DEAR SON...

This Short Talk Bulletin was inspired by two sentences contained in 
an extensive report to the Grand
Master in Texas in 1978 by the Grand Lodge Printing Committee. We 
thank Right Worshipful
Brother Furman Vinson, P.G.M., Texas, for sharing this report with 
us.

"There is reason to believe that the family relationship is a weak 
link in the process that induces young men to seek Light within 
Freemasonry. Masons who attend lodge fifty or sixty times a year in 
addition to other Masonic organizations, are officers, or are engaged 
in a lot of committee work which take them away from their families, 
may be setting examples their sons do not wish to follow. "

It was not a pleasure trip for Jim. He had just flown half way across 
the country on a variety of air lines, and was now driving a rental 
car into the little town where he had been born and where he had 
grown up. It had been several years since he had been to his 
hometown. Many changes had taken place. Mentally, Jim was making note 
of the changes.

There was a new wing on the old school from which he had graduated so 
many years ago .... a filling station where the old feed store used 
to be .... a motel sprawled across the field where he used to play 
baseball .... a municipal parking lot with parking meters had 
replaced the movie hall .... and there was a fancy new hardware store 
next to the old drug store in the Masonic temple. Jim continued 
driving slowly through the center of town to an impressive turn-of-
the-century white house with its manicured lawn. A dignified sign 
identified the house as "Goode Funeral Home--Benjamin A. Goode, 
Funeral
Director." Parking the car, Jim took a deep breath, walked to the 
door and rang the bell. Answering the melodic chimes was a man with a 
full head of snow-white hair which accentuated his red face and 
penetrating eyes. Jim remembered Mr. Goode as one of his father's 
best friends, and was expecting him to be long-faced and distraut 
over his father's death.

Instead, Ben Goode was jovial and seemed genuinely glad to see Jim, 
greeting him with a hearty smile and firm handclasp. "Jim, you've 
grown a foot at least since I last saw you. C'mon into the kitchen 
and let's have a cup of coffee and a gab fest." One cup led to 
another as Jim told Mr. Goode of his stint with the Marines in Viet 
Nam, his college days and his struggles in the business world. And, 
of course, he bragged about the fact that his wife was about to 
present him with their first child.

That was when Mr. Goode first mentioned Jim's father. "I remember the 
night when you were born. Your Dad was about the proudest father I 
ever saw. He came right from the hospital to the Lodge Hall bragging 
that Martha had just given birth to the future Master of Glenview 
Lodge. After the work that
night, your Dad went down to the drug store and bought a box of the 
best 25c cigars they had and passed 'em around during refreshment."

Jim squirmed a bit in his chair and mumbled something about hadn't 
they better talk about arrangements for the funeral. "Nope!" Ben 
said, "When your Dad was Master of the Lodge, he planned every detail 
of every meeting .... and they always went off without a hitch. His 
funeral will, too, 'cause he planned it all. Reverend Shuter, who was 
Grand Chaplain a couple of years back, will
conduct the service here at the Home; Ole Johnson, the Lodge Organist 
will play the music; the Pall Bearers are all Past Masters and the 
Graveside Service will be conducted by Bill Avery, the District 
Deputy, and the boys from the Lodge. You don't have to worry about a 
thing. "

Before leaving the funeral home, Jim looked in where his father's 
body rested in the coffin surrounded by mounds of flowers. Dad looked 
natural and at peace. The Past Master's jewel on his coat lapel 
glistened. Jim closed his eyes and offered a silent prayer.

As he said goodnight to his father's old friend, Ben Goode handed Jim 
an envelope. "Special delivery," he said. "Your Dad gave this to me a 
couple of weeks ago. Said he didn't trust the Post Office."

Once in his motel room, Jim took the envelope out of his pocket. In 
bold letters across the face of it, his father had written, "James 
Arthur Mastain." Inside the envelope were five pages of a hand 
written letter in the clear, though shaky, handwriting of his father. 
He read:

"Dear Son:

Don't grieve for me. While the end of my mortal life draws near, I 
eagerly look forward to my journey to that undiscovered country from 
whose bourne no traveller returns.

