite of their personal best. The
obsession with competing and winning (whether at sports, other games, in
business or even court cases) is no different to any other addiction, the
preoccupation of all those who will not openly acknowledge and deal with their
real inner feelings of inferiority, insecurity, inadequacy and impotence, the
inevitable legacy and clear indication of childhood deprivation, neglect, abuse
and invalidation. The general quality of life of the whole world could also be
immeasurably improved if all the resources so scandalously and self-indulgently
misused in such selfish and idle pastimes and games were more sensibly, justly
and humanely re-allocated to heal, shelter, feed, clothe and transport those genuinely
in need, especially the children of the poorer countries, one of whom dies
every two seconds from fully preventable causes. The insane priorities, refusal
to live simply, sensibly and sustainably, the hoarding and deliberate
unwillingness to give and share of wealth, so common in the so called
“civilized”, industrialised nations and most
especially by older people and by so-called “Christians”, is an inexcusable act
of shameful violence which directly causes so much suffering, disease, death,
conflict, crime and environmental destruction!
The process of emotional conditioning and repression which underlies all
selfish, violent and greedy behaviour begins very
early in life and is a direct result of how babies and young children are
treated and fed worldwide from conception onwards. Whenever babies cry, they
have a breast, bottle or dummy pushed often roughly into their mouths, not in
response to, nor real concern for, their nutrition or wellbeing but just to
keep them quiet and stop them showing how they really feel. Fathers and mothers
everywhere will not allow their babies to cry even when this is healthy and
necessary because their children's distress so effectively brings to the
surface feelings of their own that they are absolutely desperate to avoid
acknowledging and dealing with. Most babies in western countries are grossly
overweight due to aggressive, force feeding on far too much fluid, fat and
protein yet do not receive an adequate, sufficient or balanced diet - the
subsequent disastrous effects on adult eating and drinking habits and weight
are obvious. To consider so stupidly that babies have only one feeling, hunger,
which is not really a feeling at all, is a myth perpetuated and promoted by
ill-informed parents and by most so-called ‘experts’, a reflection of their own
unresolved emotional agendas, extensive ignorance and lack of any true
self-awareness.
In fact babies all over the world cry in protest about the real neglect,
deprivation, intrusion, oppression, abuse and rough handling which to a large
degree is a typical feature of virtually every single baby’s environment from
the womb onwards and especially the lack of appropriate holding by someone
peaceful and caring which builds trust. Rather than listen and respond to what
babies are trying to tell parents everywhere about their needs for peace,
quiet, sufficient undisturbed rest, gentleness, consideration, care and proper
holding (as well as a generous, balanced diet, sufficient, appropriate clothing
and a simple, clean and tidy home around natural, beautiful, unpolluted
surroundings) and change their lives accordingly, "little people"
everywhere are effectively threatened, coerced, bribed and terrified into
silent submission and have all their precious feelings and accurate perceptions
of parental (and medical) brutality, selfishness, dishonesty, cowardice, greed,
double standards, pretence, irresponsibility, foolishness, ignorance and
hypocrisy invalidated. In this way people from a young age are aggressively
discouraged from acknowledging how they really feel, even to themselves, let
alone expressing this openly to others and this essential, conditioned
dishonesty pervades the entire fabric of societies all over the world, with
only unimportant and superficial differences.
Nearly all people alive today are unaware of the ways in which their
unresolved emotional agendas subconsciously constrain and severely limit their
freedom of choice, narrow their perceptions and involuntarily shape their
decisions, attitudes and behaviour in unhealthy,
dishonest and destructive ways. As a consequence, there is almost no honest,
open and constructive discussion about what fundamental changes are necessary
to do something tangible about the horrifying state the world is in. Even the
enjoyment of food and drink is itself spoiled because people from conception
are conditioned and encouraged to eat and drink in the most bizarre ways and
circumstances, far in excess of (or much less than) their nutritional and
enjoyment needs - a pattern is established whereby food and drink are used to
hold down and deny feelings. Food is also improperly used by many parents as a
form of reward or punishment, often in response to the guilt they feel about
their own gluttony. Increasingly common eating disorders such as anorexia
nervosa and bulimia are a legacy of this - anorexia is a response by girls
especially to abuse whereby they choose to effectively commit a slow form of
suicide by starvation, directing their anger and pain against themselves in
this act of suicidal self-denial. In some cases this behaviour
can also be a desperate way of trying to get proper attention, compassion and
understanding in the absence of real love or care. Bulimia (like asthma)
reflects the internal battle between expression and suppression, between rage
and fear, between excess and deprivation, between aggression and depression, a
struggle for balance and survival. Most so-called adults today are physically
and emotionally un-weaned and suffer from pathological problems with eating and
drinking, especially when excessive drinking of all fluids is considered. ‘Civilised’ man today eats and drinks like a greedy savage
and this is a legacy of the disgusting ways mothers (and fathers) fed babies
and young children a generation ago - it is far worse today! Later in life this
disgraceful behaviour becomes even more destructive
and ingrained in alcoholism, cigarette, cigar and pipe smoking, gum chewing,
drug misuse and the enormous amounts of tea, coffee and soft drinks consumed -
all learned ways of keeping down and denying feelings. Males and females
sitting on bar stools, smoking and drinking bottles and cans of beer or glasses
of wine and spirits are just emotionally un-weaned, angry "infants"
in their high chairs with their babies bottles and dummies - Winston Churchill
was an wonderful example of this!
Females today have no idea of how to relate to children or babies for
all their revolting “darlin’”, “blossom”, “honey”,
“sweetie”, “cutie”, “bubs” (yuk!) ways of referring to them like objects with
absolutely no heart or feeling whatsoever - those who really love children use
their names and treat them like little people, not like objects. This is all an
enormous performance and the only true feeling you get from them is fear and
anger, most especially from the space-invading, rude, “busy” and “efficient”
ones. In fact they commonly deprive, abuse and neglect babies by forcing and
encouraging them to consume bottle after bottle of cows milk, juice and other
totally unnecessary fluid just to keep them quiet, by feeding them with no care
and shoveling food into them using spoons that are far too large, by leaving
food all over their faces, by overdressing them and not giving them enough
fresh air and sunshine (or under-dressing them and exposing them to extremes of
cold), by not changing their nappies and leaving them to sit for hours in their
own bodily wastes causing completely avoidable nappy rash (a clear indication
of child abuse and neglect) and by keeping them imprisoned indoors, often cramped
and restrained in strollers, cots and playpens for their own selfish
convenience. Babies have white, unhealthy skin, are fat, smelly, sweaty, jerky,
frantic, rough and noisy and dribble only because they are so emotionally
distressed and totally uncared for in every conceivable respect. This
incidentally is one way in particular that mothers effectively separate fathers
from their children as it is difficult for fathers to feel relaxed and happy
about holding and relating to their children when they are in this state - it
just makes them angry.
