5. Opening The most important principle in opening is to follow the "3-seconds rule" at all times. This basically means as soon as you see a woman you want to meet, within 3 SECONDS you move in and open her. This has two very powerful benefits: In 3 seconds you don’t have time to get nervous. Most guys hesitate and talk themselves out of opening a woman because their insecurities take over. Even if they actually manage to kick their own asses to go and approach, by that time they’re so nervous from over-thinking it that they’ll probably blow the interaction. If you approach in 3 seconds, the hard part is over before you even have a chance to make excuses, and you’ll avoid becoming sweaty, nervous, etc. If a woman sees you hesitating to approach her, you’ll look insecure and you’ll lose value in her eyes. By moving in within 3 seconds, you look confident and show no hesitation. The downside of the 3-seconds rule is that it leaves you very little time to think of an opener. This is why it’s important to have an arsenal of all-purpose openers committed to memory (opinion openers are best for this). Another way around this is to enter a venue looking for openers rather than looking for targets. This way by the time you start looking for targets to approach, you already have an opener or two in mind that would suit the situation or venue. Approach Invitation (AI) Approach Invitation is any indication that a woman has a desire for you to open her. Flirting, maintained eye contact, looking at you and then giggling to her girlfriends, etc. Approach invitation isn’t always necessary for a successful approach, so don’t wait for it. But having it certainly beats a cold approach. Your odds are much better when you approach a woman who gave you AI. "Proximity AI" is when a woman moves herself within easy opening distance of you. For example, the entire bus could be empty, but she takes the seat across from you. This is the closest you’ll usually get to a woman opening you. A woman who wants you to open her will put herself in a spot where you’ll notice her, and she’s easily accessible. Opening Body Language COLD APPROACHES: You spot a chick you want. Now the most important thing is how you FACE her. You roll up sideways or diagonally, and you don't face her UNTIL she is facing YOU. That means if she’s turned totally away from you, you literally TURN YOUR NECK ENTIRELY BACKWARDS while you talk, and ONLY turn when she turns. Then, as she says stuff that she PERCEIVES as you being impressed by, you THEN turn to face her. This causes her to have the perception that 1) you aren’t needy/desperate/lame 2) she said something WORTH you staying. Give her the impression that you're only staying to talk because SHE said something that interested you to stay. Again, do this by ONLY turning once she is turning FIRST. The only exception is doing little tests, like turning quickly towards her, to SEE if she'll BITE and turn herself. On eye contact/"Warm" approaches (with AI): Real pick-up artists never stare. They lock eye contact. There’s a difference between staring and locking eye contact. When you look at a woman, here is what you do. Lock eye contact with her. Don't blink. Don't look at her friend. Pick one eye and don't let go. You only get one chance at this. Don't give up. Don't smile. Don't say anything. You’re telling her that you’re interested in her and you’re not intimidated by her. Then leave it up to her. You will be amazed at the staring capability that women posses. If she smiles, you smile. If she says Hi, you say Hi. Then you reward her and make your move. You must learn to keep eye contact until SHE breaks it. Avoid "Hen Pecking", leaning just your head in to hear a woman talk while your body stays square. Move your body into it and get close. Tall and/or built guys need to be more on the side, hip-to-hip rather than facing to avoid intimidating the girl. Introducing Yourself When first meeting a woman, don’t introduce yourself to her or ask her name. Either one communicates eager interest, which you shouldn’t do right away. Instead, wait for HER to ask your name or introduce herself to you, then say: "It's a pleasure for you to meet me, (name)" (While shaking hand) Only THEN give YOUR name. If she’s asking you your name, it’s an indicator of interest and an attempt to build rapport—a good thing!
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