A wingman, in fighter pilot lingo, is someone who covers your ass. In pick-up, it signifies a partner who helps you open sets, disarms obstacles, blocks potential cockblocks, and distracts the friends while you game the target. You can have more than one wingman in your group, but ideally you’ll have one good PUA. More is not always better. For example, if you had 3 wingmen with you then opening a 4-set would be perfect at first glance. But let’s say your target turns out to be a total dud! You can’t switch your attention to anyone else in the set, so you’re stuck—there’s less flexibility. 2 PUAs with decent skills can usually keep a typical set occupied.

WINGMAN ETIQUETTE

NEVER:

-Take your wingman’s girl after he’s gamed her

-Move in on your wingman’s target

-Blow your wingman’s game by pointing out something negative about him or belittling him

ALWAYS:

-Talk strategy before a night out

-Decide beforehand who gets which target. If his sarge starts to go bad and his target begins to get cold to him, decide at what point you can move in.

-Let the man who opened a set target the hottest HB of the set, and lead the interaction.

-Talk up your wingman to a set (this guy is CRAZY sometimes, he’s a lot of fun, etc). You REALLY have to do this, make him seem like the coolest guy in the world. Laugh at every joke he tells, within reason.

-Agree on signals for:

1. • Telling your wingman to enter the set if you’re having trouble handling it alone
2. • ejecting from a set if either one senses it’s a bad idea to continue (your wingman finds our they’re both married for example)
3. • showing your wingman which HB is your target when in set (if she’s 3^{rd from the left for example, hold up 3 fingers while scratching your ear)}
4. • showing your wingman when a girl’s buying temperature is going up and you plan to isolate her soon (the wingman can then start saying things to her friends like "Hey, let’s go over here for a second", leaving you to game the target)

-Realize it’s expected that you’re going to have to "jump on the grenade" and occasionally get stuck with the "warpig" while your wingman games a hot target. Expect him to return the favour later! If he doesn’t, find another wingman.

PIVOTS

A "pivot" is a female wingman, a "wingwoman" of sorts. The term pivot comes from your wingwoman opening a set or befriending a woman, and as she gets involved in convo you "pivot" around her and into set for her to introduce you.

If you can find a sociable female friend willing to be a pivot, your chances of success increase dramatically. Women will be less suspicious if a woman opens them, and then she can introduce you as a friend. This also gives the target a way around ASD (anti-slut defense) in that she can tell people she met you through a friend, instead of "he picked me up at a bar/on the street/whatever."

Pivots also provide SOCIAL PROOF. Social proof is the implication of a position of high social status. The better-looking the pivot, the higher your social proof will be. If your pivot is a solid 10, every woman will imagine you really must have something going for you to be in her company, and she’ll want to know what that is. She "proves your social worthiness". Pivots don’t necessarily have to be perfect 10s to be useful for social proof. Because a lot of women have a low self-image, a 10 may perceive herself as a 7 or an 8, so if your pivot is at least mildly attractive she should suit the purpose in most cases. Also, because of hot women’s competitiveness, they may not be receptive to being opened by a 10-pivot.

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