"Women want to get laid as much as men do. They just want it about 15 minutes later than we do. So hold out for 20 and she'll be chasing you for 5." –from the film, The Tao of Steve

It’s important to qualify a woman’s sexual interest and openness to sex as well as her conditions and time line for doing it. When you know where she stands you can act accordingly and not stab in the dark thinking she needs more touching, another meeting, or perhaps more sweet words whispered in her ear.

It’s important to have a strong frame and lead her using it. Don't think too much about making a move, just do it. Let your instincts take over. Don't look for signs. If she's sticking around with you or kissing you, THAT is the sign. If she's in bed with you, THAT is the sign. Once you see the above signs, do whatever it takes to have consensual sex with her. If she is not going to have sex that night, she’ll let you know firmly. Otherwise, seal the deal. But you'll never know unless you try.

Try to use ANTICIPATION to great effect. Get her hot and bothered, then pull back. Do something else to get her hot and bothered, then pull back. And just when you know that she's really enjoying what's going on (and it can be at any stage, kissing, etc.), just STOP. Then whisper in her ear "You want more, don't you?" (yes) "You're going to have to say PLEASE." Or if she says "Make love to me/fuck me", you respond "I’m not finished kissing you yet".

If you ever FORCE a woman into a sexual act against her will, you deserve to be thrown in jail and have the same thing done to you!!! When a woman gives you a firm NO, it means NO.

That being said, there’s a difference between a firm NO and "no…..I can’t……no……Make love to me!!!" This sort of weak, token resistance to sex is very common. Before we can understand it (known from here on as Last-Minute Resistance/LMR), we have to understand where it comes from.

To begin with, what is a SLUT? To a Christian lady I know, Britney Spears is a slut because she shows her cleavage. To another guy I know, ALL women are sluts (except the one he’s going to marry, of course). One woman I know (who’s had over 40 sexual partners so far and commonly has sex on first dates) considers a woman who cheats during a committed relationship a slut. And another woman I know thinks it’s "slutty" to have 3 or more sexual partners on rotation at one time (2 is okay though).

My point is that unless you adhere strictly to religious teachings, what constitutes deviant sexual behavior is a matter of opinion. The word "slut" is subjective to the point that it’s meaningless. Yet every woman fears being seen as a slut! With no defining point, it’s impossible for a woman to set defining standards for her sexual behavior, and she’s always in doubt about it. This end result impacts our ability to sex close a woman.

Not only does a woman not want to be seen as being a slut, she doesn’t want to see HERSELF as a slut either. Even when she’s alone with you, you’re bound to come against some resistance (though in some cases, TOKEN resistance) to sex, no matter how horny you’ve made her or how badly she might want you. The way to overcome that resistance is to give her an EXCUSE to have sex with you, something she can blame it on to take some "blame" off of herself. This is why a woman will have 2 beers and have sex with a stranger, then blame the beers for clouding her judgment. Or why a woman will backwards-rationalize a one-night stand, saying "Oh it was my cousin’s friend’s best friend’s bachelorette party so it was a special occasion". In other words, she finds something to excuse her behavior.

One VERY powerful technique to disarm resistance is to paint it as YOUR responsibility. Her anti-slut defenses could be disarmed by you claiming that it’s YOUR fault, and that she’s just helplessly giving in to the moment—and that it’s totally normal. Her excuse is—YOU!

Another technique is to actually AGREE to the resistance, de-escalate, then re-escalate again later when she’s more comfortable. For example, she moans "Noooo don’t touch me there…" and you say "You’re right, I shouldn’t be touching you there" and you take your hand away. Then you do other things to get her even more hot and bothered, and then you go to touch her there again, finding no resistance this time.

