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Are you a lucky man? Do you feel blessed by the Lord to have such a love for your wife as mentioned in the verse Ephesians 5:25? Has God blessed you with your soul mate; does she compliment you with everything she does? I tell you this; God doesn't make mistakes and she is a perfect wife chosen for you by God. Chosen by God, and not chosen by you. We are to love them in a way that pleases Him if we are to be blessed and not feel cursed. If you feel cursed then look to yourself for only you are to blame. Pray on a daily basis, on how, to love your wife like Christ loves the church. We must ask God for more creative ways to show our wives how much we love them. Jesus' love was without reserve. He gave up everything for the church, even His very life! His love was everlasting and given before anyone in the church loved Him. His love was not dependant upon our love for Him. (1 John 4:19) "We love Him because He first loved us."
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| Calling All Married Men
Sermon by Rev. Mark Vatcher Love your wife as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. (Ephesians 5:25) |
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| God created the very first marriage. He wants us to love our wives and to serve Him, He wants us to give ourselves sacrificially like Jesus did for us. Often times we fin ourselves too busy doing other things, to obey this cardinal command; husbands love your wife as Christ loves the Church. The Bible tells a husband is to love his wife as his own body. Let us take a moment to analyze what we do for our body and how we feel about it. I know you provide physical care for your body throughout the day. Much of your happiness is dependant upon the health of your body. A sick body distracts your mind and energies. When your body has a need or an urge, you are quick to take care of it. Even with sexual urges, the body quickly takes note, and God gives
us a desire, which should to be for our wife, to care of that need.
Likewise, a husband should care for his wife physically throughout the day, attending to her needs and providing for her financially. A husband should be so in tune, with his wife, that he should be able to sense the pain of an illness or rejoice in her health. A husband must learn all about what she needs, even her sexual desires, and move to meet those needs. Basically, whatever need or desire a wife may have, whether it is physical, spiritual, emotional, sexual, it is the husbands job to make sure those needs are met. No matter what sacrifices need to be made. The husband is commanded to give her his full attention and make every effort. In this way he can serve her and love her as he does his own body. Love your wife in the same way you love your body and yourself. (Ephesians 5:28-33) Be considerate as you live with your wife. (1st Peter 3:7) This is so important that the Bible says that if we neglect this command, our prayers will be hindered! Since the husband has authority over the wife, he must exercise this authority with extreme caution. Learn how to be considerate of your wife. If there are annoying habits that you are guilty of, quit them! Whether she needs to be treated like a lady and helped out of the car, or needs help carrying heavy items, do it! If she needs some time to herself to take a walk, sleep, or help with the house and family! Do It! Learn to serve your wife with all of your energy, by pouring your love into her, with all understanding and consideration. Pray for help to see the blind spots in your life, where you may be inconsiderate, of your lovely wife. Do not be harsh with your wife. (Colossians 3:19) Typically men are not the tender, nurturing, or sensitive ones in the marriage, men tend to lean towards harshness from time to time. When a wife is living her God-given lady role, she will be sensitive. Realize that harsh answers, angry looks, irritated tones of voice and impatience will deeply affect your sensitive wife. Do not be further annoyed by her sensitivities, but rejoice that she is a lady and is not like you! Don't be harsh with the precious gift God has given you. Your body belongs to your wife. (1st Corinthians 7:3-5) This passage is explicit that we are to use our bodies to please our wives sexually. We are NOT to deprive her of what she needs. Many women will never tell their husbands their needs in times of intimacy. Assume that she would like to be intimate and work diligently to please her, but not like a sex slave. Ironically many men are trapped in situations where their wives are not providing for their sexual needs. A wife�s desire to become intimate, with her husband will increase, when she feels loved though out the day. It is not all about you! Your goal when you and your wife share in the most intimate act a Christian husband and wife can have is to please her sexually. With much practice, sharing, and time you can learn to make your wife feel as good, if not better, than you feel during intimacy! Remember, love is something that is given, not taken. Rejoice in your wife. Let her breasts satisfy you. Be captivated with her. (Proverbs 5:18-19) No man should look at other women or pictures of other women when he has a wife whom he can gaze upon daily. �A wife should strive to keep their bodies as attractive as possible, but not letting the world dictate what attractive means.