In contrast babies who are properly cared for from conception will be
clean, slim (properly proportioned as little people, neither fat nor thin),
neatly and comfortably dressed (without being dressed up) in soft, plain coloured clothing made from natural fibres
(not in acrylics, nylons or polyesters or in plastic pants which do not
breathe), will have lightly tanned, clear skin, will be alert, aware, peaceful,
gentle, quietly confident and will never get sick. Obviously they will be born
without complications in the best possible environment for everyone, at home,
will be breast fed only until weaning at 6-9 months and will never need bottles
and dummies - the world would be a much better and more peaceful place if
parents had these dreadful devices put in their own mouths! They will be
carried, held and put to sleep in arms which builds trust (instead of being
wheeled around in prams and strollers and isolated in safety capsules), will
never be fed on revolting formulas or tinned baby food and will have a natural
resistance to all disease and sickness without drugs or painful vaccinations.
They will be called by appropriate, sensible and straightforward names and not
by the increasingly common, foolish and bizarre names that only serve to
satisfy the unresolved, childish emotional agendas of their competitive,
insecure and attention-seeking parents.
The present standard of mothering is appallingly bad and leaving females
today in charge of children on their own is an absolute outrage and a criminal
act of cowardly abdication by males - females without support and guidance have
no idea of how to care for children properly. Instead of acknowledging that
they are not coping and need help every day, especially with their sons who
have more spirit than themselves, they oppress, distress, deprive and neglect
their children, disorient, confuse and play deceitful games with them, fail to
listen to and respond to their real needs, talk to them and treat them like
fools, turn on them without warning, order them about, handle them roughly,
assault, scream at and intimidate them, smother them, give them no space and
obstruct them from growing and generally treat them like extensions of
themselves and objects for their own self-gratification. Mothers today also
deliberately leave their children even when very young not properly supervised
in potentially hazardous situations and then maintain that the inevitable
subsequent problems, “accidents” and injuries are somehow beyond their control,
deceitfully disclaiming all responsibility. Despite their smug and
self-satisfied pretence of being mature and adult, almost no females today have
grown emotionally beyond early childhood, most are physically and emotionally
un-weaned and their attitude towards and treatment of babies and children is no
different to small girls with their dolls.
It is simply not true that males are directly responsible for, and
involved in, as much physical abuse and much more sexual abuse than females on
babies and young children. The most common form of domestic violence today is
the violence both physical and emotional of mothers towards their children,
especially towards their sons. Females throughout the world today inflict much,
much more damage in both these respects mainly because they are left
unsupervised (and unsupported) in charge of children in the crucial early
formative years - the consequent effects on society are both appalling and
obvious to anyone genuinely interested in the truth. For example, those who
believe that children are really happy and enjoying themselves when they are
being noisy, rough, inconsiderate, competitive and frantic have not learned
anything of any value about life - children in this space are just angry,
scared and in pain and are trying to indirectly discharge these feelings in the
only way they are allowed to and know how.
A woman who really loves her family in action shows this in material and
specific ways. She keeps her home clean, tidy and simple (not cluttered or full
of useless ornaments but not obsessively clean or “antiseptic”), she puts fresh
flowers and/or aromatic pot-pouris in the home every
day, she prepares and presents good wholesome meals with care and she keeps the
family’s clothing clean, folded and neatly put away. The best way to really
care for clothes is to wash them each day with pure soap by hand and to hang
them in the sun and wind to dry - washing machines are an excuse for laziness,
are incredibly wasteful, expensive, noisy, polluting and even dangerous and all
washing powders are harsh, unpleasant smelling and leave clothes feeling rough
- ironing is a total waste of life. Finallyy and most importantly, she is true
to her fine, womanly essence being soft, gentle, fragile, peaceful, quiet,
open, vulnerable, modest, chaste, honest, unselfish, serving (not as a servant
but as a companion), giving, caring and considerate of everyone’s physical and
emotional space, meek and completely lost without at least one real man to love
and protect her and to spend time with her each and every day. She does all
this gracefully and cheerfully without complaint as it is a real blessing to be
a woman, wife and mother, given appropriate support from a husband who is a
real man, and only takes a few hours each day. This is the only way a woman can
show real love for her family and all other behaviour
is simply an escape, the various ways in which females increasingly avoid
confronting the truth about their awful relationships with their own mothers,
expressing how they really feel about their childhoods and so growing up.
For a woman to be a wife and mother in action requires her to first be
able to look after her own body and spirit without indulgence, the first,
simplest and most basic aspect of being a real adult - you cannot care for or
advise anyone else about anything until you can care for yourself! This means
being slim (neither fat nor skinny and age and race are irrelevant), quiet,
peaceful and getting plenty of fresh air, sunshine and gentle and unhurried exercise
by walking, swimming and in the natural course of an active, serving life each
day. It also requires that a woman be honest and direct with her husband about
all her physical, emotional and spiritual needs, something almost no women do
today. Despite their well developed delusions of competence, caring and coping,
females who do not show this simple mastery of body and spirit know nothing
about themselves or about life and all their opinions and advice are just
worthless, presumptuous and impertinent nonsense.
The sad truth is that none of your own mothers did what they were
supposed to do and in fact were really angry, scared, confused and distressed,
at best beneath a thin layer of coping pretence. Because you have not faced the
truth about your mothers, you are choosing to behave just like them, only one
generation worse. In reality they were all anything but quiet and gentle, were
demanding and controlling, were very indulged with money, possessions and food
and drink, were totally inconsiderate of your real needs and feelings, were
masculine in the real sense of the word in hair, dress and manner (or sexual
which is just as unwomanly), were vulgar and coarse (or pretended to be nice,
prim and proper), were competitive, aggressive, divisive and game playing
(separating you both physically and emotionally from your fathers, brothers and
sisters), they were controlling and devious with food, made excuses without
trying to change, were fundamentally untrustworthy, they used you (especially
their eldest daughters) like surrogate mothers to fulfill their own
responsibilities, they treated your brothers like surrogate boyfriends to
compensate for their emotionally and physically absent husbands (your fathers)
and did very little around the house except put on an enormous performance and
complain for no valid reason. In particular, they focused against you all the
anger and pain they felt but would not express about their own mothers. Because
they were so lost, they lacked any foundation in themselves, changed their behaviour and opinions to suit each and every situation
that they were in and their various theories about living and spiritual beliefs
in particular were contradictory, a complete fantasy and totally removed from
reality. They blatantly lied to prevent their own behaviour
from being closely scrutinised and exposed and
without conscience simply altered reality to make themselves
appear to be competent, knowledgeable, capable and innocent of any blame and
responsibility. Rather than expressing their feelings directly, they commonly criticised and complained about their husbands (and
children) behind their backs, often to complete strangers, and treated them
with no real respect or loyalty, especially in their own homes.
Despite this, most actually enjoyed being left largely on their own in
charge of the house, food, money and the children because no-one could then see
how little they did and what they got up to. They off-loaded guilt by blaming, criticising and putting onto other people (particularly
their children and husbands) everything that they refused to face about
themselves and their own misbehaviour. For example, patronising and disapproving females are invariably grossly
overindulged and under-utilised themselves
(especially those that make a fuss about “working” hard) and always have a
great deal to be ashamed of in their own lives and relationships - they should
themselves be fairly treated with disapproval, contempt and disgust.
