If you’ve done a lousy job of attracting a woman, or maybe you did great for a while and then slacked off and got boring, you’ll probably hear this suggestion from her sooner or later: "Let’s just be friends".

If a girl ever blocks advancing the relationship by popping that dreaded phrase, say "No thanks, I have enough friends." By continuing this type of relationship, you portray yourself as someone who has nothing better to do than hang around with a girl who is not that interested in you. The relationship will never get to where you want to go—to bed for some romance, passion, and sex.

A flattering rejection of her offer: "I don't view you as a friend. I view you as a woman - a very sensual and intelligent woman. And I won't apologize for that. If you're gonna make me another one of your girlfriends, I'm not interested".

If you walk away from such a relationship, you've established that you're the type used to leading a relationship, you have plenty of other girls willing to take you on your terms, and she's losing out. Often a man will completely turn around the relationship as soon as a girl sees that he's willing to "walk" rather than accept something that's not on his terms.

When do you give up on a girl? When do you decide that a relationship isn't advancing? When you're the only one making an effort to keep it advancing. If she is not putting energy in to you, take the hint and move on to the next prospect. Don't stay where you're not appreciated. If this situation does occur, try to figure out why. How did she perceive you? What turned her off? Learn from your mistakes.

Another tactic, if you can see that you're approaching LJBF-land with a girl: Completely and totally cut off all contact with her for a few months. When you come back, you can almost start from scratch. You’ll be more of a stranger, and less of a "close friend".

If you decide to keep her as a friend, make sure it's on YOUR terms. Tell her that you're going to treat her like one of the fellas, that she's gonna help you meet women, and that you're going to meet other women in front of her. If she refuses, say: "Ok, fine... but I offered you my time sexually, then I offered you my time NON-sexually... you just turned down BOTH... WHAT DID YOU WANT TO MEET ME FOR?"

"FINE...then be a good FRIEND and hook me up with some of your horny friends."

At what point do you decide that it’s time to advance the interaction, and phase-shift to qualifying her? A good rule of thumb is to advance once you’ve received THREE positive indicators of interest (IOIs). An IOI can be anything that signals attraction, like a shit-test, touching you, lingering eye contact, positive statements of intent (SOI), that doggie dinner-bowl look (DDB), advancing role-plays on her own, qualifying herself to you, primping, etc.

Most of the time it’ll be pretty obvious, through body language/touching, tonality, and mannerisms, that she’s attracted to you. If you’ve REALLY done a good job attracting her, she’ll actually be at the point where she’s the one chasing YOU. This is called the HOOK POINT.

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