Another way to get through the resistance is to illustrate that it’s all in her head. Here’s PlayboyLA’s red light/green light routine for getting through resistance:

PB: You’re a study of opposites HB: What do you mean? I just don’t know you well enough yet… PB: Of course – but two people never really know each other – and besides, you and I both know that there’s part of you that wants one thing, and another part which wants another. HB: (Shrugs) Whatever PB, maybe so PB: There’s this, which clearly wants one thing (taking her hand – which had been jerking me off), there is this which wants the same thing (pointing to her tummy – meaning her emotions), and of course this, which clearly wants the same thing (touching her pussy, which was warm and wet)…but, then there’s the almighty THIS (pointing to her head)…which wants the opposite. (She giggles here) (So, I’m pacing her reality and showing a real understanding of her inner world). HB: (giggling) Yes, you’re right…

PB: You’re like a little car in stop and go traffic – so frustrating for the better drivers out there. It’s "Red light" (point to head) "green light" (point to hand) – "red light" (point to head) "green light" (point to tummy) – "red light" (point last time at head) "green light" (point to crotch, stay there…) This had her giggling, really at herself, so I re-escalate this time and each time she stops me I say "red light" and flick her head (slightly painful) while smiling, and each time she allows me to proceed I say "aaah, thank you for the green light"…this pacing and leading routine accompanied with reward/punish has worked a number of times for me.

One resistance tactic a woman is likely to use on you is the Time Concept: "I’ve only known you 2 days/1 month/whatever". For this you can run Style’s "No Expectations" routine:

"I don’t go into an interaction with expectations in mind… I dated a girl and we took 3 months to have sex. Another girl it was the first night, because it was immediately passionate. I liked both girls equally, because both just felt natural and didn’t try to veer things in one way or another."

If resistance is persistent and seemingly unbreakable, the important thing is to show real indifference to having sex with her. Women tend to validate their appeal through their sexual desirability, and when a woman knows a man wants to do her she’s fulfilled that need and knows she "has him". But when you at least act indifferent to actually sleeping with her, the only way she can validate her desirability is to sleep with you.

"Fine, you and I aren’t having sex. We’re going to be friends". MEAN IT. Don’t kiss her, cuddle with her. Just be cool like you would be with a guy friend. In this case if she has a strong need for validation she may backtrack and start pursuing YOU. Especially when you had this fun, flirty dynamic before her refusal—she’ll want the good times back.

"I'm not 16 anymore, and I don't like girls who are flaky and who don't have the guts to go after what they want.".

"You know, you can't always get what you want. You should be familiar with the territory"

"Sex is both parties abandoning themselves to the moment. You can’t abandon yourself in the moment if you still feel you need to protect yourself. That’s why TRUST is important. Do you trust me?"

"It’s good not to expect something to happen, and just let everything go the way it goes." Steal this frame before she does, if you need to.

At first these might look like mind games, and they are! But they’re not malicious. What you’re trying to do is NOT "trick" her into having sex with you; at that point she already WANTS to! What you’re trying to do is break down a couple decades’ worth of social programming that’s preventing her from seeking her own pleasure (and you’ll just happen to get some out of the deal too).

One thing: It’s important that once she’s comfortable, try not to change the location if at all possible. If she’s now comfortable in your car, your room, etc., try to seal the deal there. A change in location could make her lose the state she was in, the ASD could kick right back in, and you could lose control.

I hate to state the obvious, but unless you plan on fucking her in front of others, isolation is key. Get her somewhere secluded so that she doesn’t have to worry about people finding out.

After you’ve brought her to your place, go to the washroom. It gives her a chance to look at her surroundings, hear the music, look at the décor, etc. She’ll become more relaxed and comfortable in your environment.

"My expert opinion is that you have the perfect body for a night of wild love making."

"I have two bottles of champagne at home. One to drink and one to pour all over your body..."

You’re at her place, and she apologizes for her place being so messy "Hey, I'm a GUY. I'm not looking at the stuff on the floor, I just want to add the stuff you're wearing to the mess..."

"I'd love to take you home and do things that the Lord forbids."

"Why don't you surprise your roommate and not come home tonight?"

"Do you like having your neck bit? (Why) Because right now all I want to do is bite your neck."