In effect your mothers knew nothing about how meals should be eaten and
nothing about the preparation and presentation of good food with care. White
bread, rice, flour and pasta, boiled, peeled and over-cooked vegetables, far
too much meat and white sugar, boring, monotonous, processed, frozen, canned,
nutritionally deficient food (especially the rubbish fed to babies), tables
cluttered with bottles, jars, plastic bags and cardboard packets and meals
eaten amongst noise, chaos and confusion are all a legacy of the previous
generation of ignorant and useless mothers and grandmothers and their equally
complicit husbands. Your mothers knew nothing about how to dress themselves or
their children appropriately (teenagers and young adults dress and wear their
hair today as a direct reflection of how badly they were dressed and had their
hair cut as children), nothing about their real needs as women and no idea of
how to express their feelings directly, honestly, openly and constructively. In
fact females today will do anything and invent any excuse to avoid being wives
and mothers; they will talk endlessly about it, study it, supervise and hold
conferences about it, encourage and advise others how (not) to do it, write
reports, articles and books about it, organise
support and discussion groups to deal with the subject and escape out of the
home to make money (which is certainly not work) - anything but be quiet,
gentle, clean, tidy, active, thoughtful, helpful, considerate, self-aware,
genuine, honest and serving women. Most spend so much time obdurately sitting,
doing nothing except idly chattering, smoking cigarettes and drinking endless
cups of tea and coffee that they get fat, develop enormous hips, behinds and
mouths and have countless opportunities to create mischief, cause trouble, make
distractions for themselves and others and waste an enormous amount of time and
other resources. They especially enjoy taking the focus off their own laziness,
disloyalty, infidelity, abdication of responsibility, ignorance and appalling
standards of hygiene by making countless excuses of no foundation, by finding
fault with other people or by pontificating with self-important authority about
things of which they are totally ignorant.
Females only behave as they do these days in order to cope indirectly
with their feelings, both past and present, especially those repressed from
their own early childhoods and they are so lost, masculine, frantic, demanding,
attention-seeking and angry today because males are simply not in action being
men, husbands, fathers, brothers, uncles, grandfathers and Ministers and are
leaving females (and children) alone, over-extended, unsupported, unrestrained,
unprotected and uncared for. Females fill far too large a space in this world,
completely disproportionate to their absolute importance, significance, relevance,
innate ability and strength of spirit only because males everywhere are
indulging them shamefully, hiding behind them and using them to avoid facing
the enormous outrage and pain that they feel themselves about the absence of a
proper relationship with their fathers. Males try to compensate for this by
encouraging females to dress, wear their hair and behave in a masculine way, by
treating them as “mates” and by expecting them to be able to do things which
are well beyond their physical, emotional and spiritual capacity. Males in this
way also focus all the reasonable indignation, pain and fear they feel (but
have not expressed) about their own mothers against women in general, most
especially against their own wives, sisters and daughters. They do this by not
filling the space they themselves should occupy, by setting all females up as
mothers, by pandering, deferring to and being obsequious towards them, by
refusing to stand up to them and tell them the truth, by allowing them to make
fools of themselves (how females dress and behave today is quite tasteless,
macabre, embarrassing and bizarre), by encouraging and forcing them to
over-extend themselves and by voyeuristically watching them deplete and destroy
themselves. This is without doubt the worst and most common form of violence
directed by males against females today. Males certainly indulge females by
encouraging misleading delusions about how ‘caring’, ‘competent’, ‘capable’,
‘strong’ and committed to non-violence, peace, family unity, morality and
spiritual beliefs they are.
Males and females both refuse to acknowledge and accept the truth that
men are stronger in spirit than women (not better but stronger) and that it is
a man’s responsibility to unselfishly ensure that the women in his life are
cared for in every possible sense, that they feel secure and safe, are set
appropriate limits in love and are able to trust and share all their feelings
openly and honestly with him without being threatened, assaulted, ignored, made
fun of, put down, invalidated or abandoned. “Women's liberation” is nothing
whatsoever to do with women or with freedom and is a form of self-imposed
masochism better referred to as female bondage. In fact it encourages women to
deny how they really feel and to behave in ways that are destructive of, and
totally inconsistent with their true essence and needs. Females will do
anything rather than face the truth about how they were used, molested and
abused by both their fathers and mothers and how little their mothers taught
them about the pleasure, joy and fulfillment of being real women, wives and
mothers. They try (unsuccessfully) to compensate for the complete absence of
men by behaving just like them, by competing with them and inappropriately
focusing all their anger at them. Feminists actually hate their womanliness and
try to do all they can to discredit and destroy it, faithfully following the
efforts of both their parents and the example of their mothers in particular.
In fact the sex role stereotyping so common today is totally contrived, gives
entirely false, unrealistic and unsustainable expectations about life for
females, limits their possible enjoyment of life enormously and lowers their
true self-esteem.
Anyone that is not aware of the obvious physical, emotional and
spiritual differences between men and women has learned absolutely nothing of
value about life or about themselves and to say that
men and women are somehow "equal" is meaningless, misleading, fatuous
nonsense. Despite this, the foolish and fallacious fantasy of sexual
"equality" is imposed upon vulnerable, impressionable, defenceless and completely intimidated children in schools
(and rigidly enforced in the work place) all over the world causing appalling
sexual confusion and with disastrous present and future consequences. Far from
being patriarchal, all western societies today are effectively matriarchal (and
have been for centuries) as females are left unmonitored in complete control of
the key positions which largely fashion and mould perceptions, attitudes and behaviour of babies and children when young - these are
extremely difficult to subsequently change. Females consequently exert an
influence within society that is far greater than males even though this is not
widely acknowledged or understood. No matter what the apparent situation
externally, every decadent and dying civilisation in
the entire history of mankind has shown a similar pattern of emotional
dishonesty and denial and sexual confusion - when females (and small spirited
males) are effectively in charge, complete anarchy, chaos, injustice, violence
and decay results. Clearly, men and women are different in essence and are
supposed to complement (not compete with) one another, contributing
individually as husbands and wives within a real marriage and fulfilling their
children's different needs of them as fathers and as mothers. In contrast, the
great majority of relationships today between parents are just convenient
liaisons based entirely on mutual dishonesty, depravity, selfishness,
irresponsibility, greed and hypocrisy where both sides use one another (and
their unfortunate children) to avoid facing the truth about themselves, their
parents and their lives.
It is accepted today that females somehow have the right to humiliate, patronise, offend, condescend to, treat with contempt,
intrude upon, interfere and play games with, provoke and physically assault
males, especially their husbands, sons and grandsons, whenever and wherever it
suits them, often in public. This inexcusable but unacknowledged and largely
un-rebuked violence embarrasses and absolutely infuriates boys and young men
especially - for this reason, only fathers (and other adult males) should
chasten their sons, never any female. All males today, especially those who
assault females or treat them as sexual objects, show clearly that they have
been similarly used, abused, molested, assaulted and violated themselves as
children by their own mothers, other female relatives and teachers. This in no
way condones nor excuses the consequent violent behaviour
but provides a much more honest, balanced and less discriminatory framework
within which to understand and constructively deal with this increasingly
common problem and apportions the blame much more fairly. Mothers of all those
who commit violent crime are actually more culpable than the offender
themselves for these horrendous crimes as they have effectively emasculated
their sons all their growing lives! In fact, all violent, cruel, unhealthy,
destructive, dangerous, reckless and competitive behaviour
is an understandable attempt to compensate for this emotional
"castration", to feel manly and in control and to offset real inner
feelings of inadequacy, impotence, insecurity and inferiority. With homosexuals
the anger is turned inwards against themselves, negating their real needs and
destroying their true manly spirits in what is just another form of
involuntary, learned self-indulgent masochism. This does not of course lessen
overall paternal responsibility but it is time that males stopped allowing
unfair discrimination against themselves by accepting a grossly
disproportionate burden of guilt.
