| Disclaimer: This article is about sexual morality from my own personal opinion. I may chastise extreme sexual promiscuouty (probably spelled that wrong...) but I do applaud the women who are able to say what they are without guilt or apologies (if you don't understand what I mean, then Samantha from Sex and the City would be a good general example). A person who is true to themselves is one to be respected. I just greatly dislike the women who put on a front and pretend they're virgins instead of the exact opposite.
-- I picked up my sister's Elle magazine and decided to read the interview between an unfortunate Elle interviewer and Lindsay Lohan. I thought maybe I would give the girl some credit and see if she was filled with any sort of substance whatsoever. Not to my surprise, she was not. In fact I was even more uninpressed at the ending than I was at the start, and all I could think to myself was "God, what a tragic wasteland of materialism and 8th grade bullshit Hollywood has come to." She could give no interesting answer or inspirational message... she just kept interrupting her interviewer and blabbing about the nosense between her and Paris Hilton. Then the nonsense about her boobs and weight. Then about how her goal was to be a "pinup"... but is this just Hollywood? Are all women caught up in shallow goals, gossip about others, and who is dating who and who is fucking what? How many girls these days are "hooking up" with a variety of guys they aren't even dating? How many of you are fucking without even the slightest bit of love at heart? What happend to the first glace... the first nice words... the first kiss? Nothing is sacred anymore at all. I recently had a girl tell me she was a "good girl" because she's only had sex with one guy, however she's looking for whatever she can get and I don't mean in a relationship sense. Just because you aren't fucking anything with a pulse doesn't mean your a good girl. Just because Carrie and Miranda and Charlotte have sex on the third, second, or even first date doesn't mean you need to. Don't follow their standards... reserve your body for someone who will appreciate it. Obviously some of you need to appreciate your own body a little more. Try waiting a month or two with someone you're exclusive with. It cuts down on bullshit, STD's, and heartbreak. I always say my body is a temple, and whoever enters it better damn well worship it before they even approach the steps. However, I am a sexual person. Any of you who are close to me know the numerous paintings and drawings I've done of nude and provocative people... but I save my intimacies for people I care about. The most intense intimacies I save for those that I love, because sharing those moments with them are moments that I will love and remember forever. It's a way to be closer, mentally, emotionally, and physically, with someone who you've already established a connection with. Now, there is a difference between being sexy, sexual, and sleazy. A girl who may become attached to numerous guys and genuinely care for them may have a high "number" (as we like to say) but isn't a sleaze. If you're dating or going out with a person you like/love, then nobody will blame you for sharing such intimate moments with them. Being sexual with them is a beautiful thing. Being "sexual" is feeling that beautiful flow... that movement... and intimacy. Being "sexy" is what every girl wants to feel; it's a bit narcissistic but of course we are all like that. Being "sleazy" is just having someone violate you however they wish just to boost your dying self-esteem or win over some guy because you don't think he likes your personality. Get over yourselves. Stop dressing like whores so some asshole can cat-call you. And if you're one of the few who dress to impress with sexy class just so you can feel beautiful, good for you. Be sexy for you. Be proud of your body but for God sakes keep at least 60% of it covered and reserved for the bedroom. I know that a lot of you won't understand this. Hell, I'll be surprised if anybody even reads this far. I'm sure the lot of you will brush it off and say "this is a bunch of bullshit", but nomatter. I just want you to understand that despite everything you hear, read, and perceive, know that self-appreciation and morals will reward you in the end. Wait for those who truly care for you. Don't buy into lines. Don't make excuses for someone who you know, deep down, iisn't right for you. Be treated like a queen, not a hooker. Don't ever be taken advantage of, and don't take advantage of others. Just... be a good person in all that you do. Oh, and a side note... "Laguna Beach" is a bunch of shit and anybody who idolizes girls who act like 8th grade drama never left should really rethink their priorities. |