"Personally I think between YOUR dirty mind and MY dirty mind, we’d make a WICKED team…"

"I really love smart women…I think they’re more fun, they’re sexier, they’re better in bed… A smart woman would never turn her back on a good thing… Unless it’s for a MASSAGE!"

"What are we gonna do? Well we can play the ALPHABET game! You don't know what that is? Keep it that way, it'll corrupt you." (Get her to beg before you explain) "Ok, the alphabet game is a game you play with a naked woman. You lay her on her back, spread her legs, and then draw the entire alphabet on her sex with your tongue."

"Do you know the difference between a hamburger and a blow job? You don't? Well in that case, do you wanna have lunch together?"

Asks question: "I'll tell you later in bed."

"I think I could fall madly in bed with you."

"It would be dangerous for us to get involved anyway. What if we really HIT IT OFF and get married and have kids? Then in a few years we could get divorced, and the kids would be caught in the middle! So I think it’s in the best interests of the children that we keep any relationship between us purely SEXUAL. THINK OF THE KIDS, (her name)! THINK OF THE KIDS!"

"I think it’s important for a girl like you to have someone keeping her "happy". It’s tough, you know…CELIBACY IS A HANDS-ON JOB! I know it's not easy!"

"I’m MAD at you. Let’s get into a HUGE argument." (Why??) "So we can have INCREDIBLE make-up sex after." (heehee) "Actually, we don’t have to have an argument for that."

On a date, look right at her, and say, "You know at this point in the evening, I know there's some guys who would lean forward, look right at you and say, "I'd like to take you home right now, and fuck you like you've never ever had it before!" Now, IF she lights up, her pupils dilate, and she maybe even says, "YEAH!", then you know what to do! If she looks put off or upset you say, "But I know YOU require a much more sensitive, and subtle approach from me."

"I want to lay you down and kiss you from head to toe and back up again".

"I want to explore every inch of your body with my hands and lips. I'm intoxicated with just the thought of being with you, emotionally and physically. If I was alone with you right now, I'd just want to melt right into you..."

"I have some questions for you". (Go ahead) "How long has it been since you had an incredible massage? Since a man licked your neck and your whole body trembled? Since you felt a man's saliva on your clitoris?" (answer) "Come with me and we'll shorten that time considerably".

In cases where she’s already "seeing" (fucking) someone else, you can use standard boyfriend destroyers from the Find/Open section, or one of the following.

"Oh that’s too bad, I feel bad for you…" (Why?) "Cause while that guy’s reading the sports page, I’m reading a book on how to give a woman a a better orgasm…or Sex Games. But that’s okay, stay with what you’ve got…"

"Does he satisfy your needs all the time, or only when he senses YOU'RE BORED WITH HIM?"

"Thank you for sharing your body with me." (for emotional women, don't use this with a party girl or fuck friend)

"That was so good I think my neighbours need a cigarette".

"You made a good impression on me...Your claw-marks on my back!"

Ejecting comes from fighter pilot lingo, and means to escape from a crash and burn. Another term for ejecting is "Null Closing", closing your interaction with the woman or set without achieving any real objective.

Don’t linger! End the interaction on a high note and eject if a sex close isn’t likely. This leaves a possibility for future interaction, whereas if you wear out your welcome the bored woman will eject you herself (not good). You also demonstrate that you’re not desperate and have other things to do with your life. Besides, you may have better luck with the next one! Here's an example ejection phrase suggested by Mystery for use in a club/bar situation: "The night is young... pleasure meeting you". If you strike out, say "It's been a real pleasure meeting you". Say it like you really mean it - in a friendly, respectful, yet empathic manner. This way you'll set yourself apart from all the losers who leave mumbling "bitches, they're all the same…" You'll remain cool, confident, a gentleman in good humor. And she'll feel crappy after realizing SHE just lost YOU! Or if she has simply ignored you, add "...didn't realize you were deaf"