Two cultures which blatantly promote complete fantasies about mothers,
Italy and Ireland, have each predictably spawned a brutal and violent civilian organisation, the Mafia and the IRA, as well as infecting
much of the rest of the world with immoral, corrupt, criminal, fraudulent and
spiritually bankrupt police, prison officers, politicians, lawyers, judges and
clergy. These two countries are also predominantly Catholic with this
religion’s infantile and biblically untenable obsession with inappropriate
celibacy and with the "Virgin Mary", a kind of childishly comforting,
pseudo-maternal figure who virtually overshadows CHRIST. Any close and open
examination of the actions of Italian and Irish males (and all those like them)
shows that they really hate and are scared of females because of how they were
treated as children by their horrendous mothers, grandmothers and female teachers.
The more terrified they are by their true feelings of repressed, murderous
rage, the more desperate is their denial of how they really feel, the greater
is their pretence of maternal devotion and the more they are obsequious
towards, defer to and indulge all females around them, interrupted by
occasional outbursts of violence, often under the influence of alcohol.
Understandably Catholicism is popular in parts of the world where the standard
of parenting is so disgracefully poor and where violence towards children is so
much an accepted part of family and school life! Not surprisingly, many
Catholics subsequently choose occupations in organisations
that are a natural extension of the brutality, deceit, rigidity, uniformity,
double standards and hypocrisy of the homes and institutional environments in
which they were so badly mistreated - the education, justice, law enforcement
and penal systems and the armed forces, for example. These jobs also provide an
unrestrained opportunity to be violent, sadistic and cruel and to focus anger
and pain against vulnerable and powerless people.
Mothers are also partly responsible when their husbands sexually
interfere with their daughters as they always know or at least strongly suspect
what is going on - by doing nothing, they provide their complicit support and
encouragement. If a mother really doesn't know what is going on, this ignorance
itself indicates how little trust and honest communication exists between her
and her daughter - this disgraceful and inexcusable "sin of omission"
creates exactly the sort of environment in which abuse can occur and continue
to occur without restraint. Many mothers are in fact fully involved accessories
who actually set up the situation in the first place, participating in or deriving
voyeuristic pleasure from the subsequent abuse of their daughters - this helps
them avoid facing what their own fathers (and mothers) did to them. Medical
examinations of children's genital areas are no different in substance to
abuse, are always unnecessary and avoidable, are often prompted by
unacknowledged sadistic and perverted motivations by both doctors and parents
alike and invariably cause immense emotional distress and embarrassment,
especially for girls with male doctors and for boys with female doctors. All
those who sexually abuse children in any way have always been similarly
violated themselves when young, especially sons by mothers and other female
relatives and daughters by fathers and other male relatives and nearly all
children today are being molested and interfered with to some degree.
Daughters in particular from a very young age are allowed and encouraged
by both their parents to relate sexually and behave in ways which are highly
inappropriate such as putting their legs around their fathers, sitting on their
shoulders or riding astride horses (which is clearly sexual, unhealthily
stimulating, power motivated and attention-seeking). Both parents today
commonly encourage their daughters to place themselves in potentially hazardous
situations and this often results in violence that was completely avoidable
with proper care. Rape cannot be justified nor excused on any grounds
whatsoever but most of these cowardly attacks could simply be avoided if women
took sensible precautions, ensured they had the constant support and protection
of a concerned man (father, brother, uncle, husband, friend) and never went out
alone at night nor lived (so selfishly) by themselves. Real adults are wise and
responsible and deal with the way the world is, not the way it could be or
should be. Daughters are also permitted to dress explicitly and expose and
flaunt themselves immodestly and suggestively, much like prostitutes, yet these
same females when older become unreasonably outraged and upset if males understandably
react appropriately to this unmistakable display of obvious enticement, a real
double message. Males have their personal space transgressed involuntarily in
this way every single day both in public and in all sections of the media,
often with no prior warning and even if the more twisted of them express no
objection because they are such infantile users of women unwilling to grow up,
it is still essentially a form of violence. Real men are of course offended and
disgusted by this uninvited exhibitionism, just as they are by the same behaviour by males, and never treat women as sexual objects
in any way or take advantage of them whether encouraged or allowed to do so by
them or not.
Men who enjoy a really loving and fulfilled relationship with their
wives never ever abuse, molest or even flirt with their daughters,
grand-daughters or with any other females nor relate superficially to them like
"pretty", sexual objects. Therefore abuse can only occur in families
where both parents are avoiding dealing with the mutual dishonesty, pretence,
selfishness, irresponsibility, lack of satisfaction and mistrust that exists in
their relationship and facing the consequences of this for their children.
Almost all sons are treated like surrogate boy friends by their mothers today
and daughters like girl friends by their fathers and it is difficult to find a
family where there is proper care, respect, modesty and distance in these
relationships. There is in effect a great deal of thinly disguised abuse in most
families dishonestly represented as “normal” affection - sons are sexually
fondled, hugged, touched and kissed on the lips by their mothers (and other
female relatives) and daughters by their fathers, grandfathers and uncles.
Virtually all relationships between males and females today involve an enormous
amount of indirect, unacknowledged fear, anger and pain, something clearly
evident in the increasingly common and literally deviate physical contact
referred to as sex. Most sex is self-serving, far from honest, healthy,
necessary or normal, is nothing whatsoever to do with love or love-making, it
confuses intrusion with intimacy, lust with passion, domination with unselfish
leadership and is at best a desperate attempt to escape loneliness and to feel
some softness and gentleness (for males), some firmness and strength of spirit
and security (for females) and some semblance of closeness to another human
being for both. Males and females try unsuccessfully to satisfy unfulfilled
childhood needs through inappropriate physical contact with the opposite sex,
to compensate for the total absence of healthy hugging and holding, in
particular for sons by their fathers and for daughters by their mothers. At
worst sex is a sadistic/masochistic “aerobic” performance, a depraved and
perverted mutual exchange of anger and pain and the self-gratifying use and
abuse of one another, for males a desperate attempt to escape back to the womb,
for females a re-enactment of the abuse by their fathers.
None of you has faced the truth about the relationship with your own
fathers who in action were abdicated, ineffectual, useless
and physically and emotionally absent, un-grown “boys”, real users of women and
children. They behaved in all respects like your mothers, although not generally
as bad because of their greater strength of spirit, and were equally indulged
in food, drink and possessions, pre-occupied with words (both written and
spoken), power, money, position, influence and the opinions of others, they
foolishly respected the absurdity and vanity of man’s wisdom and learning, were
critical, not generous (they did not give without guilt), selfish and
inconsiderate (they did largely what they wanted to, especially in the
weekends), they were grumpy and unpleasant or inappropriately jocular like
fools (or vacillated between the two extremes) and they did not tell the truth.
