Pisses me off that people
have to find
something about someone
they don’t like
and embellish on it.
I’ll keep these
examples as anonymous
as possible.
[if you know
me, you might be able to
guess who they are]
A girl doesn’t like
her friend’s boyfriend.
At first
purely because of personality
but then
she starts to attack
his looks. I
told her she was being
a bit
petty for that, and
she said that it was shallow but it was easier
to attack looks than
personality. What is this? Fine if you don’t
like him, but who cares
what you think about his looks? You’re
not going out with him.
Another example, a guy [with a
girlfriend, although
she wasn’t present] comes to a gathering of
people. There
is a girl there who finds him unattractive and
makes a fuss over this.
Not to his face, but the group is small –
about 10ish people and
so he would easily overhear. Who cares
if he’s unattractive
to her? He’s not coming on to her, they don’t
even speak to each other.
Why must people bring up stuff like
this that is totally
irrelevant? I said this to her and her defence
was ‘but he is ugly,
what do you find him cute?’ How do things
turn back like this
onto me? I don’t get it. Nah it’s not that bad
it doesn’t happen often.
I suppose I try to surround myself with
people that are less
shallow than that.
Seeing the superficiality
of others has made me stop when I
think like that.
When someone puts on weight I don’t even
notice, it’s like I’ve
taught myself not to notice. But recently I
saw someone I hadn’t
seen in awhile, didn’t notice anything and
then someone pointed
out that they had gained weight. Then I
saw them again a few
days later and I noticed. And I couldn’t
stop thinking about
how I couldn’t have. It sounds mean, but
others things, I’m normally
quite observant in. Actually I take
that back, at times
I can be observant, other times things just fly
past me,