| Relationship Stuff |
| Following you will find some things about me and relationships. I take a relationship very seriously. You only get from it what you put in it. I hope none of the following things offend you - if they do please feel free to discuss any concerns with me; once again they are only my feelings. |
| One. First and foremost, love each other. Realize how lucky you are to be in love with someone who loves you. Say "I love you" often and in different ways. Surprise each other with little thoughts and gestures of praise to show your love. Remember that love grows in an atmosphere of freedom and trust, not from restraint and obligations. Do things to keep our love and romance new and alive. Don't take love for granted, ever. It's such a blessing. Two. Listen objectively to each other, as you would to a friend. Acceptance is a key to understanding and a buffer for tension and resentment. Don't take things personally; give each other the right to have different opinions, the right to disagree. You don't want anyone to control your feelings, so don't try to own someone else's, not even the feelings of the one you love. Three. Never stop treating each other like sweethearts. Talk to each other as sweethearts. Do things that sweethearts do. Share the chores around the house. Work together in achieving your goals. Do things just to make the other one feel loved, especially when he or she might be feeling a little down. Take pride in the way you look and act, for yourself and for your partner, but never let external values have more importance than the internal feelings of your heart. Four. Take care of each other. Go to the doctor with each other. Put the other one first, but don't neglect your own needs either. Do the things that show that you're interested in your partner's needs and desires and problems. Five. Look to each other for help. Don't let your problems or conerns get out of hand and make you go in opposite directions. Be joyful that you've each made a committment to the other... through sickness or health, poverty or wealth, or whatever comes along. You're in this life together. Be thankful. Six. Talk about things together the way you would talk to a friend. Absolutely refuse to say anything negative about your partner. Share your most important secrets, and never betray the secrets of your partner; treat them as almost sacred. Keep your own identity, but walk together as one. Don't ever give up on your love. Seven. Settle the fact that you've made your choice and you're no longer looking for anyone else. Don't flirt. Think of the consequences. Don't consider it. Eight. Be in agreement about how your money is spent. Big items should have the approval of both. Talk about how to manage your finances. Nine. When in doubt about your actions, ask yourself how you would want to be treated and then act accordinly. If you've argued, never go to sleep without asking the other's forgivesness, even when you don't feel like it or want to. Be faithful about this; you won't be sorry. Do what will make you both the happiest in the long run and be the best for your relationship. Ten. Have fun. (I could not have said it better myself) {Copyright of Donna Fargo and Blue Mountain Arts - Occasion Gallerie} |
| 10 Golden Rules for Staying Happy with the One You Love |
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| I feel that children should respect their parents. If one parent says no to something requested - do not go to the other parent (to get a better deal). Both parents should back each other up. Unless there is a safety reason or something to that serious nature. |
| Children: What a lovely thought |
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| The right to good will from the other. The right to emotional support. The right to be heard by the other and to be responded to with courtesy. The right to have your own view, even if your mate has a different view. The right to have your feelings and experience acknowledged as real. The right to receive a sincere apology of any jokes you find offensive. The right to clear and informative answers to questions that concern what is legitimately your business. The right to live free from accusation and blame. The right to live free from criticism and judgment. The right to have your work and your interests spoken of with respect. The right to encouragement. The right to live free from emotional and physical threat. The right to live free from angry outbursts and rage. The right to be called by no name that devalues you. The right to be respectfully asked rather than ordered. |
| Basic Rights to Expect in a Relationship |