In fact, most males today have strange and bizarre ideas of what constitutes
adult behaviour for a man and unsuccessfully try to
disguise their true emotional immaturity with a completely false and contrived
outward affectation of pseudo-masculine pretence - a peculiar mixture of hard,
rough, tough, brutal, dirty, untidy, disorganised,
impatient, intimidating, cynical, sarcastic, foul-mouthed, crude, coarse, heavy
drinking, competitive, “macho” behaviour (mainly
towards other males) on the one hand and being weak, useless, ineffectual,
inadequate, “gentlemanly”, “polite”, “courteous” and inappropriately “friendly”
“boys” (especially around females) on the other. Your fathers were so
emotionally insecure, jealous and competitive that they obstructed, tried to
destroy, invalidated and rarely encouraged the development of their sons’
special talents, especially those things they were gifted in themselves or
completely took over their sons’ lives and used them to vicariously gratify and
try to relive and satisfy their own pointless ambitions - your mothers did
exactly the same with youu and your sisters. Your
fathers generally indulged you and your sisters outrageously on the one hand
and used, oppressed and deprived you of real love on the other, in many
respects actively encouraging you to engage in the same type of employment and
pursue the same trivial aspirations as themselves.
Because it is so easy emotionally, fathers increasingly spend time with
their daughters (and mothers with their sons) and abandon, distance or
discriminate against their sons, the exact opposite of what is healthy, normal
and natural. Increasingly females and children are physically, emotionally and
spiritually leading with males (and especially fathers) well behind. A real man
always leads his wife and children, confronting the unknown and protecting them
from potential harm in what is a hostile world, full of so-called “gentlemen”
and other parasitic (mis)users of women and children.
Your fathers were also more concerned about other peoples’ expectations and
demands of them than for their own needs or for the needs of their wives and
children, they largely evaded their primary responsibilities as men and only
bought their families off with money and possessions, the least important and
easiest to give of all their needs. They deliberately left you alone for your
entire childhoods with a succession of rough, angry and lost females, starting with
your mothers, fully aware of the distress and damage this would cause you and
the serious implications and consequences. When completely avoidable problems
and crises predictably occurred in their absence, they also disclaimed any
responsibility, arbitrarily and deceitfully blaming anyone but themselves or
their equally culpable wives, usually their unfortunate children. Their behaviour was simple cowardice, sadism and hypocrisy,
nothing more or less as they knew full well what they were doing yet claimed to
love you.
Families today are effectively abandoned by fathers (and increasingly by
mothers) and children are expected to cope on their own and bring themselves
up, arbitrarily taken up and then discarded at the irrational whim of their
selfish and guilty parents. Those males that do at least spend time with their
families only pretend to be involved with their children, often ingratiate
themselves to their wives, take over their responsibilities and behave like
“mother’s little helpers”, another way of avoiding growing up and a performance
to impress other people. Because you have not faced the truth about your
fathers and their relationships with both you and your mothers, you have formed
relationships with other males (particularly with your own husbands, boy
friends, brothers and sons) based on the same unacknowledged fear, pain, anger,
guilt and mutual mistrust, the absence of any true love, respect or truth and
the (miss)use of one another. Females who have not
faced the truth about their fathers effectively prostitute themselves in
“marriages” where their husbands molest and interfere with them even worse. You
all need to look closely at what your fathers and husbands did and do for you
and your children in action, not at what they say they do - you will find
enormous differences between what is said and what is done, what they say also
being full of lies, half-truths, deceit, implausible excuses, double messages,
platitudes, convenient self-justifications and inaction. A real adult accepts
the truth of action, not words, and acts accordingly. As women, you all need
the firm but gentle, unselfish, considerate and kind protection, guidance,
support, devotion and companionship of a real man to look after both you and
your children. If your present husbands will not do so even when you fulfill
your own womanly responsibilities properly, you have a fundamental, inborn,
instinctive responsibility to yourselves and your children to find a man who
will.
Most males (and females) are completely ignorant and unaware of their
own feelings and are fully determined to stay that way - as a consequence they
are totally un-trustable with anything young, sensitive, vulnerable and defenceless, clearly unfit and unable to be proper husbands
or wives, fathers or mothers. They haven’t the courage or common sense to order
their lives sensibly and sanely according to their real needs, are closed,
blindly accept life on an incredibly superficial level and rigidly order and
stubbornly refuse to even question the foolish regimentation and essential
triviality of their pointless existences. Not surprisingly, they resent, are
threatened by, are hostile towards and jealous and intolerant of anyone who
does choose to try some sensible alternatives and often spitefully try to spoil
the better quality of life these people as a consequence enjoy. Understandably
they get unreasonably incensed with anyone who behaves with appropriate
firmness, reserve, disapproval, directness and honesty, especially towards females, because this confronts them with the shameful truth
about their own lives and relationships and confirms that something is
fundamentally wrong with their own attitudes and behaviour.
This is especially true of older males today whose lives are completely
dominated by guilt, a fully deserved recompense for a lifetime of refusing to
grow up, of parasitically living off the spirits of everyone around them, of
always taking the easiest path, of doing exactly what they wanted to do when
they wanted to do it and of taking from the world and giving the barest minimum
in return.
In particular, those who make a great outward show about how hard they
have worked, have never really worked at all, they have just made money and
their critical comments and disparaging remarks about young people (patronisingly referred to as “boy”, “son” “lad”, “lassie”
or “girl”), the “alternative” culture and about the unemployed only reflect
their own culpability and enormous guilt. Old people today in particular take
no responsibility, show absolutely no remorse, lie about their true activities
and motives, fabricate all kinds of platitudes and implausible excuses to
justify their behaviour and really flaunt their
greed, laziness and essential selfish and irresponsible immaturity.
A man who really loves his family in action spends lots of time with
them every day, listens to and responds to their needs before his own, shares
his children's upbringing with his wife each day from their conception (and
especially during pregnancy and their early life) and ensures that his children
are cared for and treated justly, fairly and firmly but gently - it is never
right to hit or shout at your children or to allow others to do so because
their (mis)behaviour is
always an indication of parental misconduct. He will also make certain that
they are careful with all the resources they own and use and do nothing to harm
themselves, other people, living creatures or the environment as a whole. Most
importantly, a man encourages his family by example to care without indulgence
for their own bodies and spirits, to be open, honest, direct and spontaneous
with all their feelings and to express these constructively and never
violently. Although it is impossible for anyone not to get indignant with the
world in the state it is in today, it is only right to vent feelings against
people in writing or verbally (very loudly when necessary) and the most intense
rage pent up from the past needs to be discharged responsibly. For men this
includes sawing, chopping and splitting firewood, gardening and clearing bush
by hand, hitting punching bags and beating rugs - any productive physical
activity that is not destructive, violent or disruptive to others. It is a
man’s responsibility to support and give direction to his family in love and the
state of the world today is a standing testimonial to, and direct legacy of,
the complete absence of any responsible, concerned, caring and involved real
men.
Males today provide no leadership, no example, no direction, no
protection and no restraint and set no proper limits except physical violence
and intimidation that is worse than no limits at all. They place an intolerable
burden on both women and children because of their abdication and husbands
increasingly hide behind their wives and virtually oblige them to confront,
deal with, be in charge of and make decisions about key aspects of family life.