� A husband should become fully satisfied with his naked wife. He should let her breasts completely satisfy him in every way. No matter what the size or shape, if a man will let it happen, and ask God to help him, he can grow to truly find his wife's breasts to be the most attractive and sexy breasts in the entire world. This is the true spirit of being captivated with your wife. Just think how your wife will feel when she truly knows that you find her to be the most wildly attractive woman in the world and you are nuts for her physical body! Such a wife will feel sexy, attractive, and most of all, ladylike. We live in a very sinful and lustful world, so to detour other men from "lusting after" your wife in public places. (Proverbs 5:16) Encourage your wife to be very modest in public. Let her know it is alright for her to be erotic in private with you. A modest woman is a lady. There is much sin and temptation that results from women showing too much skin in public. Why show the world what should be for the eyes of their husband only? Just think of the pleasure of knowing that no one sees your wife's legs but you! When she wears a skimpy outfit for you, you see things that no one else ever does. You will be shocked at how this one maneuver will increase your feelings of masculinity and her feelings of femininity. Do not be captivated by other women (Proverbs 5:20). Finding other women attractive and looking at them will erode your own view of your wife. Hollywood and TV are the worst, turn from the nudity and look to your wife, I guarantee she will notice your efforts. If you do not, nothing good will come from looking at these harlots of the screen. You will be less satisfied with your wife and she will feel less special to you. And if you think you only look at women when she isn't around, you are mistaken. No man can build a habit of glances without subconsciously doing it in his wife's company. And she will notice. Remember to be captivated with your wife and no one else. She will feel like the Queen of the world and you will fall further in love with her. Praise your wife. (Proverbs 31:28-29) Tell her that she is special. Tell her that she is greater than any other woman on earth. Be specific. Don't just mention her physical beauty, but her care for you, her hard work, and her ladylike attributes. Watch the flower of your wife blossom as you repeatedly fill her ears with your praises. She longs for those words and she wants to hear them from you! Of course I am not trying to cultivate pride here, because we all recognize our utter sinfulness, but that does not obviate the woman's need and longing to be treasured. Tell your wife how captivated you are with her body (Song of Solomon 4:7; 7:1-8) A true lover will make sure that his wife knows that he finds NO FLAW in her. Men, if you find a certain part of your wife unattractive and she knows it, she will be embarrassed of that part and it is your responsibility to gradually undo the damage you have done here. Fall in love with every single part of her body like Solomon did with his betrothed. God made your wife. God makes no mistakes. If you find a part of her body flawed, then it is your mind that needs to be changed. This does not let the wives off the hook to let their bodies go to pot! But it puts the responsibility upon the man to grow to love every part of his wife and then to sensitively tell her how he feels. Think of how good she will feel when she truly believes that you are delighted with every part of her! Honor your marriage; keep it pure by remaining true to your wife in every way (Hebrews 13:4) Jesus says that lustful looks are adultery (Matthew 5:28). Keep your marriage pure by training your heart and eyes to be solidly true to your wife. Your marriage will reap huge benefits if you do! Be thankful for your wife and realize the favor you have received from God. (Proverbs 18:22) A wife is a blessing from God. Just think of how lonely you would be without a wife. Adam was alone and it wasn't good for him to be alone, so God gave him a wife. You have a lifetime companion, a friend, and a lover to enjoy every day. What a blessing! Thank God for her daily. Pray for her. She is a tremendous gift from God. Be "one flesh" with your wife in every way. (Matthew 19:5) Enjoy life with her as if you were inseparable. Do not do what most couples do and live together but lead separate lives. Long to be with her like you did when you first met. Rush home from work. Think about her during the day. Call her. Learn as a couple to agree on more and more issues. Be like minded. Enjoy intimacy very often which could be simply holding, hugging, and kissing. Spend a lot of time alone, just talking and sharing the day's events. Show a genuine interest in each other by listening intently, giving your full attention and eye contact. Your wife is more important than anything or anyone but Jesus Christ. Be one with your wife. Let us now pray brothers: Thank You Lord, I praise You for blessing me with such a precious gift. Truly I am not worthy, I ask You Lord to help me be the Husband that is like You. Help me be the leader, full of the love, compassion and patience for my wife like You Lord have for the Church. I give myself up to Your will Lord. Let it be through Your guidance that I become a better husband. Guide me to what is righteous in all my ways, and help me be the man that loves his wife like You Lord love the Church. In Your holy name I ask for this Lord. Amen. |
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| The apostle Peter emphasizes the need for a husband to understand his wife because she is a "weaker vessel." (1 Peter 3:7) "You husbands likewise, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with a weaker vessel, since she is a woman." Your wife wants you understand her and her needs. Your wife needs to feel safe, secure and protected. As her husband, it's up to you to provide that security. It may just be a simple physical gesture a woman's need for safe keeping, like putting your arm around her in a crowded public place. This little gesture makes her feel safe and protected. Like wise it must be a man's natural desire to protect his wife. (Ephesians 5:29) "After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church." remember husbands you are one flesh with your wife so says the Lord. READ ON> |
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