I say just live and let
live on this
topic. If suddenly
the whole world
decided that being a
heterosexual
induvidual was not the
done thing, [this
is assuming that you
are heterosexual]
how would you like to
be abused for
your preferences? I
have just one
qualm on this issue.
What we are
seeing a lot these days,
is young
people coming out, often
in their
school years where they’re
still growing up and often need approval and support from friends.
A female may come out
and tell her female friend that she is
lesbian, and suddenly
the friend backs up and thinks ‘wholly shit
she’s lesbian, she must
be into me’. Not all homosexuals are after
your sexy ass, and if
they were well, they’d understand more than
others would if they
weren’t your type. I dunno, people
suddenly dropping their
friends for being gay I just don’t understand. That's like saying that
a requirement of a friend is someone that is hetero. I talked to
one of my friends about this and we thought
that maybe they get
into this big freaked out thing that maybe
they would one day be
confronted with unwanted attention and have
to deal with it.
But is really worth losing a friendship when your
friend will probably
need your support now more than ever? You could always make it clear
from the beginning that you’re straight. That’s another point. Perhaps
the reason people get freaked out is that when someone close to them
changes their sexual inclination it makes them question their own. And
they’re afraid of what they might find.
The idea of the norm
– heterosexual lifestyle seems to show a
prejudice I feel is
limiting what could be many great, beautiful
and satisfying relationships.
It’s hard for me to write this without
giving off the impression
that I’m bi-sexual [although it shouldn’t
affect things even if
I were apart from the reaction I may get as I
mentioned above].
If I said that it would never happen is just
plain ignorant and totally
hypocritical to the point I’m trying to get
to. Anyway, it
seems that bi-sexual people have it sussed. Love
someone sexually when
and if you find an attraction to them. Or maybe
bis are just plain greedy?
Heterosexuality just forms a barrier saying sorry, I may love you or find
you attractive, but because of my chosen lifestyle there will never be
a relationship. The same goes for
homosexual individuals,
but possibly more so, since they have had a stage in their lives where
they explored the alternative sexuality.
I think watching ‘Chasing
Amy’ kinda made me think about this.
For those of you unfamiliar
with this movie, it’s about a guy that
falls in love with lesbian
chick [with a slutty reputation from high
school (with guys)]-
both in their 20’s. The point of her
conversion is because
she didn’t want to rule out females in case
her soulmate was one,
and then she would go her whole life
without being completely
fulfilled just because of her prejudice.
Until she realises that
she has again limited herself because this
guy pursuing her may
just be her soulmate. So, in limiting
ourselves, we are potentially
missing out on great relationships,
and focusing on others
just because the partner may be of the
‘right’ gender.