Females and children are physically, emotionally and spiritually leading with
males (and especially fathers) well behind. As a consequence there is no balance,
no foundation, no justice, no care with detail, no clarity, no definition and
an all-pervading sense of confusion, anxiety and insecurity - not surprisingly,
women and children are indulged, lost, angry, scared, frantic, distressed,
over-extended, unfairly burdened, desperate, unsure of themselves and unable to
trust. The solution is not to have women spend more time away from the home
making money but for men to spend more time at home with their families giving
proper support. A real man leads his family and always goes before his wife and
children, confronting the unknown and protecting them from potential harm in
what is a hostile world, full of so-called “gentlemen” and other parasitic
users of women and children.
A man’s wife and children clearly show in both appearance and behaviour just how responsible, loving and successful (or
otherwise) he is in real terms. Whatever their apparent external “success” or
achievements outside their homes, most males today are total abject failures as
men, husbands and fathers and most use a tiny fraction of their capacity,
capability and strength of spirit. If a man is doing what he should be at home,
he and his wife and children will be clean, tidy, slim, gentle, quiet,
peaceful, patient, healthy, suffer no disease, sickness or disabilities, be
confident without pride or arrogance, never competitive, care for their teeth,
hair and nails, be responsible with but not interested in money, power,
“success”, fame or the accumulation of possessions, be open, honest,
spontaneous, giving, sharing, generous, kind, modest, they will not be noisy,
inconsiderate, violent, rough or frantic, they will have a good sense of humour without being cruel, sexual, sarcastic, cynical or
“sick” and they will all stand up for themselves and others appropriately, only
ever expressing their indignation without violence. They will eat sensible and
balanced meals sitting quietly, carefully and slowly and be active as a natural
part of a productive daily life style without the need for silly, selfish,
wasteful, artificial and completely unnecessary exercise and sports. Obviously
they will never smoke, take or need drugs of any kind, they will only drink
alcohol in moderation (one or two glasses of wine, always with meals) and will
show a genuine and sensible concern for the environment. They will choose to
learn and use a variety of practical skills, ensure their work is intrinsically
pleasurable, interesting and fulfilling, outdoors at least some of the time,
and will never work just for the money. Finally they will really enjoy life to
the fullest, appreciate its variety and richness, explore their full potential
as men and women, be aware of all sensible alternatives in life and emphasise quality not quantity, people not things.
In contrast to this adult approach, your own fathers used their
occupations as an excuse for running away from their family responsibilities
and they lied about the number of hours they needed to be absent in order to
provide materially for their families. In fact, what most males today call work
is really just making money, a form of bludging, a
completely useless, destructive and unproductive waste of life and only a means
of buying selfish indulgences and unnecessary possessions to compensate for the
lack of love and real quality in their lives. A job is not real work just
because it is arduous, physically, emotionally and intellectually exhausting,
difficult, time consuming and paid for - quite the opposite - most occupations
clearly detract from the quality of life, contribute to or support injustice,
inequity and corruption and degrade the environment in serious and identifiable
ways. Most employment has become senseless drudgery and voluntary slavery, an
unpleasant, degrading, monotonous, repetitive and unfulfilling experience that
takes place in unhealthy, dangerous, noisy, dirty and polluted indoor
environments. Despite this, many males actively make work for themselves,
prolonging or even inventing often unpleasant tasks in order to keep themselves
occupied. They do this because they are reasonably treated like boys by the
females around them, especially their wives and girlfriends and so escape to
their occupations to try to feel like men there, defining their identity by
what they do, not who they are (or how they feel). Factories and offices, no
matter how plush or luxurious, are in essence just assembly lines where human
beings perform demeaning, trivial, unimportant and meaningless tasks that use a
small fraction of their real capabilities - farms are no different and have
been degraded into rural factories which treat living creatures as unfeeling
units in a production line.
People in most industries now sit for hours each day completely shut off
to everything around them, robotic extensions of their silly, dirty, dangerous,
noisy, ugly, polluting and completely unnecessary machines which requires no
real skill or effort - mechanical and electronic devices now do all the real
work, disturb the peace, distress people and animals, spoil the potential fulfillment,
satisfaction and health to be had from active labour
and create more difficulties and problems in the long term. No person could be
employed in such a way, in such awful environments unless they had been totally
conditioned to this insanity throughout their entire childhoods by parents and
an education system fully committed to turning out cowered, complicit, coerced
and conditioned robots with stunted expectations about life, narrowed
perceptions of their potential choices and no appreciation of the priceless
value of life itself. In particular, to work fixed hours on the same days each
week is obsessive, rigid, unhealthy and complete madness - it ignores
everyone's changing daily needs, is totally out of tune with the seasons and
with the weather and is a completely artificial way of constraining living
human beings to a pattern which is dictated by considerations of financial
expediency and ambitious convenience only. Both your parents dealt with their
very reasonable guilt for what they were doing that they should not have been
doing (and for what they were not doing that they should have been doing) by
putting onto you what was in fact true of them and by learning to be very
effective at pretending to be nice, responsible and concerned people outside
their homes - most charity today is motivated by such dishonest, externalised pretence.
In truth both your parents (and grandparents) took out on you their own
un-faced anger, fear, pain and guilt by not listening to you, by denying you
your obvious needs, by actively discouraging you from being honest and open, by
forcing you to repress your own feelings and by encouraging you to only
indirectly express these in the following ways:-
- Overeating or under-eating, something which now affects over 95% of
people worldwide
- Smoking, other drug taking or drinking too much fluid (milk as babies,
then soft drinks, tea and coffee and finally alcohol), a legacy of
inappropriate breast feeding and the criminal (mis)use
of bottles and dummies
- Escaping into any physical or emotional unreality - most reading of
books, newspapers and magazines, watching television, videos and films, playing
with toys and games and all of the “arts” are unproductive, unnecessary, idle
distractions and forms of escape encouraged at least initially by parents
- Rushing, talking too much, being frantic, controlling and aggressive
or going too slow and being inappropriately quiet, submissive and withdrawn
- Being preoccupied with, admiring or respecting power, influence, fame,
money and material possessions
- Being obsessively rigid and punctual or being careless, irresponsibly
casual, laid back and always late
- Behaving like helpless, “innocent” or dumb little girls or being
masculine
- Behaving recklessly, dangerously or engaging in any activity that is
competitive or rough - it takes much more courage to be peaceful, gentle and
responsible and all competition is wasteful, inefficient under-achievement
- Striving to achieve intellectually or being know-all, performing,
competing, showing off and seeking attention
- Memorising vast amounts of largely
irrelevant information or being forgetful or absent minded - Spending hours
indoors sitting or working in stuffy, overheated environments, a lesson learned
at school
- Being argumentative, disputative, disagreeable, pessimistic, gloomy,
dour or angry inappropriately
- Staying up too late and sleeping too little or sleeping too much and
staying in bed
- Being arrogant, self-important, proud, boastful, biased, intolerant,
discriminatory, bigoted and racist
- Denying feelings and being hard, rough, tough, impatient, sullen,
grumpy, suspicious, closed or defensive
- Lacking in compassion, being difficult, unhelpful, perverse, delaying,
obstructive, un-giving and un-sharing
- Voyeuristically enjoying accidents, disasters and crises, common
amongst emergency services and the media
- Being destructive, intimidating, threatening and hitting or harming
anyone physically
- Being controlling, domineering and aggressive or being shy, timid,
awkward, unsure and embarrassed
- Being sarcastic, cynical, patronising,
pompous, snobbish, disapproving, jealous, spiteful, sullen, resentful or
vindictive
- Complaining and being ungrateful and unappreciative, especially for
the gift of life
- Being immodest, coarse, crude, vulgar, flirting or relating sexually
- Being dirty, untidy, disorganised and vandalising or polluting the natural environment
- Being cruel to or misusing animals, widespread with pets and on farms
- Pretending to be always fit and well or ffeeling sorry for yourself and being
a hypochondriac
- Being inconsiderate, noisy, talking loudly, disturbing and intruding
- Lying, exaggerating, fantasising about or
distorting reality
- Making excuses, blaming others and refusing to take responsibility and
apologise
- Being masochistic, allowing yourself to be used, inappropriately
accepting blame, marking your skin, cutting your hair short or any other
painful, harsh, rough, cruel and callous behaviour
- Gossiping, interfering, being devious, provocative, trouble making,
game playing or spoiling peoples’ fun
- Behaving strangely or weirdly, being depressed or frantic and
hysterical - all so-called “mental” illness is only enforced, learned behaviour, yet another manifestation of an intense,
repressed emotional agenda
- Breaking the law - widespread today by police, prison staff, judges,
lawyers, politicians and public servants
- Being mean and ungenerous or spending money foolishly
- Interrupting, talking over, ignoring, pretending not to hear or
failing to acknowledge other people
These learned ways of behaviour, incorrectly
referred to as “personality”, are a direct result of childhood abuse,
deprivation, neglect and invalidation and of parental encouragement and example, . However, if you do not learn to face the past, clear it
away and deal constructively with the present day by day, you will eventually
become a sick, tragic caricature of the person you once were inside. The denied
backlog of un-faced feelings, all stored in bodily tissue, will also inevitably
result in some sort of disease or health problems, so destroying both your body
and spirit. If you behave inconsistent with your true essence for long enough,
you will become how you behave, just as your parents and grandparents have done
- like them, you will only learn how to cleeverly disguise the true situation.