I have lived a full, rich life. The good Lord has blessed me with his 
bounty. Until this past year, I have
had excellent health. Your mother and I had forty-seven years of 
mutual trust, understanding and love, before she went to her eternal 
rest. We were truly blessed when you came into our lives. We tried to 
give you the best of everything. We gloried in your accomplishments 
and shared your troubles. You are now a man, though you'll always be 
my little boy. You served your country well, and you are well on your 
way to becoming a successful business man. I'm proud of you, son, and 
am sorry I will not get to see my grand-child.

As I explained to you when you came back from Viet Nam, I could never 
ask you to become a Mason,
that it must be your desire to become one. I'm hoping that some day 
you will decide to become part of that Universal Brotherhood which 
has been such a major factor in my life.

Last night, in an effort to take my mind off my physical discomfort, 
I recited every bit of Masonic ritual I could remember, and mentally 
checked off how I had put into practice the tenets and teachings of 
Freemasonry. For the most part, I think I have been a true Man and 
Mason.

Masonry has made me a better man. It has brought me close to my 
religious teachings. It has made me a better person, a better husband 
and made me feel closer to Almighty God. I have enjoyed the 
fellowship of my Brothers and shared in their concern for our 
fellowman.

There are some definite duties that a man owes to his God, his 
country, his family, his neighbor, and to himself. The one area in 
which I failed was in my duties to the family. When you were growing 
up, you must have thought there was nothing else in my life but 
Masonry. I realize now that I was over-zealous in my lodge 
activities--Lodge meetings, visitations, rehearsals, committees, 
study groups,
candidate instruction.

I can't help wondering if that is why you never asked for a petition. 
It just may be that I gave you the wrong impression--that it was all 
work--that the duties of a Mason were too time consuming. One of the 
lessons in the ritual is that we should never let our zeal for the 
institution interfere with our usual vocations. I guess you might say 
that that's a lesson I learned--too late.

Son, my inevitable meeting with death is near, but my journey leads 
to the Everlasting Habitation of ourcreator. I ask that you think on 
these things.

Be a good man, a faithful husband, a loving and understanding father, 
true to the faith of your acceptance, and a good citizen. While these 
are the

teachings of Freemasonry, they are attributes of a real man.

Your loving Father. "

Jim read the letter over and over. He recalled those high school days 
when Dad couldn't attend the school play in which he had the lead 
because it was "Official Visitation." He remembered the time when he 
wanted to get some paternal advice, only to find that "Dad's gone to 
a meeting. " He smiled as he remembered one time when they were in 
church. When the minister closed his prayer with "Amen," Dad had 
automatically boomed, "So Mote it be."

Yes, he thought, I guess I have been "turned off" on the Masons. And, 
I guess it was because Dad worked so hard at it. I never knew much 
about it, but did know that it took a lot of work and a lot of time. 
I guess I just didn't want to get involved.

It was a big funeral. Ben Goode bustled around seeing that everyone 
was seated just so. The Masons all sat together. Jim couldn't help 
but think that they were here paying their respects to a Brother 
Mason, a friend and a man. Everything went off just as Ben Goode had 
said it would..."without a hitch" -- just as Dad had planned it.

Returning from the graveside service Jim thought, "What a great bunch 
of guys. Everyone of them had been influenced by Dad. They really 
loved him. What a close-knit group they are. There must be something 
to their talk about "immortality." They really make me feel that Dad 
isn't dead--he's just gone on a trip to a better life.

As they drove up to the Funeral Home, Mrs. Goode came out to meet 
them. "Jim," she said, "the hospital just called. Beth and your SON 
are both fine." Jim broke into a wide grin. "Ben," he said, "Let's go 
down to the drug store and get some of those 25c cigars. The boys at 
the lodge might like to know about the future Worshipful Master."

All names, places, events and lodges mentioned in this Bulletin are 
fictional. Any relationship to actual events is purely intentional. 
And, as this is fiction, you can be sure that in subsequent weeks, 
Jim Mastain ''saw the Light. "


