The first attraction:
I can still remember we were having class with Mrs Vargish, though I can't remember which subject. I asked my friend about some doubts I had in class and he asked Meyer (who happened to be sitting behind me then). I turned around to listen. When he spoke, I was mesmerised by his deep voice, good command of speech and good looks hhmmmm. Found him charming and the first thing that came to mind was,"Wow, this handsome Malay guy can speak good english!" *haha* Meyer's a Chinese but he's so dark I thought he was Malay! How did I attract him? err.. I don't know. He said I just looked his type. *haha* Anyway, after that, we never talked to each other

Get-to-Know:
Then came our class bbq. You know bbq, get together, chit-chat? That's when we first talked. After like, I dunno, 2 months? exchanged ICQ no. and ended up talking to each other every night on ICQ but never in class.

The Courtship:
Natuarally, he took the first move to asking me out. It was our friend's birthday and I intend to get her a birthday cake. Surprisingly, Meyer offered to collect the cake with me the next day. So, we met, went to school together with the cake and talked more. My heart was throbbing so fast I thought it was gonna drop to my toes. And as more of our classmates celebrate their brithdays in school and I'm always buying birthday cakes for 'em, the more Meyer and I went out together...to get the cakes. ICQing with him was really heart throbbing as well. Always thinking if he likes me. Until one day, after like 3 or 4 months ICQ (every single day), I couldn't resist myself but to ask if he liked someone at the moment. I believed to some degree that he's got a little liking for me because of the lollis he stuffed in my bag and the being-so-nice attitude. But still, I can't be too sure! Ok, back to the story...he said,"YES".

Now, I'm going crazy! Wanted sooooo much to know who that girl was! He too asked and of course as an honest girl, I said yes. But who was that guy or gal that we fancy?! We asked each other questions, narrowed down the possibilities and finally, after 2 long hours, we admitted we had a liking for each other. I was over the rainbows! But also extremely tired as well (after that 2 hours of questioning). We signed off and went to bed - knowing we liked each other. The next few days in school, we see each other like nothing happened. And everyday I asked myself what our relationship was? DId he think I was his girlfriend by saying YES I LIKE YOU? I hope not. It ain't that simple. *winks*

The Date:
He asked me out on a date! Just him and me alone. We went out alone for like 3 days? Then finally on the third day, in the morning when we met, he said that he's got something to tell me or rather ask me. This time I know he's gonna ask me formally about being together. I was both happy and lost! First boyfriend..don't know how to react. He was a nervous wreck. We went to Fort Canning Park. Sat there for like an hour before he said,"Will you accept me as your boyfriend". I was expecting it and so I think I sounded quite calm. I gave him a bad time when I didn't give him an answer. I asked him instead,"How much [in percentage] do you think I'd say yes?" I thought he'd say 100% because he knows I like him (didin't he?) but he said 70%. I was so shocked I cried a big HUH! and he thought 70% was too high! Lowered it to 50 then to 20. Wanted to laugh but anyway I told him to ask me that question again and I'll give him a straight yes or no. Bad move...it took him another 20 minutes to ask again. Okie people...so you know what I said right?

First Kiss:
Haha! You 'kaypo' bunch of people! Want to know sooo much about this right? I just knew it! But think I'm gonna dissappoint you guys. It's not the slurpy doggie kind. Just a simple peck but it took him quite some time too! *haha*

Okie, let me tell you something sweet about how it started. Well, Meyer's gentleman enough not to force his face into mine and get that first kiss. I was glad I found a guy who respects my decision *smiles* He asked my permission to kiss me on my lips but Baddie May said "No" so many times that it dragged for a month...I think. *haha* "Why I said No? Coz me don't know how to kiss!!! First time and so shy! *haha*" I told him one day. "Well, it's my first time too! So we can figure that out." he replied. But anyway, I was going to meet my Aunty Moi and Chloe at Plaza SIngapura one fine day. Meyer and I parted at Istana Park opposite Plaza Singapura. Before I go, he asked again. You know what he asked ya? I took quite some time to agree to it and wa la! Just a peck on the lips and I ran off. Is this story too simple for you guys! *haha* Girls, it's your first kiss =) don't give in so easily. *shakes head* Learn from me...say "No" =D

--------------------------------------- Our 4th Year together ---------------------------------
31st October 2002 - The day Meyer and I spent exactly four years together. I remember.....ar the beginning of the relationship, I wondered to myself several times if we could go that far. I would be a very lucky girl if my first relationship would last that long or even more.

There is never a night we do not call to talk over the phone (except of course when we're overseas. It's too expensive. Thrifty people Yes!!). After 4 years, it has become a habit that cannot be kicked. It'll be out of sync to just go to sleep without even saying just a "good night". I would feel soooooo uncomfortable if that should happen. And I just learnt that he felt the same way too - which is good news! *winks*

Learnt a lot of things together in these 4 years. Not just new sports or games but lessons in Life. It is important for a couple to go through tough times together to grow and learn.

People please learn this: Some people feel that when they are in a relationship, they sould still keep their options open - not too wide but just alright to have some backings. haha you know? when something should go wrong in their current relationship? To prevent yourself from getting hurt especially the ladies (emotional creatures). However, I feel that one should love unconditionally.

1) Learn to love with all your heart

2) Do not be afraid of getting terribly upset after being ditched. SO what? At least you've learnt what true love is by giving him/her your everything!! Hey...only your heart ar...if you think it's alright to give your EVERY SINGLE THING, then by all means. I can't stop you. haha. It's an individual thing.

3) Be satisfied with who you are with now.

You know? This other guy/girl may cross your path one day and you feel that he/she is so much better. Some say, "hmm this mango may taste sweeter than this one I'm having. Maybe I should try it" What if it turned out sour? You gave up something sweet for something sour which you think was sweeter? So do not take the risk! Be satisfied with your partner. Everybody has flaws. Do not take his/her flaws personally because your partner may be accepting the flaws in you.

Just think:

1) Could anyone love me as much as he/she does?

2) Has he/she tried to make me happy when I was sad?

3) has he/she mentioned that I am important to him/her?

Personally, I feel that even if I knew someone would love me and give me more than Meyer does, I would still choose this path I am walking now. Because the love I am receiving now is sufficient to cover the empty spots in my heart. Always be contented. We are not perfect but we love without complaining. ok ok sometimes I do. It's just a female thing to complain a little here and there. Men shouldn't take it personlly. Just take it as a way women de-stress ay?

Love your partner unconditionally. Everyone deserves that in a relationship.