This process of deterioration accelerates rapidly once you become a
parent if you refuse to listen to your own children and choose to change -
children provide parents with a mirror of themselves and their own behaviour. Also, unless you tell your parents and
grandparents the truth, they will never be free - although they won’t admit it,
they are only too aware of what they have done and are still doing and are
clearly weighed down with guilt. Look at how people grow old and die today,
ugly in body and spirit, in pain and afflicted with ailments and disease,
without dignity, privacy or self-respect, like scared and indulged children.
Parents and grandparents throughout the world today are effectively
conspiring to disclaim any and all responsibility for their own children's behaviour when this is always a natural, logical,
reasonable and fully understandable response to what they have been forced to
endure. Rather than entertaining unproductive fantasies about your parents and
grandparents and about the standard of care they gave you, it is important to
look at your own behaviour and at the overall state
of the world as measured by all sensible indicative criteria - quality of life,
level of stress, incidence of disease, “syndromes” and behavioural
problems (20% of all children get asthma for a start), crime, violence,
suicide, vandalism, environmental destruction, sexual promiscuity and
immorality, marital disharmony and divorce, “accidental” deaths and injuries,
recklessness, the abuse of tobacco, alcohol and drugs, youth disenchantment and
unemployment, institutional corruption and the absence of real compassion and
sharing. The deplorable state of the world faithfully reflects the behaviour of the previous two generations and cannot be
attributed to any other cause - nebulous “society” cannot fairly be
conveniently blamed as each individual has a choice as to how they live their
own lives and how they treat their own children. Society only reflects the sum
total of the behaviour by most individuals in it. In
truth, most parents today do not really love their children, do not want what
is best for them and have not tried their hardest to be good parents - they
simply go around in circles, making the same mistakes day after day and in the
process imposing upon their unfortunate children a worse version of their own
childhoods.
In contrast, all those who have really listened and responded to their
children and changed their lives accordingly know that it is a pleasure and a
privilege to be a parent - children hold the key and have the answers to all
the world’s worst problems. Without exception, those who complain how hard it
is to bring up children are selfish, hardened, lazy and uninvolved takers,
emotional parasites who are just trying to blame their children for their own
inadequacies, as usual. In fact, all the critical things that adults say about children
(and about other people) are invariably true of themselves, no matter how
difficult this may be to accept. To appreciate what people are really like
inside, ignore their affected facial expressions and pretence and look them
straight in the eyes - you will be horrified!!!
Parents and grandparents are in charge of the world and of most written
and spoken communication and are effectively colluding together in what is an
unacknowledged conspiracy of censorship, lies, deceit, slander, misinformation,
treachery, betrayal, violence and pretence and the entire world with very few
exceptions is rapidly deteriorating in all aspects of care and truth generation
by generation. Only those who choose to not deteriorate along with the majority
are able to see the true situation clearly. Old people in particular promote
total fantasies about themselves and those who are like them, they deny they
are scared of dying and many stupidly claim to be going to heaven when it is
clear that they are headed in exactly the opposite direction, a most unpleasant
place to spend the rest of all time but thoroughly deserved. There is
effectively no real truth today where it is most needed and most counts -
between members of the same family. Parents and grandparents are so dishonest
and morally corrupt themselves that they both promote and enjoy this situation
as it helps to disguise and hide what they are really like and what they have
actually done.
Young people have been so oppressed, so intimidated, so threatened, so
abused, so violated, so lied to, so bribed and given such a derelict example
that they are deceived into believing that it is rude, offensive, abusive,
impolite, unfair, discourteous and disrespectful to tell their older relations
(or anyone) the truth. In fact, truth is an essential part of love and respect
and it is an inexcusable and cowardly abdication of responsibility to not
always tell the truth, especially to those you are supposed to most care for.
Most adults will not listen unless this is done very firmly and directly and
with families in the state they are in today, it is impossible for anyone to
properly grow without at times loud and intense outbursts of feelings - it is
however important to persist in sorting these feelings out properly and thoroughly.
The absence of truth is the major factor contributing to the proliferation of
evil in the world as, without it, un-rebuked miscreants are only encouraged and
allowed to get worse and take further advantage of the most vulnerable and defenceless in society. Those who believe that there are
many "truths", that truth is
"relative" or that love means different things to different people
have simply never known real love or truth at all.
I cannot tell any of you what to do with your lives but I can tell you
the truth from personal experience and following a diligent and exhaustive
search for any and all viable alternatives over a number of years. As dealt
with in more detail elsewhere in Real Christianity, CHRIST offers true freedom
as HE is the only real and reliable source of understanding, strength, guidance
and protection to enable you to face the past, clear it away constructively and
deal with the present day by day in an honest, responsible and adult way. HE
will unfailingly lead you through what is a very intense emotional process and
this is nothing whatsoever to do with the example or teachings of any of the
so-called established Christian churches. Fortunately you do not need to take
my word for it but may simply try it - in contrast to the various theories and
spiritual nonsense peddled throughout the world today by so many self-styled
gurus, religious zealots and self-righteous fanatics, real spiritual truth,
faith and commitment are both provable and verifiable in the course of your
individual daily lives. CHRIST, if you ask HIM, will show you clearly and
unmistakably that HE exists and the rightness of HIS way. All you need to do is
be honest, really honest with yourselves and admit what those of you with a
conscience already know to be true in your hearts - something is fundamentally
wrong with your lives and you are desperately lost, lonely and isolated.
A good start and one you might all share is to openly admit the full
ignorance, foolishness, artificiality, rigidity, uniformity, nastiness and
outright sadism that were a feature of your schooling, a faithful
representation of all that was worst about your family and about your culture.
Your parents sent you to school (rather than give you a proper and enjoyable
education) fully aware that modern schooling is physically and emotionally
unhealthy, compulsively preoccupied with the printed and spoken word rather
than with life’s experiences, an unacknowledged exercise in “baby-sitting” and
a process of indoctrination full of hypocrisy, inconceivable double standards,
implausible explanations and platitudinous self-justifications which fails to
teach the first and most basic lesson of being an adult - caring for our own
bodies and spirits and understanding and responsibly fulfilling our own needs. It
taught you absolutely nothing about self-awareness, real wisdom or knowledge,
was completely obsessed with intellectual achievement, power, money and the
opinions of others (rather than with individual self-determination and choice),
taught you to compete and perform, discouraged spontaneity, selflessness,
sharing and individuality and encouraged violence at sports and through teacher
behaviour, example and discipline.
Schooling today stupidly tries to teach all children exactly the same amount
and kind of information, regardless of individual needs, most of which will
never be productively used and it debases the learning process into a bizarre
kind of intellectual obstacle course - you were deceived and misled into
believing that life was not easy and that you had to suffer to succeed, to
sacrifice today for tomorrow. If you reasonably and understandably rebelled or
questioned this effective imprisonment and conditioning, you were assaulted,
bribed, flattered or otherwise coerced into cowered submission and conformity
by those who were simply trying to enslave you to their own insane unreality
and impose upon you a worse version of their own schooling and childhoods. The
truth is that directly or by default all your teachers were sadistic bullies,
devious schemers, over-indulged pompous posers, stupid ignoramuses and
cowardly, indulged, aged juvenile delinquents who used you as an audience and
to avoid growing up themselves. They did little to
justify their salaries, parasitically lived off your spirits and focused all
their unresolved and un-faced feelings against you. The “nice” ones were the
worst, ineffectual and useless voyeurs who stood by and did nothing fully
knowing that they should have prevented the worst of their colleagues from what
was no different to thinly disguised child abuse.
This is the truth and essence of all schooling today. In fact, education
today is a complete waste of time and resources, does considerably more harm
than good, is a criminal squandering of the best and most precious years of
children's lives, is totally divorced from the real learning situation, it
obstructs free expression and spontaneous discussion, requires the assimilation
of vast amounts of useless, trivial, unimportant, entirely theoretical and
often false information of no absolute significance or value and is only of use
if the sole purposes of life are earning money and impressing other people.
There is no natural progression to learning nor any real integration or
co-ordination of teaching into family life - sons spend little time being
taught by fathers, daughters by mothers and the fragmentation of the family is
considerably aggravated by the present approach. It is schools and universities
that justify and perpetuate the disgraceful, immoral and inexcusable
inconsistencies and theoretical foolishness of science and technology which
squander billions of dollars on such inconceivable acts of folly as putting
emotional infants into space (the ultimate indulgence and abdication) while
40,000 children die each day from fully preventable causes requiring so little
care and expense. Education condones wasting money on displays, celebrations,
processions, guns and armaments, to satisfy the idle curiosity and fantasy of
research and experimentation, to house art work, books and artifacts in
galleries, libraries and museums, for useless reclamation, preservation and
restoration work and for constructing monuments, statues, fountains, public
buildings and churches yet somehow resources are never available to feed, clothe,
shelter and transport those genuinely in need.
Education worldwide has mutated into an enormously expensive,
complicated and protracted business and everyone who makes money within this
morally and legally corrupt system has a considerable emotional and financial
vested interest in this situation continuing unchanged, irrespective of the
real needs of children, the very people the system is supposed to serve. In
fact the worst possible, most violent and immature and least capable people are
in charge of children today in crèches, pre-schools, kindergartens, schools,
universities, colleges, hospitals, camps, welfare, fostering and adoption
agencies, detention centres and the entire justice
and law enforcement system.
It takes real courage, determination, decency and integrity to read this
carefully, to consider the implications of it within your own lives, to be
really honest, direct and straight about your own behaviour,
to choose to change and at least try some of what is suggested. Instead most of
you will predictably continue unrestrained foolishly believing that you can
avoid any unpleasant consequences. In fact people today generally flaunt and
display a completely cavalier attitude about their own improprieties and
misconduct and stupidly behave as though they will never be held to account for
what they have chosen to do - this is a very dangerous and misleading delusion
indeed (Hebrews 10:31)! When confronted with the truth, most people now take
one or more of the easy and convenient, cowardly recourse's - ignore it,
dismiss it lightly, take it over and pretend to agree with it but do nothing of
substance about it or get angry at, abuse, threaten and try to discredit and
persecute those who speak and write it.
I need to give you the following warning
in the course of my Ministry, something you need to take both personally and
seriously. You all have a will and you all have a choice - if you turn to GOD
in action HE will never, ever let you down and will help you rectify the
damage, distress and confusion you have caused your own children and give you
the courage and clarity to tell the truth to your own parents and other
relations. In the process HE will clearly bless you with the only assets of any
enduring value in this short life - peace, joy, happiness, inner fulfillment,
real wisdom, no sickness or disease of any kind, relationships based on mutual
respect, honesty and trust, an open and caring heart (without which you cannot
properly enjoy anything), true freedom of determination and choice (John 8:32),
the generous provision of all your material needs and full protection from
'accidents' and all forms of violence without the necessity of you needing to
defend yourselves or your family in any physical way except to keep on telling
the truth. By all these reasonable standards and criteria of true success, many
of you are total and abject failures as human beings in every respect, disabled
emotional cripples and spiritual paupers who childishly cling onto material
things as though they can somehow compensate you for your (in absolute terms)
loveless, pointless, trivial and meaningless existences and impoverished
quality of life.
If however you refuse to listen, GOD will increasingly afflict you more
seriously both from within and without from this point onwards as HE will not
allow the needless suffering of children once the truth is told. GOD's afflictions are a clear and unmistakable indication
of direct Divine intervention - inner fears, guilt and confusion, disease,
'accidents' and untimely injuries and deaths, (un)natural
disasters, no peace, no real joy, no security, violence and theft, problems
with relationships and no enduring enjoyment of your family, material
possessions, power, position and wealth. This is how a compassionate and merciful
FATHER through HIS conditional love provides a compelling incentive and
encouragement to change self-destructive behaviour by
chastening on the one hand and HIS punishment of those who willfully choose to
continue unrepentant and unrestrained on the other. Whether you choose to
change or not, I can promise that you will soon know the truth of all that is
written here. If this is an unpleasant revelation, it will have been your own
choice as it fairly and justly should be.
GOD hears your every word, sees your every action and knows every
thought and imagination of your heart. It would be a great tragedy and a
pointless waste of life if you did not heed this genuine and unselfish
admonition and rebuke. It is time to grow up (I Corinthians 13:11) and learn to
take proper care of yourselves and those whom you say you love - it is the mark
of a real adult.
Faithfully.
Michael & Mary Israel †